I Dont Know What To Do

[Hoysala VeerabALLA]

There is this girl in my class called Aly.She is Pretty,Intelligent and Spirirtual,Which Fits my Ideal Long term Girlfriend Qualities.We started talking around One month ago.In the beginning,I used The concept Of One date on her within the class-When we sat next to each other for college Activity.I used Arousal,Connection and Only a little Complaince.I was never too heavy on compliance with her.Anyway,After the first week of casually talking to each other in the class,I failed to ask her out and move the courtship forward.So,I kinda sensed her to loose Interest in me.So,I lost my hopes and Just minded my own business in class for a while.I started to improve my fundamentals,My dressing,My confidence,etc and within another week I kinda Sensed her to activate more Interest in me.And I started to lightly tease her again in class,Just casually and She seemed okay with it.I have been meaning to escalate and ask her on some cofee-But i just havent built up the compliance yet.I kinda feel like Asking her out to coffee would be a huge complaince jump from her.I want her to pass though smaller tinier compliance ladder so she climbs it with comfort and ease.I dont know how to do that..It seems Unfamiliar to me.I am also searching for an oppunrtunity to ask her out-Maybe wait till we are in conversation and She shows Interest and Excitement,And as A reward for her Interest,Suggest To get a Coffee?How does my Plan sound,Friends?


I dont want to fumble this Girl-I can handled fumbling other girls I have mentioned in my previous post,because they arent as High quality as this girl.This Girl is High quality-Is pretty,Kind,Academically Top,And has an Interesting personality-She knows 5 Languages,Volunteers,IS highly Spiritual(Which I value).

 

[Rakehell]

Your plan sounds fine, you just have to do something. The concept of not wanting to screw up with this one particular girl is something I can’t wrap my head around.

She might be engaged, she might be a lesbian, she might be leaving the country next week. You can’t pussy-foot escalating it further based on not wanting to lose something you already don’t have.

There is no magic sequence of pre-planning that you can do that’ll guarantee you will succeed, or calculate any of her real time responses. Or change how able you are to handle it in the moment.

Building it up in your head will only heighten the chances that you go in with the wrong energy.

Do something, use your instincts, and come back to the drawing board after you have something concrete. Talk to other girls too, don’t bank everything on her.

There are plenty of girls just like how you describe her.

 

[Rakehell]

You have to be willing to lose her to get her