"I don't want you to think i'm a slut" - how to respond?

[NaturallySmooth]

This weekend I brought back a girl who was clearly really into me, but kept repeating this over and over again which lead to some LMR. Even though I overcame this LMR in the end and we had some great sex, I don't know if I did it the right way

When she kept saying this, all I could think of to say was, "i don't think you're a slut, i just think that you are really into me and i'm into you" or something along those lines.

Is there a better way to handle the situation or did I do ok?

thanks guys - happy sunday

 

[Eric]

Hard to say,

Usually LMR is a result of other underlying problems. Qualifying her here would just be a quick fix to the problem, and it'll keep coming back in your seductions. It's an obvious sign that a girl really likes you when she throws stuff out like that though, and it's a sign to move / escalate to sex (not immediately, but soon, within 5 minutes).

I've been on all spectrums of the fence on this too and had no issues:

1) Telling her she's not a slut (qualifying)
2) Ignoring it / silence (neither qualifying/negging, prevents validation seeking behavior)
3) Telling her that she IS in fact a slut (and that you love it, a neg + qualifier kind of)

Kind of a head scratcher to say the least.

In practice it's not a very hard problem to deal with but the theoretical component of it is complex, I don't quite fully understand it.

 

[Ross]

I've found that when girls say things like this over and over again they're relaying a belief that they hold and mirroring it onto you. For example, when she says, "I don't want you to think i'm a slut" she is likely telling you that she views moving quickly as slutty, and she views being slutty as bad.

This can happen quite often if you're moving quickly, because these women sense that they are feeling a certain way about you even though you've just met hours ago. Emotionally they're ready to go to bed with you, but logically they're like, "Woah, emotions, why do you want to sleep with this guy? We just met!"

Best course of action would be to dig deeper into understand why she feels that way. If it's like what I mentioned above, then you're probably going to want to think about which route takes less effort; overcoming the LMR, or dealing with the objection now. I'd vouch to give her a logical 'out' of sorts right now so that she can reflect on that later. A logical 'out' in this situation would be to have her come to the conclusion that, in certain situations, moving fast is okay. It's like when you want to have a greasy burger really badly. At first, you're going to resist, but if any holes in your logic are present you will tell yourself that it's okay to eat it every once in a while to justify your actions.

 

[thejourneyman]

Hmm i recently ran into the same issue. So this girl and I have went out on 2 dates, made out getting good vibes. Then she invited me to go clubbing with her, and during the process I might have moved a little too fast physically so she suddenly went into Anti-slut mode telling me she wasnt into a ONS. however, she kept texting me throughout the night asking me how I was. And the 2 days later, she texted me asking how many girls ive slept with. This is definitely a shit test, and some sort of validation move. What would you guys do?