I feel stuck in starting...

[Richard]

Honestly, I've read everything Chase has written, and have read just about every post this site has to offer, and read every sentence that Chase's book had to offer... My biggest problem honestly is just going out there and starting from the very beginning... and honestly, in my area, there aren't that many girls who capture my interest, white girls and black girls don't naturally interest me, but Spanish girls do, and sadly there are very few girls in my area who I'd be interested in. Thus, I've become stuck on two or three Latina girls who I talk to but can make nothing happen with due to their scarcity , i.e, not enough time to text, or doesn't have a phone currently... Now, I feel like I'm in a big rut, got over my ex after about 4 months, now I want to pursue another relationship, but cannot find anything... and it's honestly depressing me...

 

[NarrowJ]

Yeah man. If you're limiting yourself to Latina girls, that's going to make things really hard on you.

I can't recall if it was a forum thread or a blog post, but Chase made a good point about only being attracted to a subset of quality or types. He had said (paraphrasing), that he would look at porn and cover up the girls naked body with his hand, so he could see only their face. He noticed that they were suddenly much less attractive. Maybe not even a girl he would be interested in if he met her on the street. So, you have to keep in mind that you'll be much much more attracted to her when she is butt assed naked in your bed with her legs spread wide open.

Not sure if that helps, but it makes sense I guess. I'll see if I can dig up the post/article.

Anyone else remember this, and can perhaps explain it better than I did?

 

[Richard]

However, I remember in another of Chases posts that if you're going to limit yourself to certain women, then make them challenging and worth the experience... besides I'm not looking to get laid right now, I'm actually wanting a relationship

 

[Light]

If that is the case, then I would highly recommend you go and open up as many girls as possible, with the intention of being only friends.

What you lack right now is not knowledge, but experience. You're not going to gain any experience just waiting for the right type of girl to pop up.
Even if they do, you won't have the experience to apply all that you've learnt straight away. It takes practice, and many failures.

Don't think too much about "Wanting a relationship".
Just go out, meet some women, practice the stuff you learn here on anyone and everyone. You never know if those girls you meet might have friends of your type! Girls always have girl friends! Get into their network.

 

[Richard]

Once again, thank you for your advice Light. Btw, is there a way I can contact you directly? Instead of posting and hoping you'll see it

 

[Light]

Once again, thank you for your advice Light. Btw, is there a way I can contact you directly? Instead of posting and hoping you'll see it

You're always welcome to send me a PM here, I do pop in frequently