Two things before we start:
1. KISS - Keep It Simple, Stupid.
2. For any of this, you MUST cultivate your natural personality. Go on a mission quest, trip acid, go camping. Disconnect from the world and find out who you are.
One of my best friends who is at around ~50 lays right now and is one of the coolest dudes I know went on intense therapy and rehab for a year and a half. He found himself. Your real self is devoid from neediness, anxiety, reasoning, ego and any of that baggage. I have a pretty solid understanding of who I am but am nowhere near as consistent as my friend is. I get needy sometimes, I get nervous, I think a lot. I'm working on being more present. In the moment. I've found that when I am completely engulfed in the moment, my natural self surfaces and shines. It is at these moments when I feel most connected with myself. It's an immensely gratifying feeling. I feel so fucking happy. But I digress.
Once you cultivate your natural personality, it is just smooth sailing. Because what is the main reason for why a chick would like you????? - YOU.
Not your clothes, not your car, not your fancy lines, not your physical game, not your verbal game. It's YOU.
Once you internalize that. It's so easy, man. Girls will THROW themselves at you. Trust me. All you should ever focus on in life is building enough confidence to accept yourself and be only yourself. Rid of neediness, rid of excuses, rid of anxiety. Picture yourself in a room full of 5-year-old's, you'll probably be VERY authentic. Because who gives a shit about what these toddlers think, right? Now take that approach to everywhere you go. Life becomes so much easier.
So on to dates.
Again, two things.
1. Her taking time to meet you means SHE ALREADY LIKES YOU.
2. Your only real goal should be to enjoy whatever it is that you're doing, enjoy her company and allow 100,000 years of evolution do what it's been doing so well that we've overpopulated this god-damn planet.
Conversation should be light-hearted, ask her about her, smile and be cool. Honestly. The less you try to do, and the more comfortable in your own skin you are, the better. Typically, my dates go like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_h2hX8pe2U
It's very innocent and child-like. Either I or her will then offer an after-date activity and it is here when I kiss her. I feel her out. The more comfortable she is, the more you are likely to have sex. I get closer. I start the dirty talk, sliding my hands through her body. I advance, but I don't push. I always know I'm going to get the lay, I always do. They're always very open about it as well.
I don't have an agenda, I don't have a system, I just vibe.
VIBE. And let biology do its work.
Mother Nature is your best wingman.
1. KISS - Keep It Simple, Stupid.
2. For any of this, you MUST cultivate your natural personality. Go on a mission quest, trip acid, go camping. Disconnect from the world and find out who you are.
One of my best friends who is at around ~50 lays right now and is one of the coolest dudes I know went on intense therapy and rehab for a year and a half. He found himself. Your real self is devoid from neediness, anxiety, reasoning, ego and any of that baggage. I have a pretty solid understanding of who I am but am nowhere near as consistent as my friend is. I get needy sometimes, I get nervous, I think a lot. I'm working on being more present. In the moment. I've found that when I am completely engulfed in the moment, my natural self surfaces and shines. It is at these moments when I feel most connected with myself. It's an immensely gratifying feeling. I feel so fucking happy. But I digress.
Once you cultivate your natural personality, it is just smooth sailing. Because what is the main reason for why a chick would like you????? - YOU.
Not your clothes, not your car, not your fancy lines, not your physical game, not your verbal game. It's YOU.
Once you internalize that. It's so easy, man. Girls will THROW themselves at you. Trust me. All you should ever focus on in life is building enough confidence to accept yourself and be only yourself. Rid of neediness, rid of excuses, rid of anxiety. Picture yourself in a room full of 5-year-old's, you'll probably be VERY authentic. Because who gives a shit about what these toddlers think, right? Now take that approach to everywhere you go. Life becomes so much easier.
So on to dates.
Again, two things.
1. Her taking time to meet you means SHE ALREADY LIKES YOU.
2. Your only real goal should be to enjoy whatever it is that you're doing, enjoy her company and allow 100,000 years of evolution do what it's been doing so well that we've overpopulated this god-damn planet.
Conversation should be light-hearted, ask her about her, smile and be cool. Honestly. The less you try to do, and the more comfortable in your own skin you are, the better. Typically, my dates go like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_h2hX8pe2U
It's very innocent and child-like. Either I or her will then offer an after-date activity and it is here when I kiss her. I feel her out. The more comfortable she is, the more you are likely to have sex. I get closer. I start the dirty talk, sliding my hands through her body. I advance, but I don't push. I always know I'm going to get the lay, I always do. They're always very open about it as well.
I don't have an agenda, I don't have a system, I just vibe.
VIBE. And let biology do its work.
Mother Nature is your best wingman.
