Calls & Texts "I have a boyfriend…but we can hang out as friends"

[Dontfuckup]

Hi amigos,
Story time!
Was at a bar about a month ago with a couple buddies, and I approached a cutie, told her she's cute, let's hang out etc. etc. She said she has a boyfriend, but we can hang out as friends. Got her number. So, has anyone experienced this before? My question is, should I still pursue this in a low-effort way as something that could lead to sex, i.e. if a girl is willing to meet a dude when she has a boyfriend, should I take that at face value and assume we'll really be just friends, or could it be indicative of something more? Thanks y'all

 

[Richard]

Girls don't hang out with guys as "friends" especially this early into things.

If she's actually trying to hang out with you in a way where she's not sucking value from you (like, you two getting dinner and you paying, etc.) then she's probably willing to sleep with you, even if the boyfriend thing is true.

Anyway, it could mean a ton of things and the only way you'll find out is to push a little bit and see how she reacts and the answer should be fairly obvious.

P.S. I don't do "friends" with women because it's usually one-sided in that they would be getting my attention while offering nothing of value to me. So, if it seems as though she isn't willing to give you anything valuable to you (sex, commitment, etc.) then I'd drop contact with her.

-Richard

 

[alleniverson]

P.S. I don't do "friends" with women because it's usually one-sided in that they would be getting my attention while offering nothing of value to me. So, if it seems as though she isn't willing to give you anything valuable to you (sex, commitment, etc.) then I'd drop contact with her.

-Richard

Damn boy. Girl friends can be one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. A good wing woman with hot friends is unbelievablele. Chase even said once it’s be better to be Megan fox’s friend than her lover. I think it was Chase.

In my opinion you cultivate all the relationships you can with women, while being conscious of sacrificing value. That is a worry you’re right. Gotta be diligent. But man the rewards of female friends can be huge. Seen it first hand.

 

[Richard]

Yeah,

I'm well aware of the rewards of having female friends but (as I stated above) unless they're offering some kind of value to me that isn't sex or commitment then I don't see a reason to keep them around because friendship with women is often one-sided.

That being said, I do have a few girl friends I can go to the mall with/hang out with/etc. but there's almost no upkeep on my end so it works out for me. Also, as you've said, most men will keep women around in order to get easier access to new women but I'm a direct daygamer so I don't have too big a need to maintain a social circle specifically for meeting new women so, for me, 9 times out of 10 I will not keep a woman around as a friend.

-Richard

 

[Rain]

If a woman has a boyfriend she is interested in, and is interested in you but won't do anything because of her boyfriend, would it be worth it to still swap mobile numbers or facebook friend, that way if she became single in the future, you could make a move after that? I'm guessing if you did do this you wouldn't want to see her in person before she becomes single as it would put you into the friendzone but you'd need to have some sort of contact detail so that you could have some way of knowing they are single if they become single?

I suppose you wouldn't be contacting them a lot either because that would remove intrigue and mystery... I guess I'm trying to increase my pool of potential available women if I came across this scenario.