I have a boyfriend

[shaneawi]

Hey guys,

I consider myself advanced with women as far as dates/sex go but intermediate when it comes to approaching. Im not afraid to approach I just get the "I have a boyfriend," line a lot from women.

I'm pretty direct with women most of the time with girls, I keep things man to woman and I know I have high value, I just keep getting the "I have a boyfriend." But when I do eventually get girls out on dates they like me a lot and I'm able to sleep with them fairly quickly and many ask me to be their boyfriend.

Any ideas on how to make a better approach to avoid the boyfriend dilemma?

 

[headsup38]

I find girls use that line whether true or not when they feel threatened like you're trying to make a move on them. If you are direct with them like you say you are then that's probably why you're getting that response.

When meeting girls, I tend to keep her an arms-distance away, never getting too involved at first. When women feel threatened, they can do all kinds of weird things. I'm trying not to provoke that behavior as much as I can. I don't get that line very often as a result. But then again, I'm not meeting girls to sleep with them on the first or second meeting. I'm trying to take their hearts as I am well aware that they are trying to do the same to me.

In conclusion. If you practice a short-game=big result, the chances of getting the "I have a bf" response are high. If you practice a long-game=lasting result, your chances of getting the "I have a bf" response are low.

 

[shaneawi]

Okay I'll try being a little less direct. I usually approach by noticing something the girl is wearing, like cowboy boots or a red dress and comment on it or I'll comment on a facial expression she made and start a light conversation. I don't just ealkbupbyovthfm and ask if they are single. But then again I live in a small military town with almost no economy so most women are married.

It just sucks because when I go out on dates I give them a great experience

 

[BrandonCodi]

I find it really surprising and impressive that many girls ask you to be their boyfriend. I consider myself the same as you probably do in the sense that I don't find it hard to connect with girls and sleep with them. I never get asked to be their boyfriend though. Sometimes I can tell they want it though and are afraid to ask.

Yeah just go less direct. You can kind of tell if a girl is lying about having a boyfriend or not. If she says it REALLY early on in the conversation, she might be lying, but she also might actually have one so it doesn't appear that she is leading you on. If you live in a military town then I find it believable that most girls are in relationships with the military douche bags.

If lots of girls have boyfriends and they're loyal, you're going to get that line a lot because it's simply the truth. You can't get mad at anyone for that. Maybe next time just ask if she has single friends or something haha.

Cheers, brother

 

[shaneawi]

For sure. I'm an attorney so once they find that out Im put in the provider zone do that's why they ask me about being in a relationship.

Yea I can't get mad it just sucks when everyone in this town is in a relationship.