I just cannot find people with whom I can truly connect? Finding people like us?

[sneaky_charm]

Hey fellas!

So I was not always like this, but for the past year or so, I have drastically changed. Girlschase definitely was the biggest reason. Thanks to everyone involved n this site.

Throughout my life, I could never really find anyone with whom I can truly connect. I am introvert, but I am slowly learning to be extrovert in many situations, and find that switching back and forth is great.

The problem is, I am kinda deep. Like I never take life too seriously, because life is temporary, and nothing is going to last forever.

I read heaps of self help books and love motivational movies.

I am not afraid to do things that I want to do even when everybody is telling otherwise.

I believe that life is a constant journey of improvement, unlike most people who think that you improve yourself till 25 years or so by going to college, and then just settle for a job and stop learning.

I am not afraid to dream big, even though those dreams may seem ridiculously ambitious to other people. I think mediocrity is one of the worst things in life.

So you get the gist. I think most of us are like this, so Girlschase is a great place to find people like myself. However, since we are the minority, maybe 10% of the population at best, it is truly hard to find someone similar in real life.

Also, I feel that most people like me are going to be high achievers, since we see life from a totally different perspective. But I have not achieved great things yet, the biggest reason is I just cannot seem to take persistent action, which matters the most when it comes to achieving success.

So I guess at this point, since I am not a high achiever myself, other high achievers will simply ignore me? Does that mean I have no chance of being friends with people like me at this point?

Do you have the same problem of not being able to find ambitious people? What do you think I can do to meet people like me?

Fuck all I want is people who are not afraid of life, and think that life is amazing. But heck, 99% of people I meet see life as this terrible thing and their only goal is living from day to day with zero enthusiasm, and for the life of me, I just can't find anyone who belongs to the rare 1%!

Do I just give up trying to find people with whom I can connect?

I know Richard you cannot stand people who are intellectually not too smart, so how frequently do you find girls or guys who talk about the deep things you like?

Please reflect some light on the topic everyone!

- Kevin

 

[Drck]

Re: I just cannot find people with whom I can truly connect? Finding people like

Yes, yes, I was thinking about that many times. I think there are many people like that. I had lots of friends during my teens and early 20's with truly great connection. I could have say anything I wanted with no problems. We did everything toghether, studied together, drink beer together, chased girls together... but then you split and each one goes his own way... You meet them after several years and the connection is gone. It is weird, you still know them the same way as before, but at the same time they are kinda strangers because now they are doing different things, they have different knowledge, different views and attitudes... We all change...

Now it is quite different too, each person have unique interests and at the same time you for example work together. Some have family, others don't, some do sports others do nothing. Some have high motivation to become successful, others don't give a damn about anything and just drink. Some are knowledgable about girls, others have no clue. Some are strict and others laid back. Many times you have to be VERY careful with what you say and how, because people simply live in different worlds...

It is quite challenging to meet a person who you can connect with. Say you have high seduction knowledge and skills, and you work with lots of Beta males with poor knowledge and no skills, but who are competing for Alpha position in a company. How you gonna manage that? It is impossible to make TRUE connection with them, because of your skills and no desire for useless Alpha position they would all gang up agaist you...

With girls, it is somehow different, and with PUA knowledge it can even feel awkward at first... You don't even want to make strong connection because if you do you will fall in love. And if you fall in love before you nail her, she will most likely dump you, and you end up being hurt... The more connection you want to make with her the further she runs. The less connection you want to make, the more aloof you appear, and the more she is desiring you and chasing you... All backwards from what you knew all your life...

They say that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, and they claim that it is not true. That is a lie. Sometimes the grass IS greener in some other places. Sometimes people ARE better and much easier to connect with at another places. I know it because I've been to other countries and experienced it myself. People are different at other places...

Don't be afraid to walk alone, and don't be scared to like it...

 

[sneaky_charm]

Re: I just cannot find people with whom I can truly connect? Finding people like

Hi Drck, thanks for the reply! At first I was confused regarding where you were going with that....but then read this:

Don't be afraid to walk alone, and don't be scared to like it...

I see what you mean, I really do. Yet again, sometimes it's hard moving the lonely way though!

- Kevin