I know this sounds crazy, but should I tell a girl I'm a virgin?

[beginner112]

I'm currently 21 and still a virgin mostly because of a religious upbringing. Anyways, I recently met a girl and have been trying to lose my virginity, went out on a first date with her which went well. On the second date, I tried to sleep with her and hence lose my virginity. I basically invited her home, then because of what I think was clumsiness and trying to go straight to bed with her without putting on a movie, drink, etc -- after making out with her she started to get second thoughts and then said she had to go.

Afterwards I texted her back, asking her for a date again. Previously, she had seemed really interested in me, but after that second date, she seemed more aloof. She agreed to a date but flaked last minute. My question is, is there any chance she was driven away because she got scared and thought she was going to make a bad move? This might sound even crazier, but since she seems to have lost most interest in me, is there any chance I could perhaps turn things around by telling her I'm a virgin and hence convey to her "I'm not the kind of guy you think I am" and maybe placate her worries? I know this is probably pretty out there but was just wondering if I should give it one more shot to maybe lose my virginity.

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

beginner112 - Telling her a virgin will not win her back. You did not properly escalate her. I am being lazy so I am giving an article to read. As you read follow some of the links in tan to get more info.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/take- ... escalation

Then read this article to get an understand of what you might due to have a second chance with her.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/ultim ... -girl-back

BDSC

 

[ray_zorse]

Nah dude problem is you need to move fast and seal the deal on the night, or she goes cold as you observed. I suggest to post the exact events and conversations leading up to her decision to leave, what she said and how you responded. This will help to work out what you could have done differently. Then practice what you've learnt on another girl. If she's gone cold and aloof it's a lost cause, better just to do it right next time.
Ray

 

[Mr.Rob]

Embark on this journey not on one specific girl but on an abundance of women until you do lose your virginity.

As far as your question goes your best bet is to get her to see you with other women that are into you and perhaps make her change her mind a bit and warm her back up.

Do not tell a girl you're a virgin. There's no reason to bring it up.

Before I lost my virginity I had the opportunity to sleep with 2 girls and right before I made a move to escalate I told them I was a virgin and I still kick myself for it.

Don't even bring it up there's no reason for her to know and it's definitely not going to progress the seduction. At best it's neutral and neutral might as well be digression.

Good luck

 

[Gravedigger]

But what if a girl asks you with how many girls have you slept before? Should you lie, or avoid the question by saying some witty remark? Especially if it is a girl you might view as a potential girlfriend?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Should you lie, or avoid the question by saying some witty remark?

Either one works.

 

[Gravedigger]

Should you lie, or avoid the question by saying some witty remark?

Either one works.

Yeah, but i believe that you shouldn't represent yourself as someone you are not with a girl, but rather stay fair and honest. Isn't lying generaly something one should try to avoid?

 

[ray_zorse]

There are certain rare cases where lying is a reasonable option IMO. One is if you're clubbing by yourself and she asks "who are you here with", you can say "I will meet them here" or "my friends already left". But you shouldn't lie abt things that cut to the core of who you are. Because it's dishonest, unconfident and may cause problems later. But certain societal taboos are worth a bit more trouble to avoid, especially as a beginner.
Ray

 

[Bboy100]

Probably a late response, but here's my input:

1. The reason she's being flaky is because it was a failed escalation- you started trying to escalate to sex with her and it didnt' happen. There's something deeply wired into a women's psychology which says "If a guy tries to sleep with you but fails to, he's unworthy of mating with you and should therefore be rejected". Obviously, those are not the thoughts that cross a women's mind. Its likely more of a feeling of "Well, I'm really not feeling this guy anymore".

2. Do NOT tell her you're a virgin. Most girls are not attracted to that. Additionally, it'll make her feel pressured to make it "right" and "special" for you. Because for most girls, its that's important to them. And they'll project that same paradigm onto you.
Case in point-The girl who took my virginity never knew it and probably never will.