Zac,
My understanding is that you don't live in USA ...?
You know, people are different at other places. Different cultures, different religious believes, different values, different morals, different expectations from others.... Simply different...
IMO it is difficult for someone from different country to apply things that work in USA, just because for the above mentioned reasons. Seduction knowledge may make perfect sense, but does it work for you? If it doesn't, it may not be you, it may be the environment... You need to find out things that fit into the particular environment that you are in...
For example, I grew up in Eastern Europe, live in states, was some while in UK, was exposed to Latinas.... Those are simply what we can call here different groups of people.
Girls in essence are looking for two types of guys, the classical Alpha (fucks) and Beta (Bucks). With that being said, there is also lots of overlapping, it's just never black and white... At the same time, what works in Eastern Europe is different than what works in London, or on Latinas. It's little bit different with country girl vs girl who grew up in New York. You can be for instance more lax with white girls, but with Latinas you got to move your ass.
There are two ways to look at the same thing (seduction). Very simple way, or very complicated way (and of course lots of combinations and overlapping of these two)
Very complicated way is GC. You get lots of tools, you got to study and practice. It might take you years before you get good. For example, you get into female psychology, you learn to understand signs females give you, you learn to understand female behavior and how to approach them, and so on. You will be well developed seducer. In order for this approach to work you have to have great knowledge of women, you have to know lots of social interactions and you usually have to have lots of practice.
Very simple way is sort of assholish or Alphaish way. You have your solid frame, that is all you care about. You don't really care much about how girls think and react, you could care less about female psychology and understanding. You are out there to have fun, she is either reacting to you (so you move on) or she is giving you hard time (so you Next her). In order for this way to work you have to be masculine guy, you have to be 'The Man'. You can literally be a dummy as far as seduction goes, but you will still attract lots of women.
Then there is lots of intermediate ways. The problem with intermediate way is that guy has lots of knowledge but not enough practice, which usually results that he over-game the girl. She can feel that he is inexperienced, however at the same time she get that he has lots of understanding of female-male interaction. That triggers alarm in her mind, she might hang around for a while (just to see what's the deal with this guy) but she is not really interested sexually in him.
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So, being congruent and honest is usually a good approach. We have to overcome our Ego, we have to find some humility. Why is that?
Because seduction knowledge raises your Ego. You think you can do better than other guys, perhaps you think you are better than other guys (who have no clue about seduction). You think you understand (and perhaps you do), but understanding is not enough. This very attitude may work against you, because girls see it differently.
So we have to overcome our Ego, we have to throw away our seduction knowledge. Girls don't care how much knowledge you have. They don't want to know. Girls care about if you can apply this knowledge.
In girl's eye you have certain Value. Let's call it Sexual Value. This overall value is summary of different things, for example:
* Do you fit into category that she is currently looking for, provider or lover? NSA?
* What is her overall level of slutiness or morals? Did she already sleep with 20 guys, or just 1? That matters because girls who slept with 20 guys requires different approach than inexperienced girl, which in translation means how good you are at convincing her to go with you
* How good you look, and/or how tall are you? That too matters, unless you have charming personality you will feel the difference, e.g. she will prefer guy who is 6 feet tall vs guy 5'4".
* If you are good at bed (experienced girls can FEEL it with interaction with you, perhaps within couple of minutes she simply knows)
* Are you at her level with finances, education, job? Overall career? That matters too, because if she feels that you are 2-3 levels above her she will not feel comfortably around you, she will feel inferior, not good enough... She may think she doesn't deserve you... Remember, many girls are insecure, if your value is too high she will fall into autorejection...
* And much more...
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See, the above is quite frustrating. There are hundreds things to consider in order to "fit" one particular girl that you want, you need lots of skills. You can learn to "fit" the girl but it requires lots of time and effort. Or you can create a strong frame and let simply the girl "fit" you (as described above in the Alphaish approach). The inconvenience with having strong frame is that it requires some time for the girl to adjust to you (to your frame). Girls do however change, they want to fit into the man's frame, assuming that he is attractive... Giving enough time, she will change her believes, her values, and her opinions, just so she can be with you...
My point is, that you may not simply take things from USA and fit it in Asia (if that's where you live). Girls will react differently to your attempts than here, perhaps they don't expect such behavior...? If a girl from your culture has certain expectations from you, but you behave differently, her alarm will go off. She will start testing you, she will be on alert, she will start giving you shit tests, she will be comparing you to others guys she knows and so on, just so she can find out who you really are... Remember, girls are not stupid, they can usually read you quite well, they will eventually figure you out...
so i can lessen and manage it from now on.
