I Screwed Up... Help this poor Bastard out!

[Theozil10]

Hey Guys,

I could use a little help.

Met this girl through another girl I know (my housemate). I met her once, when she crashed at our place to go out with my housemate and her friends. She came back up to the house a week later to stay for a couple days and go to a concert. After the concert I randomly met them in a bar for a few drinks later on after being out with a few of my buddies. I chatted to all the girls and they brought me to another nightclub with them. I ended up hooking up with one of the girls in the group at the club and then later hooked up with the girl I liked back at my place.

So the next day I said if she was around, we should grab a drink. Drinks went well and we hooked up again. She seemed to enjoy herself and back at my place she and I got in her bed and made out until she kicked me out. A few days later I exchanged some flirty text messages with her and she was very receptive.

THEN... Dum dum dummmmm, I sent a text saying "Been thinking about you ; )"... Got no response.

I waited a week and sent another text saying I forgot to text the rest of the message and made a joke that we had between us.... Still no response.

This girls is the perfect combination of cute, sexy and interesting. And I think I messed it up with my thinking of you text.

What do you suggest I do? Don't text her and keep brining girls back to the house and mentioning my dates to my housemate (her best friend) and try to reignite the attraction? Any ideas would be great, every girl I've been with since, hasn't been the same.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Not much you can do at this point. When you say hooked up I assume your meaning you just kissed and didn't have sex.

If you hooked up with this girl multiple days in a row without taking her to bed your swimming upstream to try and get her back now. Women lose respect for men that they could have gone to bed with but the man didn't make things happen. AKA moved too slow.
To them they think "well I got really close to having sex with him but didn't which must mean I don't really like him all that much anyway.. Whew good thing I held out." When in reality you could've been 15 min. away from breaking her resistance deal and then she would've thought "wow I was really on the fence about TheOzil but he overcame my resistance and rocked my world. I guess he knew what I wanted more than I knew what I wanted. Wow I'm so glad I slept with him."

Obviously it's too late now and don't worry too much it's happened to all of us at least once. Just NEXT her and move on. If you're worried you won't meet another girl like her anytime soon, since it sounded like you liked her, I would start cold approaching if you aren't already.
Here's the article you need to read on getting her out if that's what you really want to do. See section on getting second date after failed escalation.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-second-date-strategies-make-her-flirt-and-swoon

Glad your on the boards hopefully this helped you out some.
-Rob

 

[Theozil10]

Not much you can do at this point. When you say hooked up I assume your meaning you just kissed and didn't have sex.

If you hooked up with this girl multiple days in a row without taking her to bed your swimming upstream to try and get her back now. Women lose respect for men that they could have gone to bed with but the man didn't make things happen. AKA moved too slow.
To them they think "well I got really close to having sex with him but didn't which must mean I don't really like him all that much anyway.. Whew good thing I held out." When in reality you could've been 15 min. away from breaking her resistance deal and then she would've thought "wow I was really on the fence about TheOzil but he overcame my resistance and rocked my world. I guess he knew what I wanted more than I knew what I wanted. Wow I'm so glad I slept with him."

Obviously it's too late now and don't worry too much it's happened to all of us at least once. Just NEXT her and move on. If you're worried you won't meet another girl like her anytime soon, since it sounded like you liked her, I would start cold approaching if you aren't already.
Here's the article you need to read on getting her out if that's what you really want to do. See section on getting second date after failed escalation.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-second-date-strategies-make-her-flirt-and-swoon

Glad your on the boards hopefully this helped you out some.
-Rob

Cheers for the advice Rob!

I did escalate and attempted to remove her bra and drop the hand on her, but she kept saying telling me no. Probably the fact that her friends were in the other room and didn't know what we were up to... Or maybe I'm just making excuses for myself.

Anyways, lesson learned and I don't plan on making the same mistake in the future.

Glad to finally be apart of the boards, as I've been a long time fan of the site.

Thanks again

 

[moonrayarc]

well that "been thinking about you" could have done a heck of a wreck. I've had many girls go unresponsive and cold after these kind of needy texts

 

[Theozil10]

well that "been thinking about you" could have done a heck of a wreck. I've had many girls go unresponsive and cold after these kind of needy texts

True.... it was my downfall.