I seem to be attracting less women with age.. Am I alone?

[razir110]

Hi everyone!

I am getting a bit concerned.. I am 30 now and in my mid 20's I had no big problems to score girls. True that I worked in an environment that I was always surrounded by women, so it was no problem to get dates, meet new girls, etc.

I quit that job 3 years ago and now I am studying again. A lot!.. I don't have time to go to the gym, nor money to buy fancy clothes, not time to party and.. I have way less opportunities to interact with women! I have to admit that before I had it all on a silver plate, now I actually have to go out there and work for it.

But the point is.. the not so many approaches I did were all crap!.. No dates, no nothing. It really seems that girls are less attracted by me now. Is it because of my age? Or maybe since I have less time to take care of myself? Perhaps just lack of approach experience to women I am not in a comfort zone with? (such as my former work environment)

Honestly with age I feel more confident about myself, but it doesn't transmit to success with women at all! I mean I slept with gorgeous girls, had loads of adventures so honestly I couldn't care less if a girls doesn't want to go out with me, but now I started to think about it and it seems to be some sort of a trend..

Have any of you guys have experienced this sort of diminishing results over time?

Thank you for your feedback!

 

[headsup38]

Hi,

Your solution can be answered by the statement in your second paragraph. When we were kids, we were thrown in involuntarily with a bunch of female classmates. As adults, this is not a guarantee depending on your chosen job/profession. A lot of high paying jobs are not social, so if you don't have much opportunities with women in those fields, you have to work harder on your life outside of work to make up for it.

Women tend to be more subtle and choosier as they get older. If you're looking to get women who are better looking and more sophisticated then it's going to be that much harder to pick up their signals or seduce them. I don't do cold approaches. That is not my strategy. I go into areas when women are already there and I look to get scouted. Usually it is an office setting, but it can be at church. I'm focusing on doing a job with the girls there and hope that I get noticed and an affair forms. One girl I was working with started asking me if I date Mexican girls(she was Mexican herself), then when I responded that I had Mexican girlfriends in the past, she then went on to tell me she was hot for her friends' brother. This to me was sort of a "wipe-off" move. She was flashing signals, but then made that statement so whatever she had just said was meant to be ignored. I later asked for her number and was texting her a couple of years' after that I but decided to give up because we were nine years apart and our affair just kinda faded.

At your age, you should be raking in the 20-28 year old demographic, you just need to find them and learn to pick up their signals.

 

[ProblemSolving]

I quit that job 3 years ago and now I am studying again. A lot!.. I don't have time to go to the gym, nor money to buy fancy clothes, not time to party and.. I have way less opportunities to interact with women! I have to admit that before I had it all on a silver plate, now I actually have to go out there and work for it.

This is why you are not getting laid, not because you are older. Without that job you are going to have to earn your lays and that means getting comfortable with "rejection".

But the point is.. the not so many approaches I did were all crap!

Keep going. Embrace the grind and make time for the gym.