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I broke a couple personal barriers with this one (indirect cold approach, breaking some shit tests I hadn't been thrown before, and seeing yet again how looks can be deceiving. But, oh, do I feel silly.
Introduction / Opener
Last week I was working for my research lab where we had to dress and representatives for an app, and then give out flyers and collect signatures for a week straight. Very enjoyable experience for me, and I employed PUA tactics to accomplish those things (policeman stop, touching your ear if they had headphones in, overall calmly approaching, etc).
My shift is almost over and I see a short, pretty blonde with a nice booty walking out the building. I stop and get her attention and catch a sparkle in her eye when we connect. Almost immediately I know that she's interested. I smile at her with a wave and say "excuse me", and she changes directions then works around a guy in front of her to get close to me.
I pitch her the line we all have to use, and see I have her full attention. This is rare for busy campus students with volunteer desks, we live on a very large campus and most have a ways to go before their classes. So, I get to her side and show her the flyer, using incidental touch with our bodies and our hands as I guide her through the pitch.
Then I back off, and ask if she can fill out the signature / survey. She's smiling at me now and agrees. As she fills it out I ask her how her day has been going. She finishes, then just stands there, with her body facing me, smiling, and we engage in small talk. I tell her how I love watching people walk by the stand, with all of their different emotions, and how their facial expressions rapidly change once my coworker and I start talking to them. Very interesting to me. I can feel myself getting excited (a little bit of blood started filling my pecker).
Rocket science.
Then we go back to small talk, and I tell her to have fun at work (where she was headed). I text her that day, 2 hours later.
Texts
I have to push back the date a little bit on the day of because of my schedule. I walk in and it's PACKED. I look around for a bit, see her at the bar, and she waves me over. I hug her and we sit down.
The Date
She is very feminine. Quiet, receptive, emotional. We talk about movies, and a couple other "okay" topics, which I have light touching for. She travelled abroad, which I had her describe to me. Then we turn to music, one of my favorite topics. She says that she uses soundcloud EDM music for sex. Great. I keep calm for it, but thereafter escalate with touch more. Pretty soon our legs are locked and we're looking into eachother totally locked in.
I feel a whisp of sexual energy and ask her if she wants to go show each other music and get the fuck out of here. She slightly backs off.
Shit Test
I lead conversation back into a thread from earlier (she mentioned she traveled abroad) and ask her where else. About a minute in she stops (my body language is still kind of turned off from her, she's probably feeling the withdrawal) and says, "hey! actually, we could do that today" with somewhat a worried look on her face. I smile nonchalantly and go okay, we will then, and continue the conversation.
She tells of her travels, I tell of mine, we both joined a quit greek life (us against the world), and then I thread back in about music before finally saying "let's get the fuck out of here" and leading her to my car. She paused with the thought of getting her car, but a light push to mine was all that was needed there. I'd rather not have to pick it up later. Good vibes in the car as we drive the 6 blocks to my house.
We get to my house and I throw on music. I kiss her a few minutes into it after she shows me pictures on her phone and I tease her about it.
A minute or so after I pull off, she asks me the infamous, "do you ask a lot of girls you meet to get coffee?". I chuckle and say "every one that I meet", and she's giddy. I bring up the sparkle in her eye when she was walking bye, which charms the shit out of her. We kiss a little bit more then I pull off again.
Moving Up..
Now shes showing me music (the stuff she has sex to). I find out she loves MDMA (not surprising with the music choice). So she's a party chick! I wouldn't have guessed at all first talking with her. I ask her, "if we hadn't had any obligations, and I asked you to get coffee right then and there, what would you have said?". She gives me a great smile and says she definitely would have came with. I ask her if she gives a fuck about the stupid shit people let get in the way of what she wants and she says usually not. I go in for a kiss again, and it quickly turns into a makeout. Pretty soon she's on top of me and grinding on my dick.
I feel the passion rising. We're about to tear eachothers clothes off. Every kiss is deeper, hungrier, and dripping with lust. My hands are beneath her jeans gripping her ass cheeks. I kiss her neck and she moans. We go back to sucking eachothers faces off, and I pick her up and start walking to my bed.
And then,
I trip.
Down She Goes
In my excitement, I forgot about the big ass segment of my sectional sticking itself out en route to my bed. One foot side steps it, and the other's caught. Down we go. I pull her into my torso and take all of our weight on my right knee. I start laughing and ask if she's alright. She is, then starts rubbing up her hands up and down my back. We joke around about what a clutz I am.
I try to resume where we left off, now that we're laying down on the floor, but I think she wants to go to the bed still, so I pick her up, say "Round 2!", pick her up again, and move her into my bed. I escalate again, but the vibe is off now.
We went from about to rip eachothers clothes off to laying down on my bed, making out. I do my best to get it back to that level, but the best I can get is her rubbing my dick over my jeans for a few strokes, some heavy breathing, and a failed attempt to get my hand on her pussy from behind (I NEED to solve that technique. Too many lost girls from that).
Last Minute Resistance
Eventually she stops and says she needs to go pick her friend up. Fuuuck. I say, "something tells me that part of you wants to stay here", and she rejects it and says no really she has to. We pull off for a second and figure out what time it is. She even says she can call an uber. I pause, then say I work at [time], and that we can hang out here, and I'll drop her off at her car on the way to work. She agrees.
Then she goes to the bathroom, and when she gets back I put music on my speaker, and have her show me a ton of EDM music. We talk about MDMA, some of my adventures at my old university, and a little bit of sex. I should have talked less about myself and more about sex. In fact, I was in a perfect position to revamp the sexual vibe by talking about sex. The whole time our faces were very close, her eyes were dilated, and we were rubbing eachothers bodies. But, something was off, I could tell. That, and every time I tried to kiss again she'd pull off. So once you fail to escalate say, 3 times, you fall into more of a chasing than persisting position. That is, I didn't pull off enough and gave her too much control.
I drive her back to her car and make a HUGE mistake right when she gets out.
Mystery --> robbed. And I just basically thanked her for giving me LMR.
Parting Thoughts
Chase's 2nd date strategy suggests that if the date went okay, to text her 2-3 days later to set up a second date. And that if the date had a failed escalation, you need to totally pull off, text her a week or so later, and invite her to a situation where she'll see you with other girls (a party). I think I can pull of the latter... but I wonder if it's necessary.
Part of me thinks this is just wishful thinking that, no, the date went better than okay for reasons XYZ, but the other part of me says, no, you're just lying to yourself to feel better about how it went - you had a failed escalation, multiple flubs (tripping, qualifying yourself when talking about yourself, and saying "I can't believe I tripped haha" more than once... you may have rubbed her the wrong way on numerous occasions).
I can honestly say that had I not ripped, the escalation probably would have turned into sex. Sure, there may have been some LMR to overcome, but I know how to overcome it usually. This time, it came around and was here to stay. Everything up until that point was pretty solid - it shook my frame a bit.
What do you guys think? Do I pull off entirely, then shoot her a party text to make her think I'm friend zoning her, or do I proceed as normal?
Hue
Introduction / Opener
Last week I was working for my research lab where we had to dress and representatives for an app, and then give out flyers and collect signatures for a week straight. Very enjoyable experience for me, and I employed PUA tactics to accomplish those things (policeman stop, touching your ear if they had headphones in, overall calmly approaching, etc).
My shift is almost over and I see a short, pretty blonde with a nice booty walking out the building. I stop and get her attention and catch a sparkle in her eye when we connect. Almost immediately I know that she's interested. I smile at her with a wave and say "excuse me", and she changes directions then works around a guy in front of her to get close to me.
I pitch her the line we all have to use, and see I have her full attention. This is rare for busy campus students with volunteer desks, we live on a very large campus and most have a ways to go before their classes. So, I get to her side and show her the flyer, using incidental touch with our bodies and our hands as I guide her through the pitch.
Then I back off, and ask if she can fill out the signature / survey. She's smiling at me now and agrees. As she fills it out I ask her how her day has been going. She finishes, then just stands there, with her body facing me, smiling, and we engage in small talk. I tell her how I love watching people walk by the stand, with all of their different emotions, and how their facial expressions rapidly change once my coworker and I start talking to them. Very interesting to me. I can feel myself getting excited (a little bit of blood started filling my pecker).
Me: You drink coffee? (she has a coffee cup in her hand)
Her: *smiles* Tea.
Me: Oh, I was gonna ask if you wanted to get coffee, but if you're drinking tea...(my attempt at humor)
Her: *smiling, standing doing nothing*
Me: You want to?
Her: Sure!
Me: Okay, *looks at coworker*, I'm not supposed to do this, but lemme get you're number
Her: Okay!
Rocket science.
Then we go back to small talk, and I tell her to have fun at work (where she was headed). I text her that day, 2 hours later.
Texts
Me: hey this is Hue, nice meeting you earlier
Her: Hi it was nice meeting you too!
Next day
Me: hey Saleswoman, what's good?
Her: Hey I'm [class bullshit], how's the app doing?
Me: solid, though standing around all day can get less than exciting haha. was just thinking we ought to figure out coffee
what's your schedule looking like?
Her: I'm pretty busy the rest of the week during the afternoon, next week would be better, wbu?
Me: I'd have to check for the next week but am opened up whenever this Saturday. work for you?
Her: Saturday I have training for a volunteer position 8:30-5:30 :/
Me: ah gotcha. no worries we'll play it by ear
3 days later
Me: hey Saleswoman how's your volunteer stuff going? was just looking at my schedule and trying to figure out a good day for us
Her: Hi it went well today thanks for asking! I don't have class or work on Monday, if you're off then too that'd work
Me: yea that's great for me, let's do 2ish at [coffee shop]
Her: Ok sounds good
I have to push back the date a little bit on the day of because of my schedule. I walk in and it's PACKED. I look around for a bit, see her at the bar, and she waves me over. I hug her and we sit down.
The Date
She is very feminine. Quiet, receptive, emotional. We talk about movies, and a couple other "okay" topics, which I have light touching for. She travelled abroad, which I had her describe to me. Then we turn to music, one of my favorite topics. She says that she uses soundcloud EDM music for sex. Great. I keep calm for it, but thereafter escalate with touch more. Pretty soon our legs are locked and we're looking into eachother totally locked in.
I feel a whisp of sexual energy and ask her if she wants to go show each other music and get the fuck out of here. She slightly backs off.
Shit Test
I probably should have let the sexual energy build more, instead of jumping on it at first sight.
I lead conversation back into a thread from earlier (she mentioned she traveled abroad) and ask her where else. About a minute in she stops (my body language is still kind of turned off from her, she's probably feeling the withdrawal) and says, "hey! actually, we could do that today" with somewhat a worried look on her face. I smile nonchalantly and go okay, we will then, and continue the conversation.
She tells of her travels, I tell of mine, we both joined a quit greek life (us against the world), and then I thread back in about music before finally saying "let's get the fuck out of here" and leading her to my car. She paused with the thought of getting her car, but a light push to mine was all that was needed there. I'd rather not have to pick it up later. Good vibes in the car as we drive the 6 blocks to my house.
We get to my house and I throw on music. I kiss her a few minutes into it after she shows me pictures on her phone and I tease her about it.
A minute or so after I pull off, she asks me the infamous, "do you ask a lot of girls you meet to get coffee?". I chuckle and say "every one that I meet", and she's giddy. I bring up the sparkle in her eye when she was walking bye, which charms the shit out of her. We kiss a little bit more then I pull off again.
Moving Up..
Now shes showing me music (the stuff she has sex to). I find out she loves MDMA (not surprising with the music choice). So she's a party chick! I wouldn't have guessed at all first talking with her. I ask her, "if we hadn't had any obligations, and I asked you to get coffee right then and there, what would you have said?". She gives me a great smile and says she definitely would have came with. I ask her if she gives a fuck about the stupid shit people let get in the way of what she wants and she says usually not. I go in for a kiss again, and it quickly turns into a makeout. Pretty soon she's on top of me and grinding on my dick.
I feel the passion rising. We're about to tear eachothers clothes off. Every kiss is deeper, hungrier, and dripping with lust. My hands are beneath her jeans gripping her ass cheeks. I kiss her neck and she moans. We go back to sucking eachothers faces off, and I pick her up and start walking to my bed.
And then,
I trip.
Down She Goes
In my excitement, I forgot about the big ass segment of my sectional sticking itself out en route to my bed. One foot side steps it, and the other's caught. Down we go. I pull her into my torso and take all of our weight on my right knee. I start laughing and ask if she's alright. She is, then starts rubbing up her hands up and down my back. We joke around about what a clutz I am.
I try to resume where we left off, now that we're laying down on the floor, but I think she wants to go to the bed still, so I pick her up, say "Round 2!", pick her up again, and move her into my bed. I escalate again, but the vibe is off now.
We went from about to rip eachothers clothes off to laying down on my bed, making out. I do my best to get it back to that level, but the best I can get is her rubbing my dick over my jeans for a few strokes, some heavy breathing, and a failed attempt to get my hand on her pussy from behind (I NEED to solve that technique. Too many lost girls from that).
Last Minute Resistance
Eventually she stops and says she needs to go pick her friend up. Fuuuck. I say, "something tells me that part of you wants to stay here", and she rejects it and says no really she has to. We pull off for a second and figure out what time it is. She even says she can call an uber. I pause, then say I work at [time], and that we can hang out here, and I'll drop her off at her car on the way to work. She agrees.
Then she goes to the bathroom, and when she gets back I put music on my speaker, and have her show me a ton of EDM music. We talk about MDMA, some of my adventures at my old university, and a little bit of sex. I should have talked less about myself and more about sex. In fact, I was in a perfect position to revamp the sexual vibe by talking about sex. The whole time our faces were very close, her eyes were dilated, and we were rubbing eachothers bodies. But, something was off, I could tell. That, and every time I tried to kiss again she'd pull off. So once you fail to escalate say, 3 times, you fall into more of a chasing than persisting position. That is, I didn't pull off enough and gave her too much control.
I drive her back to her car and make a HUGE mistake right when she gets out.
Me: Well, I had a great time. *looks for kissing window*
Her: *doesn't present kissing window* Yea! Me too.(I can't tell if it was fake or not)
Me: *slight smile* Drive safe.
Her: I will! Nice seeing you!
Mystery --> robbed. And I just basically thanked her for giving me LMR.
Parting Thoughts
Chase's 2nd date strategy suggests that if the date went okay, to text her 2-3 days later to set up a second date. And that if the date had a failed escalation, you need to totally pull off, text her a week or so later, and invite her to a situation where she'll see you with other girls (a party). I think I can pull of the latter... but I wonder if it's necessary.
Part of me thinks this is just wishful thinking that, no, the date went better than okay for reasons XYZ, but the other part of me says, no, you're just lying to yourself to feel better about how it went - you had a failed escalation, multiple flubs (tripping, qualifying yourself when talking about yourself, and saying "I can't believe I tripped haha" more than once... you may have rubbed her the wrong way on numerous occasions).
I can honestly say that had I not ripped, the escalation probably would have turned into sex. Sure, there may have been some LMR to overcome, but I know how to overcome it usually. This time, it came around and was here to stay. Everything up until that point was pretty solid - it shook my frame a bit.
What do you guys think? Do I pull off entirely, then shoot her a party text to make her think I'm friend zoning her, or do I proceed as normal?
Hue
