A girl posting this here?
He sounds like a pure beta chode(all terms from pickup I'll define for you at the end). This is not the type of man that can help you feel like a woman and help you grow. I would suggest you start with the same type of questions I tell all the pick up noobies; What do you want to learn? What are your goals? What are your passions? What type of man do you see yourself with?
When you can confidently answer those type of questions is when you start applying them to your being.
I feel like in this world, there are people who get it and people who don't. There are people willing to change themselves in order to become who they truly are and who they want to be. Then there are people that are content being weak, mediocre, lame, lazy, fat, stupid, and MANY more. Those people don't deserve to experience how amazing life really is. They will settle for what falls in their lap and never feel rewarded because they worked hard to get it. Is this you? Are you willing to settle?
I for one will NEVER settle, and I belive that no one should setlle EVER! Some people will never understand this and I could tell them 1,000,000+ and they still wont get it because they are truly ok with the way things are.
I feel you are not like all these people and clearly crave more, the thing is, it all starts within yourself. Find out what you want and go for it.
Beta - Opposite of Alpha. The percentage of Beta males outweighs Alpha by probably 95% and potentially 99%. Beta males are non aggresive, unsure, and usually approach women/dating with a sense of taking the easy less challenging route, looking for easy answers and tactics. IE low risk pickup lines, making friends with girls with intentions of maybe "getting lucky", asking friends to "set them up." All beta's have a scarcity mindset, they don't understand the term "abundance" and usually only pursue one female at a time. Beta's will also put women on a pedastal and feel lower status than attractive women, this is because they ARE.
Chode - This is a description of a male that is beta and consistenltly shows it by shode type behaviors. Example behaviors are chasing. neediness, scarcity mindset, lack of eye contact, unsure body language, shyness, stuttering, anxiety around women, romantic over the top gestures, lying and hiding true intentions.
Women are very unnattracted to chode behaviors, some will say they would love for a guy to take them on an amazing first date, candles, music, expensive food. The problem is it makes investiment from the male too high and this will lower attraction because investiment should always be equal. Everything for a successful relationship relys on balance and equal investment by both people. Women are much more attracted to congruency and honest signals than any gesture. When a man truly conveys himself and what he wants openly without apology attraction and investment on the wmans end soars. That in turn creates positive vibes and both people are free to express inner desires. I believe this is what we all strive for in our relationships.
I'm kind of ranting right now, but maybe this will give you an insight to what a real man strives for and should BE. I am newer to game and have not fully come to terms with every aspect, but I can see it from a distance and attempt to translate it to reality.
Try to stay away from natural Alpha's and assholes, they will probably only hurt you. Ask yourself what are qualities you want and screen guys for these. Dump this beta and find yourself.
