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Icebreaker Response times

Raqimus

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Yo wattsup guys, maybe this is somewhere else but I cant seem to find it. I ask a simple question, icebreakers. I've sent them, you've sent them but what to do when they respond later then usual. For example sent an icebreaker around 8 got a response around 1... now should I of moved things forward towards a meet up that night or kept on schedule and proceed like normal. Ie text a day or two later and get em on a date(Doing the later currently)... let me know!
 

ray_zorse

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I wouldn't regard that as a long time, it's pretty normal. She had probably just started work when the msg came through, she checked her phone after her shift. Or something. It's great that she replied to the icebreaker. But if she took 5hrs to do so, then as a safety precaution you should wait 5hrs before responding, just in case she was doing it to be manipulative. Generally they shape up pretty quickly if you do that, since the subcommunication is that you know what she's up to.

Also I generally wouldn't recommend doing any texting activity at all outside the hours of about 10:30am to 10:30pm as it makes you look thirsty if you text at strange times. There are exceptions to this, for instance you know her schedule so you call her around the time she'd be leaving work to ask her to meet you at some club. Or you met her same night so you know she'll be out till the early hours. But basically you want to look like a busy guy who needs his sleep at night.

For an example of really long response times check out this interaction:
22/5 10:54 Me: [her name], enjoyed yesterday? Interesting fact: my neighbour is from Osaka [this girl is from around there]. we went clubbing, came for some coffee and did some Osaka dialect practice, it was good. Your plan also went successfully?
25/5 11:44 Her: hahaha (funny face smiley)
Is that right! Since we live close together let's go for a coffee or something!
26/5 13:10 Me: Bubble tea, Thursday evening, convenient?
Basically, I knew she was FOS because she took so long to reply, so I invested as little as possible to see where we stood, and sure enough, no further reply.

Ray
 

Smith

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I think within 12 hours is pretty usual. anything more than one day, the girl is very likely not interested. My longest response to my ice breaker was one week lol And I got her out two weeks later by playing it cool but the date was a disaster...no chemistry at all. I usually wait one day and that got me dates consistently. But if the girl is keen to see you, strike while the iron is hot!
 
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