If i wanted to learn how to seduce and romance a lady...

[Humay]

Should i look for a Friends-with-benefits or a girlfriend?

By learning, i mean how to touch, kiss and seduce a woman efficiently. I'm sure with a FWB, she would teach and help me, but so would a girlfriend (but to a lesser degree). And i would probably be able to learn how to apply my techniques with more passion and emotion with a girlfriend.

Or would i learn most by repeatedly seducing girls off the street and into bed? Though this way, i'll probably have to learn though trial and error, rather than the girl having the courtesy to help and guide me around her body.

 

[Franco]

Humay

By learning, i mean how to touch, kiss and seduce a woman efficiently.

Or would i learn most by repeatedly seducing girls off the street and into bed? Though this way, i'll probably have to learn though trial and error, rather than the girl having the courtesy to help and guide me around her body.

I'm a bit confused about your question here. Are you asking what is the most efficient way to learn how to pick up women, or are you asking what is the most efficient way to learn how to be a good lover?

- Franco

 

[Humay]

Hi Franco,

Sorry for the vagueness. I'm talking about the complete package - but the more physical side. Obviously I can read all the theory on GC, but I can't really learn how to physically touch and caress a woman by reading articles online. I have to learn by actually doing it (or so I assume).

By touching, I mean the physical contact that occurs during deep-diving (approaching), during dates/before sex to arouse her, and during sex to heighten the experience.

So, I want to learn how to touch a woman so to make her crazy for me. By which way would you suggest?

1. Feeling up my girlfriend all day to gauge her interest is only going to piss her off
2. I don't think I would get the emotional connection with a FWB (which is the point I suppose). But I've got to learn how to connect with a girl emotionally by doing this too. I feel a FWB would only compensate for one side of the coin.
3. It would be hard to get through the 'learning phase' if I just learn by picking girls off the street and learning how to touch them by trial and error. I doubt many girls would be tolerant of an inexperienced guy fumbling over them, or be patient enough to guide me through it.

I hope that cleared things up for you

 

[Humay]

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[Humay]

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[Anonymous]

Lots of ways to go about this.

One, make friends, watch men who are at ease and smooth with women. Imitate the way they carry themselves, touch people in general. It's not just the act of touching, it's the vibe you give off. If you're thinking too much, staring at the place you're touching, moving awkwardly, it's going to be creepy. You need to learn how to touch people in general.

Shaking hands, touching people on the shoulder, side of the arm, elbow. Learning how to hug. Putting your hand on the small of her back, etc. There's so much "technical" aspect to this, but it's really supposed to be something natural and in rhythm. So start small. Learn how to touch people in everyday conversation. Incidental touch. You don't want to call attention to the act of touching. It has to feel intuitive. But to get there, it's gonna take practice and some trial and error. A lot of error.

But a lot of it has to do with how comfortable you are with yourself. If you feel awkward and stiff, you're gonna make other people feel weird and creeped out. Move slow, be relaxed. Slow down your breathing. It's hard to explain in text, it's much better to see it in person or have someone teach you...