I'm Just A Beginner

[Mystique]

Hello GC! wow! I'm so glad i could finally register (been having problems registering on the GC forum for a while now), and that I've finally decided to learn the social arts as a skill (I've been reading gc for more than a year and adopting its mindset and little of its game in my interactions). I hope will see it through. Here's a brief intro of me:
I'm Sugar (its not my real name but its what I'll be using on this forum) and I'm 19 and I live in Lagos, Nigeria. I'm on holiday after finishing my first year in college . I have a good walking posture exactly like the one prescribed by Chase even before i read gc. I was always that cool guy who had lots of female attention but did really nothing about It because of my religious background and believes. This stalled me as I would have been a natural. After highschool I decided to change and get good with girls, but i wasn't successful as a whole session in college has passed and I didn't get any girl although i did a handful of approaches and got the number of all except one even though i had no experience at all with stuff like this. I went on dates with some of the girls and although i didn't successfully kiss any of them (because i wasn't dominant enough), all the girls were obviously attracted to me. I also practiced flirting and eye contact flirting game with girls in my social circle who flirt back and are often receptive. Still it didn't get me laid. I'm also quite fashionable (I'm a bit into fashion) and i have a nice haircut. I have reached a certain level where i want to say to hell with society (religion and the likes) and pursue what i want (seduction, socialising, charisma, etc), and maybe one day I'll have a story to tell like Casanova. Any advice on how to start? I'm thinking of doing the newbie assignment but it might be a bit tough coz of the area i live- its a boring environment and I'm used to not going out and i don't really talk to people when I'm home (I live with my religious parents). It would be more fun to do when school resumes on January as I'll be staying on campus. The idea of approaching a total stranger still gives me the chills though

 

[Mr.Rob]

First off welcome to the boards!

I'm thinking of doing the newbie assignment but it might be a bit tough coz of the area i live- its a boring environment and I'm used to not going out and i don't really talk to people when I'm home (I live with my religious parents).

How does living in a boring environment make it tough to do the newbie assignment? Do you mean there isn't a high enough quantity of people in your hometown?

If that is the case and you really want to have an awesome social life like you say you do you need to start looking at your options to move out.

Any advice on how to start?

Do the Newbie assignment.

 

[disciple99]

hi sugar
I am having same problems like you I live in suburbs with religious parents too
but you can easily get rid of problems by practicing it in local malls or shops
and your college its biggest weapon in your arsenal.
keep going
yours
disciple 99

 

[Mystique]

Thanks a lot for the replies Mr. Rob and disciple99. I have made some comments on GC articles but never got a reply, whereas here I've gotten replies quite fast. Nice! @Mr. Rob I think I'm the one limiting myself probably because although I've lived here for a long time, i still feel like i don't know the place. This should be because I was in a boarding school so when i was home for holidays i didn't make friends and i spent most times indoor. Basically I think doing the newbie assignment would get me exploring and finding cool spots. I should start tomorrow.
@disciple99 thanks for the tip. Did you get to do the newbie assignment? If yes how successful was it? And it seems like you've been practicing the social arts where you live, how successful has that been too?
"Be the light and not the moth"
-Casanova

 

[Mr.Rob]

Basically I think doing the newbie assignment would get me exploring and finding cool spots. I should start tomorrow.

YES! Start Today!

Then come back and post a journal detailing what happened and how things went.

Don't postpone building an awesome life. Procrastination will lead to things never getting done.

Read the book "No Excuses" by Brian Tracy.

-Rob

 

[Edd--19]

It'll be great to hear how you get on Sugar!

Let us know how it goes.

 

[Mystique]

So I finally decided to do the newbie assignment and the reality i faced on my first day was quite annoying. The assignment for the first day is to find 4 places where you can meet the kinda women you like. I scouted my area for this and the only place I could find was the new shopping mall. That's the only shopping mall in my place and its located beside a big hotel. The bad thing about the shopping mall is that it's not fully functional as some shops are not opened and few people visit the mall. I only saw 4 girls my age who were shopping together, the rest were older women. This just confirmed my observation that the place i live is quite boring, not much is going on here and most people just stay indoors and if they want to have fun they go out to more interesting places away from here. This is quite an irony because the state i live in is the most lively and interesting and the most populated state in my country. Our states are much smaller so we have different areas in a state and not cities. Its just the area I live that's quite boring. That's why my best shot would be college (when school resumes January) and if I can earn some money I can live on my own in a more lively place. Another option that I haven't explored is the clubs around (I think there's one around), but I'm broke right now so that would have to wait. I think finances is my major obstacle coz if I had money I'd go stay with my friend for the holiday. He stays in a more lively area. Right now I'm depending on my parents for finances. It sucks. Basically I wonder what I'd be doing this holiday seduction wise. What do you guys think?

 

[Mr.Rob]

What do you guys think?

Find a way to make money and move the fuck out to somewhere where there is an actual population of people/women.

That is if you're serious about getting this area of your life handled.

 

[Edd--19]

What do you guys think?

Find a way to make money and move the fuck out to somewhere where there is an actual population of people/women.

That is if you're serious about getting this area of your life handled.

Seconded... There is a video from RSDJulien on it here... I can't remember when he says what he did but he moved countries just to learn this. Hell, I moved to a huge party Uni just to learn game.