I'm New TTF, need Help.

[FutureMaster]

Hello, I'm so bad at this that I don't know how to start.



I am a TTF, a true TTF. I don't want to get involved anymore, my problem is that I'm terrible at talking to a girl and understand me, I probably lied about my age in order to be accepted in this great community.



I am someone who learned the art of flirting/seduction recently, I always believed that being able to talk to a girl was just sculpting a good body or face, but I realized that this is not all. My problems are: I don't know how to talk to a woman (I know about getting in front of her and never behind her) I know that instead of a simple and boring "Hello" there is something better. And that's what I want to learn, how do I start a conversation without that "Hello?". And when I start it, what do I do???



I need you, the true Masters. Give me recommendations, a book, everything that exists to learn about this.

*If something is wrong, it was not translated* by me

 

[Rakehell]

Won’t happen overnight dude. What I’d recommend most is a better grasp on emotional intelligence and social skills. Subcommunication, and being grounded in your sexuality.

You’ll see the biggest gains starting there. Assuming you’re starting out from zero, i’d take every opportunity to learn from people you think are cool. Even more so guys OTHER people think are cool.

Find some role models, only watch media with role models that are positive. Dive into social circles without burning them down with unwelcome advances. See how you’re received.

Build off your starter personality and find things you can add in with congruence. Do some soul searching, try to find things you can correct that are off putting to others consistently and research from there.

Anything else would be putting a bandaid on a much bigger hole.

Imo books are worthless without your own experiences to pull insights from, it’d be like reading a sentence in your language that makes no sense.

 

[Zoro]

What's TTF?

Build up your self-esteem.

I'll give you some direction on that.

Masculinity is the ability to be firm and penetrate the world to create, while also being vulnerable to it. You want proof, look at your manhood, it's masculinity summed up.

So how to be firm? You need some self-esteem and some purpose. You want to have something in life that you want to bring into existence, or at least a reason to go forth into the difficult parts of life and DIVE into it with VIGOR.

I recommend building some sort of skill that is also a social related thing. Something like musicianship, sports or toastmasters. Something that requires you to develop yourself will build your self-esteem and give you direction, and having people in your life only builds that further.

You want to develop a growth mindset. Doing hard things that have purpose, will make you grow and feel great.

THEN talking to women becomes easier because now you have an interesting world that YOU like, that you feel good about that you can invite women into...

Not knowing what to say is a symptom of lacking all of the above.

And the techniques and things we talk about here, are more useful when building off of that foundation.

Besides that you can work on your "fundamentals" now. Search the articles or the forum for info on that.