I'm Unable To Talk To Girls In Nightclubs; Willing To Pay $10,000 For A Solution

[Rain]

Nothing has worked so far.

Hi,

Did you end up making any progress with your approach anxiety?

 

[Zoro]

I'm unable to talk to girls in bars and nightclubs.

Every weekend I go out and i see other guys dancing and talking to girls while I'm just standing around unable to start any sort of interaction with any girls.

Even when a girl stares at me or makes it obvious she wants to meet me, I'm unable to talk to her.

I've spent years and a lot of money to try to solve this problem.

there is no way around the fact that eventually you will have to break through the fear of approaching at the night club and feel the horrible anxiety and awkwardness of looking so nervous and stupid, and do it anyway.

I think Chase just had an article on embracing looking dumb while learning. I recommend it, it’s what you need.

I remember my first approaches and they were cringe worthy. Shaking, mumbling, saying dumb things, barely audible. Guess what I actually got a date anyway.

I'm still dating a girl, she likes to remind me how I was shaking with nerves when I met her.

Nothing can give you the balls to approach. You already have balls, but you've got to use them.

Either you stand there with a drink in your hand feeling dumb and powerless, or you embrace the fact that you have to walk up to this girl and be ok with having the whole club laugh at you, throw drinks on you, and condemn you to loser status with an L tattoo on your forehead (spoiler: no one will even notice).

$10,000 or not, that's your path.

Edit:

I actually have the closest thing to a magic bullet for you. May or may not help, but it helped me with my day game anxiety. Make friends with someone who's good at night game and stand right next to him when he does approaches. See how goddamn easy it is. See what he says. And just do the damn thing after that.

I did something like that with friend learning day game, he was already solid, and we were meeting girls and just fucking around doing fun but socially awkward things to push our comfort zones. Like walking into a department store with shirts off, and sunglasses, with deep voices saying hi to everyone.

Make a game of it bro. You're literally too scared to make a fool of yourself, because you take yourself too seriously. You're only a man, capable of greatness but not great yet. Time to put your steel into the fire of fear and forge yourself with the hammer of courage. Fucking step up my man.

This is love we're giving you. We want to see you succeed, so we're telling you what you NEED to hear, not what you want to hear. You can pay someone 10,000 to have them say what you want to hear. And you'll be no more of a man. That's your work and you're fully capable of doing it without shelling out the cash, by testing out the dozens of recommendations already given you, or asking more with HUMBLE acceptance that you don't know what to do and these mofos already went through the hell fires to learn the wisdom bestowed upon your unworthy head. Then you must dance in the flames yourself and learn some poetry.

Fuckin A.

 

[Therasen]

You need to pay a coach to throw you in, however I can't promise that will solve the issue in the long run. I still have massive AA approaching solo. A coach however did at least show me it was possible (he literally pushed me into set - physically MADE ME talk to women).

 

[HumanWhoLearns]

You can spend all the money you want to on these self-help things, but if you have a self-image problem it's all going to be a waste until you fix that. Throwing a lot of money at a problem is dumb to me because you can usually find cheaper resources with similar information.

 

[Slick]

Get drunk and / or pretend like she’s really ugly

I’ll take my $10,000 via Venmo