LR Improvised cooking date

[Seppuku]

Hi,

I'm Seppuku, a french expatriate working in Doha Qatar, 46, divorced father of two. I started reading Girls Chase material in summer 2012 but really kicked myself out of inaction last year in June 2014. I soon found out that online dating works very well here and since October 2014 I've been scoring some success.

It's Saturday, August 22, I just went through the most monumental flake of my life, and my previous date Maria has turned completely crazy and mad at me. I am starting to wonder if I'm losing my touch. I open WeChat and hit maybe 15 or twenty girls with "love me tender love me true" opening message. WeChat is a mobile-based sort of Facebook, with online profiles and the option of sending invites to "People Nearby", and I already owes it several successful interactions. Within the morning I get maybe 6 new contacts and start chatting with them. Jane, among them.

"Hi Jane, I'm Tarzan" "What a unique name!" "Lol I'm Seppuku, how are you?" then basic rapport building chat. She's cutish, 28, Filipina, widow mother of two, came to Qatar to earn a living. The Philippines girls make up a lot of the dating market here, along with the African and Lebanese girls. I quickly ask if she's available tonight, but no, she can only go out in afternoon. I'm not available the afternoon. Chat goes off. I have other ongoing attempts with other girls but they all end up in a flop.

Sunday morning I'm at work (yes, Muslim country...) and I greet Jane with "Good morning". Polite answer from her then nothing. Later in early afternoon she tries to video call me, which I decline, being at work. We start to chat again and this time she's leading the questions. Hook point! I tell her "Any day you're available around 5pm let me know we can have drinks" "- Where? - ... - What drinks? - ... " she then inquires about my marital status, where I live, if it's a flat, if I live alone etc... "What if I meet you?" she says. I ask: "Are you asking me for marriage?" "No haha" "Good. Then we can meet." "Ok next time my boss is away we can meet. Maybe tomorrow". Pictures exchange. In the evening I have the surprise to receive her video call request at around 10 pm. Nice to see her. Yes she's cute. I show her I have a glass of wine. "Give me a bottle of wine!" "Come and drink with me!" "Haha ok".

On Monday morning she asks if I can meet her at 1pm. "No, I'm free starting from 5pm". By around 4:30 pm I text her "I'm about to leave work. Can you meet now?" Yes she can. I pick her at her home then bring her to a mall 5 minutes away from my place for a drink. When I arrived at the meeting I was determined to take her to bed and give her a good fuck. When I see her now, she's cute but not as much as I anticipated. Well, she's still cutish, cheerful personality, easy going, smiling. OK, I'll go for it anyway. We chat, build rapport, lots of corner eyes contact and smile, plus voice, but I don't touch her (daytime, public place in a Muslim country... But also now I'm learning to let tension build up before touching her for the first time). Drinks finished, I pay the bill. "Look I had no plans beyond this drink, was thinking I would do a dinner on my own. I can drive you home... or you come with me to my home and we cook something" she laughs and agrees to come to my home.

On the way home I take her hand and she welcomes the physical contact as a relief. Now we're in my home, cooking, she helps me with cutting the veggies, giggles all the time, takes pictures. I kiss her gently, have her in my arms, hug her. We kiss. Dinner served with glass of wine. Nice. Now we're on my sofa, she's in my arms. Am caressing her bare arms. We watch some pictures, some youtube. My hands are under her tee shirt. "You like my touch?" I whisper. Obviously she does. She checks if I have body hair on my chest. Questions like "What do you like in girls?" I return her the question. Some more comforting to do. Then under the tee shirt my hand goes to her boobs. "Just checking if there are some" I tell her. "Wonderbra stuff or not, I mean". Yes of course they are real. "Want to touch me?" I take her hand and put it on my belly. "Here there's more body hair". She caresses a bit. I take her hand and put it on my dick, through trousers. "Here is my friend Paul. He's my good friend." "What?" "His name is Paul". I am now playing with her nipples. Still under tee shirt. "Is this where you sleep?" she says? No it's not, and I carry her to my bed. Clothes off now. Final check, I tell her am not doing nothing that she does not want to do. Smiled silent consent. I start with sucking her boobs and soon am shagging her. My god she comes in less than a minute, quite a vocal one. Later we do a second time, then I drive her home.

First date lay, feels good. This date template seems a very effective one.

Cheers,

Seppuku

 

[ray_zorse]

Smooth pull. It appears you're taking some more risks in regard to moving faster and shooting for the first date lay based on missed opportunity with Maria (or was it Maria 2) in your journal. Good move. You might lose a few through miscalibration, but overall I am sure it is far more effective. Good job on hitting that window "is this where you sleep?". Yes, even after pulling home and beginning to touch you can still miss a window, as I know to my detriment (luckily she wasn't that hot though, so the experience gained was well worth it for later, hahaha). Overall a great read, good job, and it's nice to see a report in the main section of the boards.
Ray
PS It probably wasn't necessary here, but just to make absolutely sure you can build compliance by saying "you will be my kitchen hand" and then ordering her to pass you stuff, cut things up etc. It doesn't hurt to also be building compliance in the initial coffeeshop/bar if you aren't already. I also have a theory that her resistance is lowered if you touch her while she is concentrating on a task, you can stand behind her feeling her up and whispering what a sexy kitchen hand she is. I have also found it's necessary to award her a break and make out a little prior to serving the meal as she can go cold if you delay too long. But I am sure I am preaching to the choir here as you had those aspects well under control.

 

[Seppuku]

Thanks Ray,

I am writing for myself new objectives. Being more aggressive is one of them. And you're absolutely right, getting compliance is something I usually overlook as I am focusing on my sexy vibe. I will put this in my objectives too. In this case it was not necessary as you pointed out, everything was flowing smoothly.

Cheers,

Seppuku
PS. I am reading your new adventures in Japan, lol ;-) great move with Erika

 

[Seppuku]

@radeng: Thanks. Cooking dates are great. Planning to do more of that lol. Maybe this coming saturday.

 

[sapiens86]

@seppuku Interesting opener with the "Love me tender" line lol.. How did you thought about it! and what's ur response to it when the girls reply?

 

[Seppuku]

Hey,

In early 2015, Colt (one of the GC writers) had a product called "Laid on Tinder" where he advocated the "song opener" among others. I thought about this Elvis Presley song, tried it out, and it seemed to work so it became my favorite opener for some time.

The idea is to take her out of her auto pilot which something that looks different than the tons of "Hi" she is getting. Grab her attention.

Nowadays I open with pretty much anything. It can be as simple as "Hey, how are you? I'm Seppuku". Or just "My name is Seppuku." If she has pictures advertising her boobs and shapes, I would go with something like "Nice shoes.", or "Nice outfit." very low key, to contrast from the tons of "Woow beautiful" she is getting.

Seppuku

 

[sapiens86]

Cool! Am gonna check out Colt's product later.. thanks for the reply!