Girlfriend (at least since the beginning of our relationship) has no male orbiters she hangs out with (just once in a while some random guy will reach out to her that she’ll share a few texts with and then let it trail off), or really even girlfriends she does anything with besides go to lunch with at work once in a while. She works in a female dominated environment at her fathers company, so everyone already knows shes off-limits.
She doesn’t drink without me or her mother and father, let alone ever party unless its with me or my small friend circle.
All in all, doesn’t do anything out of line really and has a good understanding of single vs relationship behaviour and relationship boundaries.
Ran into a different situation recently- she’s got 2 good girlfriends, 1 is half way across the world and the other works with her (we’ll call this one Molly) The one that works with her (Molly)- they use to hangout outside of work, my girl had a social circle in high school and her ex boyfriend was in that social circle. Molly’s fiance was also one of the guys that was in that social circle.
Anyways Molly is getting married and having a bachelorette getaway over the weekend from Thursday to Sunday. Molly, my girlfriend, and 3 other girls will be going out of town to a city 2 hours away and getting a house on the country side. According to my girlfriend, during this time they’ll be engaging in a few activities, drinking with arts and crafts, hanging out at the house, grabbing lunch and dinner at a few places, etc. The only night they plan on drinking and going out is saturday night where they plan on going to a cocktail bar and relaxing. They even have the whole itinerary on some bachelorette app.
Now normally, if this was just some random girls trip, I’d forbid it using Chase’s methods, but this seems like a unique case. I’ve told her to go have fun with her group of girls, its a bachelorette getaway with one of her close friends getting married where shes a bridesmaid. Obviously, there’s always risk and you can’t really control anyone so anything could happen. But my girlfriend is super adamant about emphasizing how tame the whole thing will be. My only rule was no strippers lol
Naturally I still feel skeptical and am not fully comfortable with it as it adds temptation into the relationship to some degree, but forbidding her from a bachelorette getaway where shes a bridemaid definitely doesn’t feel like the right move.
Did I make the right move by telling her to have fun and jokingly say “no strippers”?
She doesn’t drink without me or her mother and father, let alone ever party unless its with me or my small friend circle.
All in all, doesn’t do anything out of line really and has a good understanding of single vs relationship behaviour and relationship boundaries.
Ran into a different situation recently- she’s got 2 good girlfriends, 1 is half way across the world and the other works with her (we’ll call this one Molly) The one that works with her (Molly)- they use to hangout outside of work, my girl had a social circle in high school and her ex boyfriend was in that social circle. Molly’s fiance was also one of the guys that was in that social circle.
Anyways Molly is getting married and having a bachelorette getaway over the weekend from Thursday to Sunday. Molly, my girlfriend, and 3 other girls will be going out of town to a city 2 hours away and getting a house on the country side. According to my girlfriend, during this time they’ll be engaging in a few activities, drinking with arts and crafts, hanging out at the house, grabbing lunch and dinner at a few places, etc. The only night they plan on drinking and going out is saturday night where they plan on going to a cocktail bar and relaxing. They even have the whole itinerary on some bachelorette app.
Now normally, if this was just some random girls trip, I’d forbid it using Chase’s methods, but this seems like a unique case. I’ve told her to go have fun with her group of girls, its a bachelorette getaway with one of her close friends getting married where shes a bridesmaid. Obviously, there’s always risk and you can’t really control anyone so anything could happen. But my girlfriend is super adamant about emphasizing how tame the whole thing will be. My only rule was no strippers lol
Naturally I still feel skeptical and am not fully comfortable with it as it adds temptation into the relationship to some degree, but forbidding her from a bachelorette getaway where shes a bridemaid definitely doesn’t feel like the right move.
Did I make the right move by telling her to have fun and jokingly say “no strippers”?
