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*Note: This thread isn't about complaining - it's about BEING AWARE OF A REALITY and FINDING THE RIGHT SOLUTIONS TO REACH SUCCESS!
Hey guys,
This is for anyone concerned about their height (or lack thereof) and whether or not it's stunting their game; I searched the boards and the main site and saw little addressing this. As a shorter guy and someone who's done the research (which is shudder worthy) and been openly ridiculed by friends, family, and women of interest for being short, I feel for you if you're under 5'6" - 5'7". I do not consider the most common suggestion - male "lifts" - to be a practical solution if they add beyond 1 to 2 inches. Even at two inches the change can seem dramatic for a shorter man (for people who know you and when you take the shoes off), the shoe becomes difficult to walk sexily in, and sizing/fitting a huge block in your loafers becomes troublesome. I know from personal experience. Still suck it up! This thread isn't about complaining - it's about finding solutions. It's not impossible to get laid as a shorter male (after all, how else were we born??). What it will require, from what I've seen in videos and from real life role models, is greater chutzpah, iron-clad fundamentals, edginess, and a forgiving attitude to date and seduce attractive women; a.k.a. just a bit more of what a regular or above average height man would need.
I have posted below a quote which is a reply Chase gave about height to a worried commenter. He's mentioned that an article about this may be coming out soon (Chase - any heads up on that?) The bold and italicized portions are parts that I considered especially noteworthy:
So notice two things:
1) Chase's first experience with a sexy man was a 5' tall salesman who could bed 6' tall blondies. If that doesn't motivate you, you may be a lost cause!
2) Chase is 6' tall, yet he still likes wearing shoes that boost his height! Since Chase is a man that is all about sprezzatura and ruthless efficiency in all things - including pickup - it's obvious that Jesus, lord, height makes a difference.
Now, WATCH THIS VIDEO! This is VERY important. The maker of this video took the time to compile several very helpful videos into bite-sized bits. In just 10 minutes, it'll show you what you're up against, external aids that can help, and the attitude that will make you successful regardless:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ldpWKL4-KCE#t=250
Also, watch this video, just for re-emphasis
http://youtu.be/ldpWKL4-KCE?t=16s
Now, if you're like me, you love a challenge and aren't afraid to see the dark side. I want you to read some things women have said about short men on twitter: https://twitter.com/heightismwatch
That may seem extreme. Here's what you should know - I've had real life experiences reflecting such sentiments from female friends and family! Still, you must remember that many guys don't exactly love fat chicks either but they still get laid (from what I hear). Just accept that girls automatically consider you "less than" from a physical standpoint. Knowledge is power, babe.
That's where a forgiving attitude comes in: you must know that there seems to be an inherent disdain for short men in women and in some cases, from taller men. You must also accept this and like women anyway. Resisting it will only bring you agony. It's not even just about you - women taller than their men receive lots of pressure - both overt and covert - from other men and women.
I haven't had much success yet but as I continue to grow in this journey I'll comment on any insights I have into to this topic.
Stay cool, fellow shorties!
Hey guys,
This is for anyone concerned about their height (or lack thereof) and whether or not it's stunting their game; I searched the boards and the main site and saw little addressing this. As a shorter guy and someone who's done the research (which is shudder worthy) and been openly ridiculed by friends, family, and women of interest for being short, I feel for you if you're under 5'6" - 5'7". I do not consider the most common suggestion - male "lifts" - to be a practical solution if they add beyond 1 to 2 inches. Even at two inches the change can seem dramatic for a shorter man (for people who know you and when you take the shoes off), the shoe becomes difficult to walk sexily in, and sizing/fitting a huge block in your loafers becomes troublesome. I know from personal experience. Still suck it up! This thread isn't about complaining - it's about finding solutions. It's not impossible to get laid as a shorter male (after all, how else were we born??). What it will require, from what I've seen in videos and from real life role models, is greater chutzpah, iron-clad fundamentals, edginess, and a forgiving attitude to date and seduce attractive women; a.k.a. just a bit more of what a regular or above average height man would need.
I have posted below a quote which is a reply Chase gave about height to a worried commenter. He's mentioned that an article about this may be coming out soon (Chase - any heads up on that?) The bold and italicized portions are parts that I considered especially noteworthy:
Re: Height
Posted by Chase Amante on Wednesday, 15 May 2013
Author
Anon-
I haven't personally had to struggle with height, so I can only tell you what I've seen with guys around me, rather than share any direct experience (although I will say for me, even at 6' I still meet girls taller than me, and much of the time I don't even notice they're taller than me until after we've already slept together). First off, height's clearly an issue with women - girls like tall guys. Tall men have an inherent attraction advantage, and the taller the better. If you're shorter, outside of getting your shins sawed, the best thing you can do about height is getting lifts - you can find some well-made shoes for men that look attractive and stylish and add up to 3 or 4 inches to your height. My preferences even with decent height is for boots that give me a 1" or 2" raise when possible.
That said, the first guy I was ever around who was good with women was a 5' Puerto Rican tire salesman with a beer gut. He'd routinely pull women who were 5'4" and up, and he slept with our boss's 6'1" model-esque cousin visiting from Britain who kept calling him even after she'd gone back home to tell him she couldn't have sex with her boyfriend anymore because all she could think about was him.
I've since known a number of shorter guys who did very well with women. The ones I know have a range of styles: high energy, bold, and fun; blunt, direct, and sexual; and smooth, "cute" (his word), and coming across as a highly knowledgeable authority figure who uses offers to help women with pointers on their lives or careers to allow him to invite them somewhere private... where they succumb to his "cuteness."
Anyway, I'll see about getting a post up on what it's like meeting women as a short guy - I'll probably ask one of my shorter friends if he can write this up, so it's not just me telling you what I've seen but rather someone who's actually had to deal with height issues. Jerome, the guy who wrote "Asian Guys and White Girls: The Secret to Success," by the way, is one of my short friends who gets good results (he uses a lot of blunt, direct sexual game - gets him a fair number of blow outs, but also a surprising number of really cute girls - almost all of them taller than him - in bed).
One other note on height in the meantime - most women seem to use it as an "excuse" when they simply aren't attracted to you in general. Not to dismiss the role it plays in attraction entirely - height does have an impact - but the tighter guys get their fundamentals, the less I see height ever get mentioned around them. In this way, it's kind of like race - when you're still new, you can get plenty of girls who won't date you because of your race, but once you're good, they half don't even realize you're short / a different race / have crooked teeth / whatever until after they've already gone to bed with you a few times.
Chase
So notice two things:
1) Chase's first experience with a sexy man was a 5' tall salesman who could bed 6' tall blondies. If that doesn't motivate you, you may be a lost cause!
2) Chase is 6' tall, yet he still likes wearing shoes that boost his height! Since Chase is a man that is all about sprezzatura and ruthless efficiency in all things - including pickup - it's obvious that Jesus, lord, height makes a difference.
Now, WATCH THIS VIDEO! This is VERY important. The maker of this video took the time to compile several very helpful videos into bite-sized bits. In just 10 minutes, it'll show you what you're up against, external aids that can help, and the attitude that will make you successful regardless:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ldpWKL4-KCE#t=250
Also, watch this video, just for re-emphasis
http://youtu.be/ldpWKL4-KCE?t=16s
Now, if you're like me, you love a challenge and aren't afraid to see the dark side. I want you to read some things women have said about short men on twitter: https://twitter.com/heightismwatch
That may seem extreme. Here's what you should know - I've had real life experiences reflecting such sentiments from female friends and family! Still, you must remember that many guys don't exactly love fat chicks either but they still get laid (from what I hear). Just accept that girls automatically consider you "less than" from a physical standpoint. Knowledge is power, babe.
That's where a forgiving attitude comes in: you must know that there seems to be an inherent disdain for short men in women and in some cases, from taller men. You must also accept this and like women anyway. Resisting it will only bring you agony. It's not even just about you - women taller than their men receive lots of pressure - both overt and covert - from other men and women.
I haven't had much success yet but as I continue to grow in this journey I'll comment on any insights I have into to this topic.
Stay cool, fellow shorties!