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I've been busy as hell lately just started school, so I haven't been keeping up with all my outings like I like to. This one I needed to write down to A. Figure out exactly what I did that went wrong and learn, B. what I can do next time to avoid this. When I first started writing field reports I only wrote for myself to look back on and see what I need to work on but now that I've been on here and interacted with the forum I have realized how cool this feature of Girls Chase really is. With that said I would love for yall to give me some feedback if you see something I need to get a handle on or just comments/concerns in general. Because you all have wisdom that I do not! Anyway I discovered a new mall recently the same distance from my house as the other mall (45 fucking minutes!) and decided to check it out. It was rainy and dreary outside which induced somewhat of a drab vibe. Approached 2 girls toady because there really weren't a whole lot out and about. My goal was to use some kino on every girl.
The first girl we talked for a second found out she was 17 and we parted ways just getting myself to feel social really (surprisingly hard to do when its literally raining on your head).
The second girl I was in the actual mall walking around noticed a cute girl behind me so I stopped to look at some kiosk until she passed me I caught up pre opened and said
Me: "Hey hold up a second... I noticed you walking by and just had to come tell you you're the cutest girl I've seen all day!"
Her: smiling /taken slightly aback in a good way "Wow uhm. Thanks! Whats your name?"
Me: "Im Rob. and you are? (I stuttered like a mother fucker when I asked for her name for some reason ha)"
Her: "ha, Im Liz!"
Me: I quickly gained my composure "Liz nice to meet you. (we shake hands while standing in the middle hall of the mall) Here lets keep walking shall we."
Her: "Okay"
Me: I feel like I got pretty good investment right off the bat here and she was then following my lead as we walked toward some store. "So what are you shopping for today?"
Her: "I have to get some stuff for my job im about to start."
Me: "oh nice where are you about to work?"
Her: "Well im about to be a Hooters girl (said this kinda like she didn't want me to know I knew I needed to try and qualify her for this)."
Me: "Hell yeah, how did you end up scoring that job?" -Better qualification would have been~ No way I love Hooters girls w/playfull kino/ eyecontact
Her: "Ahh I just turned in an application and got an interview, you know.."
Me: Turn and look at her "This your first job? or no you look older than that?"
Her: "haha no definently not my first job. In 21! but I turn 22 soon!"
Me: "Really? whens your birthday?"
Her: "at the end of September!"
Me: "Ha no way. Let me guess (put up hands to my temples and look her in the eye like im reading her mind) September 29th."
Her: "Haha wow close but , no 28th!"
Me: "No way mines on the 29th. (hold up hand for high five) Libra power baby." -High fives are pretty damn platonic, thinking next time make sexy eye contact and touch her arm kino.
Her: "Yeah! Libras are the shit! Lil waynes a Libra Blah blah." She starts asking me what I do for a job and what not and I started going on a subtle mini rant on how my Dad and I own a business since he lost his job although I should have just told her what I do and got the conversation back to her.
We get to where the mall dead ends and I ask her what store she's going into next and she said she was just following me. I then propose we go get some coffee together in the malls coffee shop. I make some banter about her following my lead and inquire whats in her Victoria secret bag.
Me: "whats in the bag, you said work uniform?"
Her: "Oh yeah its stupid I had to buy a thong for work. They said that I could either wear no underwear or a thong which no undies is gross!"
Me: Badly needed a chase frame here.. opted out for "I like thongs (sexual eye contact).) Yeah fucking real witty here Rob "So why are thongs stupid?"
Her: "because they ride up your ass and are uncomfortable, have you ever tried one on?"
Me: "No, but let me see what you picked out?"
Her: "Uhh. No I don't think I know you well enough."
Me: "Why not that's silly. I'd show you my thong if I bought one.. id even wear it in front of you. But.. only in your or mine bedroom with the lights low."
Her: "haha oh god.."
On the instant date: after this conversation exchange we walk to the coffee shop. I order my drink and she hers in which the lady preparing the drinks assumes its on one ticket (I was planning on splitting the bill), I then ask if Im paying for her drink in which she says yes. I don't want to make a big deal about paying for the 2 dollar drink so I tell her she's buying drinks on the next date. We sit and wait for the drinks and when they're ready she goes without me suggesting her to retrieve them (I felt like this was compliance as she assumed I wasn't going to be a stereotypical "gentleman").
I deep dive her and get her talking about what she wants to be and how she thinks she's going through her "bad" stage by oh my gosh wait for it ... "smoking weed" such a bad girl. I kind of smirk and ask her what other "bad" activities she participates in trying to get on a more sexual basis. She then told me how she wants to be a detective and has to become a police officer first in which I tease about how she's going to pull over all the young pot smokers and raid there stashes so she can get lit. Everything seems to be going smooth we ask each other questions and the vibe is decent (could definitely be better need more intense eye contact, sexual tension, kino) and at one point were so comfortable in conversation the vibe feels like we've already slept together and are just catching up but not in a platonic way. Literally right after having that thought I get this feeling like were already a "thing" and a done deal. I think my brain went into need mode when this happened like I must escalate and fuck this girl. At that instant the vibe subtlety changed and the conversation died a little bit, I feel she sensed my neediness and then said it was time for her to get going and for me to walk with her back to her car. Looking back I think this was a shit test to see if I would get her to stay and continue the good conversation or go with her and puppy dog her hoping to somehow escalate the vibe. Anyway stupidly decided to walk with her back to the exit where her car was, in the opposite direction of where my car was.
I think me following her lead put her in the dominant "in control" position even though I still led the conversation. We walked and talked until we reached the exit where her car was and the vibe definitely went stale (now that I look back). For some reason I had this thought that if I could get in the car with her I could escalate there or get contact info while she drove me back to my car, although I don't know why I thought I could pull that off despite not letting her know my intention. Anyway we got to the exit she told me it was nice meeting me and said I could keep in touch with facebook. I declined and told her I didn't realize I was on the wrong side of the mall and could use a ride back to my car, which was a fib that I think she could smell which got her uncomfortable. Anyway basically the end of the story I turned into a needy little bitch and dried her pussy up.
Moral of the story and my new goal is to push the limits with girls I just meet, since there is literally no harm worst case scenario she gets ticked off and leaves, so I can find out where the limits are. This is better than not pushing the limits and losing the girl slowly but surely by being a needy bitch. DONT BE A NEEDY BITCH and don't get attached to a girl I don't know or truly care about, instead escalate the interaction as far as possible till you get blown out or (more preferably) blown off.
The first girl we talked for a second found out she was 17 and we parted ways just getting myself to feel social really (surprisingly hard to do when its literally raining on your head).
The second girl I was in the actual mall walking around noticed a cute girl behind me so I stopped to look at some kiosk until she passed me I caught up pre opened and said
Me: "Hey hold up a second... I noticed you walking by and just had to come tell you you're the cutest girl I've seen all day!"
Her: smiling /taken slightly aback in a good way "Wow uhm. Thanks! Whats your name?"
Me: "Im Rob. and you are? (I stuttered like a mother fucker when I asked for her name for some reason ha)"
Her: "ha, Im Liz!"
Me: I quickly gained my composure "Liz nice to meet you. (we shake hands while standing in the middle hall of the mall) Here lets keep walking shall we."
Her: "Okay"
Me: I feel like I got pretty good investment right off the bat here and she was then following my lead as we walked toward some store. "So what are you shopping for today?"
Her: "I have to get some stuff for my job im about to start."
Me: "oh nice where are you about to work?"
Her: "Well im about to be a Hooters girl (said this kinda like she didn't want me to know I knew I needed to try and qualify her for this)."
Me: "Hell yeah, how did you end up scoring that job?" -Better qualification would have been~ No way I love Hooters girls w/playfull kino/ eyecontact
Her: "Ahh I just turned in an application and got an interview, you know.."
Me: Turn and look at her "This your first job? or no you look older than that?"
Her: "haha no definently not my first job. In 21! but I turn 22 soon!"
Me: "Really? whens your birthday?"
Her: "at the end of September!"
Me: "Ha no way. Let me guess (put up hands to my temples and look her in the eye like im reading her mind) September 29th."
Her: "Haha wow close but , no 28th!"
Me: "No way mines on the 29th. (hold up hand for high five) Libra power baby." -High fives are pretty damn platonic, thinking next time make sexy eye contact and touch her arm kino.
Her: "Yeah! Libras are the shit! Lil waynes a Libra Blah blah." She starts asking me what I do for a job and what not and I started going on a subtle mini rant on how my Dad and I own a business since he lost his job although I should have just told her what I do and got the conversation back to her.
We get to where the mall dead ends and I ask her what store she's going into next and she said she was just following me. I then propose we go get some coffee together in the malls coffee shop. I make some banter about her following my lead and inquire whats in her Victoria secret bag.
Me: "whats in the bag, you said work uniform?"
Her: "Oh yeah its stupid I had to buy a thong for work. They said that I could either wear no underwear or a thong which no undies is gross!"
Me: Badly needed a chase frame here.. opted out for "I like thongs (sexual eye contact).) Yeah fucking real witty here Rob "So why are thongs stupid?"
Her: "because they ride up your ass and are uncomfortable, have you ever tried one on?"
Me: "No, but let me see what you picked out?"
Her: "Uhh. No I don't think I know you well enough."
Me: "Why not that's silly. I'd show you my thong if I bought one.. id even wear it in front of you. But.. only in your or mine bedroom with the lights low."
Her: "haha oh god.."
On the instant date: after this conversation exchange we walk to the coffee shop. I order my drink and she hers in which the lady preparing the drinks assumes its on one ticket (I was planning on splitting the bill), I then ask if Im paying for her drink in which she says yes. I don't want to make a big deal about paying for the 2 dollar drink so I tell her she's buying drinks on the next date. We sit and wait for the drinks and when they're ready she goes without me suggesting her to retrieve them (I felt like this was compliance as she assumed I wasn't going to be a stereotypical "gentleman").
I deep dive her and get her talking about what she wants to be and how she thinks she's going through her "bad" stage by oh my gosh wait for it ... "smoking weed" such a bad girl. I kind of smirk and ask her what other "bad" activities she participates in trying to get on a more sexual basis. She then told me how she wants to be a detective and has to become a police officer first in which I tease about how she's going to pull over all the young pot smokers and raid there stashes so she can get lit. Everything seems to be going smooth we ask each other questions and the vibe is decent (could definitely be better need more intense eye contact, sexual tension, kino) and at one point were so comfortable in conversation the vibe feels like we've already slept together and are just catching up but not in a platonic way. Literally right after having that thought I get this feeling like were already a "thing" and a done deal. I think my brain went into need mode when this happened like I must escalate and fuck this girl. At that instant the vibe subtlety changed and the conversation died a little bit, I feel she sensed my neediness and then said it was time for her to get going and for me to walk with her back to her car. Looking back I think this was a shit test to see if I would get her to stay and continue the good conversation or go with her and puppy dog her hoping to somehow escalate the vibe. Anyway stupidly decided to walk with her back to the exit where her car was, in the opposite direction of where my car was.
I think me following her lead put her in the dominant "in control" position even though I still led the conversation. We walked and talked until we reached the exit where her car was and the vibe definitely went stale (now that I look back). For some reason I had this thought that if I could get in the car with her I could escalate there or get contact info while she drove me back to my car, although I don't know why I thought I could pull that off despite not letting her know my intention. Anyway we got to the exit she told me it was nice meeting me and said I could keep in touch with facebook. I declined and told her I didn't realize I was on the wrong side of the mall and could use a ride back to my car, which was a fib that I think she could smell which got her uncomfortable. Anyway basically the end of the story I turned into a needy little bitch and dried her pussy up.
Moral of the story and my new goal is to push the limits with girls I just meet, since there is literally no harm worst case scenario she gets ticked off and leaves, so I can find out where the limits are. This is better than not pushing the limits and losing the girl slowly but surely by being a needy bitch. DONT BE A NEEDY BITCH and don't get attached to a girl I don't know or truly care about, instead escalate the interaction as far as possible till you get blown out or (more preferably) blown off.
