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Hey guys, this gonna' be more rant/discussion style thinking so bear that in mind while I type what I think haha.
So recently, I've been experiencing women investing way more into me. They'll buy me food, give me rides, ditch family to hang out with me. I'm definitely not in a place where this is completely normal and intuitive for me, so it's put me in a weird thought pattern.
I was just thinking, "this is weird. Girls will leave what their doing to hang out with me. Why? I never used to be like this." It's something I'm not used to, and it's really interesting. All the experiences in my life haven't really prepared me for this kind of positive reinforcment I guess.
It's also got me thinking about the types of girls I go after. Usually it's not an alpha female to be honest. It's just a regular girl, cute of course, but personality and personal development wise, it's not like they have perfect confidence or express themselves in a way that's higher value than myself. I want to start going after alpha girls, though. If I keep improving, this is only going to get worse (better) and I'll end up hurting a girl who isn't strong enough to handle it. Sometimes if a girl is really into me, I almost feel bad. I feel bad because I'm not gonna' get into a relationship with her. I Wouldn't get into a relationship with a girl that doesn't at least somewhat intimidate me or dramatically make me a better person. This makes me happy though, because the girls I get will be higher quality and better for my development.
Girls that don't give me that gut feeling when I see them aren't girls I want in my life for any long while. I know I'm not going to go forwards with them but I'm going to go backwards. They're really fun for a fuck buddy or a one night stand as fucked up as that may sound but unless she brings to the table something that I can't already see myself then I can't see myself being with them for long periods of time. I feel like I'll end up hurting them or they'll end up hurting me. I know I'm not anywhere near mastery just from that - because if I were at mastery I wouldn't be so selfish and I'd love all girls equally. I guess that's what they mean when they say playing above or below your level. How did you guys experience this?
Another thing I've been thinking about is emotional waves and the undercurrent of vibe in game. Vibe for me has always been one of those fluid, undefined kind of things. When I first started game, I had no idea what this was and couldn't control it at all. It was either no vibe or too much of one thing or another, which lead to comments like, "You're all over the place","you have a lot of energy that's misplaced", "you're quiet", etc. I've gotten past this by not filtering myself, not trying too hard to be a certain thing. When I first started I'd try way too hard to have a sexy vibe or a chill vibe, and obviously I didn't.
When I stopped trying to be a certain thing, it started to work out a lot more for me. If I was hanging out with a girl one on one and I started to lean too much into something I was forcing, I'd just stop and say whatever came to mind. I'd stop thinking and let it all come back in and then come back out from a different place. This is the part where I get into wierd "energy" of game type stuff. When I do this, I can feel girls get attracted. I've even had times where I hear them almost moan in their voice, although I may be projecting, which is an interesting concept alone.
I still can't feel vibes perfectly. I can't predict a vibe that well and I can't feel it before it's already happened. I know it's something that comes from within, and you can't just flip a switch and change your vibe overnight. It's the sum of a lot of approaches, changing your body language, fundamentals, and your mentality. It's something that I've thought about recently, but I almost feel like there's no point in trying to give it a solid definition because it's something you're supposed to feel and not think about. That's something I've been working on is not thinking about things so much but feeling them instead. Meditation has helped me with this quite a bit recently, as well as having no-filter is a great help as well.
This is all over the place so I'm just gonna' end it here. Let me know if you guys have any thoughts or anything to add, I'd love to discuss this.
Jake.
So recently, I've been experiencing women investing way more into me. They'll buy me food, give me rides, ditch family to hang out with me. I'm definitely not in a place where this is completely normal and intuitive for me, so it's put me in a weird thought pattern.
I was just thinking, "this is weird. Girls will leave what their doing to hang out with me. Why? I never used to be like this." It's something I'm not used to, and it's really interesting. All the experiences in my life haven't really prepared me for this kind of positive reinforcment I guess.
It's also got me thinking about the types of girls I go after. Usually it's not an alpha female to be honest. It's just a regular girl, cute of course, but personality and personal development wise, it's not like they have perfect confidence or express themselves in a way that's higher value than myself. I want to start going after alpha girls, though. If I keep improving, this is only going to get worse (better) and I'll end up hurting a girl who isn't strong enough to handle it. Sometimes if a girl is really into me, I almost feel bad. I feel bad because I'm not gonna' get into a relationship with her. I Wouldn't get into a relationship with a girl that doesn't at least somewhat intimidate me or dramatically make me a better person. This makes me happy though, because the girls I get will be higher quality and better for my development.
Girls that don't give me that gut feeling when I see them aren't girls I want in my life for any long while. I know I'm not going to go forwards with them but I'm going to go backwards. They're really fun for a fuck buddy or a one night stand as fucked up as that may sound but unless she brings to the table something that I can't already see myself then I can't see myself being with them for long periods of time. I feel like I'll end up hurting them or they'll end up hurting me. I know I'm not anywhere near mastery just from that - because if I were at mastery I wouldn't be so selfish and I'd love all girls equally. I guess that's what they mean when they say playing above or below your level. How did you guys experience this?
Another thing I've been thinking about is emotional waves and the undercurrent of vibe in game. Vibe for me has always been one of those fluid, undefined kind of things. When I first started game, I had no idea what this was and couldn't control it at all. It was either no vibe or too much of one thing or another, which lead to comments like, "You're all over the place","you have a lot of energy that's misplaced", "you're quiet", etc. I've gotten past this by not filtering myself, not trying too hard to be a certain thing. When I first started I'd try way too hard to have a sexy vibe or a chill vibe, and obviously I didn't.
When I stopped trying to be a certain thing, it started to work out a lot more for me. If I was hanging out with a girl one on one and I started to lean too much into something I was forcing, I'd just stop and say whatever came to mind. I'd stop thinking and let it all come back in and then come back out from a different place. This is the part where I get into wierd "energy" of game type stuff. When I do this, I can feel girls get attracted. I've even had times where I hear them almost moan in their voice, although I may be projecting, which is an interesting concept alone.
I still can't feel vibes perfectly. I can't predict a vibe that well and I can't feel it before it's already happened. I know it's something that comes from within, and you can't just flip a switch and change your vibe overnight. It's the sum of a lot of approaches, changing your body language, fundamentals, and your mentality. It's something that I've thought about recently, but I almost feel like there's no point in trying to give it a solid definition because it's something you're supposed to feel and not think about. That's something I've been working on is not thinking about things so much but feeling them instead. Meditation has helped me with this quite a bit recently, as well as having no-filter is a great help as well.
This is all over the place so I'm just gonna' end it here. Let me know if you guys have any thoughts or anything to add, I'd love to discuss this.
Jake.
