Intro

[Jaxx]

Howdy! I figured since I’ve finally started posting in the forums, I should introduce myself a little bit. Jaxx here, nice to meet you.

To start with the basics; right this second, I’m in Southern California, crashing at a family member’s place until I start college in September. I guess I’m a bit of a nomad; my family has always been on the move, so while I was born in sunny Southern Cal, I spent much of my childhood in various places in the North, a short stint in France, and spent over 14 years in the UK.

I think it’s a common story ‘round these parts, but what drew me to Girls Chase was my battle with depression; ‘How to Beat Depression’ was the first piece of self-help advice I was able to make truly, effective use of. Much credit goes to that article (and the man behind it) for helping me consolidate a strategy to shut down bad mental cycles.

Anyway… I’ve been lurking GirlsChase since, using it as a cheat-sheet to learn better communication, strategies to succeed in general and learn to break into social circles. I’m still (very much) learning, but since I started implementing stuff from the blog, I’ve found myself in social groups that have increased my exposure to a lot of stuff I missed out on as a teen, and that have pushed my boundaries pretty hard at times.

Now, dating-wise; very, very late bloomer. At 24, I’ve never really dated and have no ‘experience’ otherwise. Since working on my fundamentals, I’ve found I get a much warmer reception. In the last few months, I finally had some small successes with a girl I met at work, but general lack of speed, and inability to handle resistance met that it didn’t really go anywhere; we somehow ended up being emotionally intimate without anything physical really happening, which, I can now see, was just a disaster waiting to happen.

Still, it ended as cleanly as I could have hoped. Now that that’s over, and that I’m generally more comfortable socially; I’m ready to start working on my skills with women, and to catch-up on what I’ve been missing out.

This is all still very new to me. So here’s to what’s sure to be a long-ass, difficult, but exciting and dynamic journey!

 

[Mr. oblivious]

Welcome Jaxx

 

[Glitch]

Nice to have you on board Jaxx, I'm the same as you long time lurker.

If you haven't so already I recommend just doing cold approaches:

Take say 3 days a week and approach girls, this is how I started:

• 1. Start by just general conversation such as asking for a location, time, etc.
  2. As you get more comfortable start with simple compliments
  3. Begin honing on how to close etc.

2+3 can essentially be done together as if you build a good rapport 2 will lead into 3 fairly easily.

Most common obstacles: Approach Anxiety + Rejection

• AA is probably the most nerve racking when just starting out as you have know idea how it will go and no references to base this off. This is due to social context as no-one is seen approaching girls out on the street in broad daylight so subconsciously you will think that it is not socially acceptable etc.
  
  Rejection is not as bad as it is made out to be. As your 'average man' will usual date within his known social circles 'repercussion' for being rejected may be slightly more damaging to ones pride. With day game approaching even rejection is some what positive as many will take it as a compliment that you find them attractive and will offer an apology and that will be that. (Assuming you do not approach with extremely bad fundementals)

If you're a bit of B like me you can just practice it on girls in your social circles and analyse reactions/results with your readings or experiment with ideas that you may have.

Note: If you need advice regarding night/club game I'm not the person to go to as I focus on day game with a slight bias towards international girls.

Just take it easy and enjoy it to be honest. 24 is young, lots to learn, lots to do so just try and get out there.

Glitch

 

[Jaxx]

Nice to have you on board Jaxx, I'm the same as you long time lurker.

If you haven't so already I recommend just doing cold approaches:

Take say 3 days a week and approach girls, this is how I started:

• 1. Start by just general conversation such as asking for a location, time, etc.
  2. As you get more comfortable start with simple compliments
  3. Begin honing on how to close etc.

2+3 can essentially be done together as if you build a good rapport 2 will lead into 3 fairly easily.

Most common obstacles: Approach Anxiety + Rejection

• AA is probably the most nerve racking when just starting out as you have know idea how it will go and no references to base this off. This is due to social context as no-one is seen approaching girls out on the street in broad daylight so subconsciously you will think that it is not socially acceptable etc.
  
  Rejection is not as bad as it is made out to be. As your 'average man' will usual date within his known social circles 'repercussion' for being rejected may be slightly more damaging to ones pride. With day game approaching even rejection is some what positive as many will take it as a compliment that you find them attractive and will offer an apology and that will be that. (Assuming you do not approach with extremely bad fundementals)

If you're a bit of B like me you can just practice it on girls in your social circles and analyse reactions/results with your readings or experiment with ideas that you may have.

Note: If you need advice regarding night/club game I'm not the person to go to as I focus on day game with a slight bias towards international girls.

Just take it easy and enjoy it to be honest. 24 is young, lots to learn, lots to do so just try and get out there.

Glitch

Hiya Glitch,

Your advice is well taken, especially regarding cold approaches; I've just started the newbie assignment, and I'll definitely be aiming for day-game over clubs (for now).

24 is young

I often feel horribly behind my peers.. but objectively, you're right. Thanks for the encouraging words!

-J

 

[Jaxx]

Welcome Jaxx

Thanks Yoda.

 

[Glitch]

Go start the newbie assignment is a good start. Wish I had that when I started! (Didn't find GC till later)

Yea 24 I still consider young, even though it's coming from someone that hasn't broken into their 20's!

Just a thought, analyse the outcomes. It will help out with indentifying any bad habits you may have and help you get where you want much quicker; be a bit hard as you need to break some of those lies told by media and society.

If you can start early on eye contact, sexy walk, body/fashion and voice. Body and fashion are easier to get down; to have a good voice, walk and eye contact is difficult to master. If you want to try new things I recommend doing a salsa/tango class or take up singing if you're interested in those and haven't tried it out yet.

Dance (+sports): Established my walk and movement. Don't afraid of dancing met some very sexy girls that are serious with their dancing. Latinas great with their dancing and do also enjoy Polish/East Asians with their classical and ballet dancing. I'm mainly into tango/salsa but do enjoy it when a girl can teach me classical. Think smart, close contact with women! It's not a pansy thing!

Singing: Definitely helped with proper breathing, projection and resonance with the voice.

Good luck on the assignment! Get out there and enjoy adventure J,

Glitch