If it's important, call her.
If it's not important, it's a relationship dynamic mismatch (i.e., you want to have happy back-and-forth texting but she doesn't care for it).
Oh.
Sounds like you are not Priority Number One.
Are you sure you're not just her sometimes-lover while she looks for a more serious commitment option?
That'd be my guess, especially if we're talking an on-off relationship here.
If you want Top Priority Treatment you need to act like a Top Priority Guy:
- Show her you're serious about her
- Show her she has a future with you
- Give her progress in the relationship
- Get her excited about where this is leading
If you don't want to do that, learn to be more flexible:
"Hey LMK if you're free in the next couple of days to hang."
Then don't expect to see her that day necessarily.
Plan accordingly.
Chase
Lemme autistically reply, not to hijack.
--Without being disruptive or annoying one of my goals is to learn and also show people how I think because it's fucked up but in an autistic way. I want others to see what goes on in mind I guess
This is an amazing thread and an amazing reply. No really.
It's an amazing thread because original guy asks about dread game, which sounds kinda Neurodivergent if you think about it. I mean using technical terminology.
Then we get a great reply from Chase. Its jarring because it makes so much obvious sense but was unexpected in these quarters , by yours truly at least
You have to know the context.
Typically people start their dating journey gullible and trusting. maybe some get results but if they don't they go online and get "red pilled" or taught stuff. Maybe then they get results maybe they don't. If they do then maybe they overgeneralize. They only have semi success, and with a type. Maybe they fail still, and go back and forth. This is kinda me. But everyone.. well most everyone is so dogmatic, and attached to their views, on fb etc
What I'm trying to say without trying to flatter is chase seems to have a lot of balance. My mind is so confused so often. Are women objects you can manipulate and persuade who don't know what they want or are they people with direction and strong frame but just trolling us/deliberately deceiving us half the time, playing with us?
Your post says to appeal to better nature and her own self interest. I know that's right. Yet that's what failed before (for guys generally) but maybe it's the timing. Maybe it was always just the details.
Life is so confusing. It's hard to know what's real but when I read chases stuff it seems right and good. When the day is done these days it sounds campy but I have no answers, so if I'm laying in bed, if I've done my daily business and even met and talked and flirted with people, (which is actually something I commonly do and I often mean it seriously though it almost never leads anywhere)..
..as I'm lying in bed these days I'm just trying to open and connect with my heart, working through everything there. Trying to see with my heart not my mind. Maybe that's the way.
Some stuff like what's here makes sense to both the heart and mind but usually you see one or the other, angry normies anti red pill ppl expecting everyone to just be their idea of normal and good and get love (and low key put the women on a pedestal and say they're all victims).. and guys too deep in the manosphere on the other, or salesmen.
Truth must be a blend or how could both ideas exist simultaneously? And success and failure must be in the details. For me the details are the autism probably and then almost all dating advice over the years represents an overcorrection. Who knows? Could be. Nobody mentioned autism in dating help space till you.
Maybe that's why they say it's like fishing. You've done the right thing to get a nibble and now you got a reward that. I don't know. I guess maybe you follow women's lead in terms of escalation and relationship escalation but only if you want to, if you want her energy in your life, but then don't expect special treatment.
Amazing also how nobody discloses they're chasing or pursuing other people. I don't like being in the dark. "I'm in the dark here." That's where I always get hurt. That and when people make assumptions. We all do but I feel my assumptions are so natural and basic but I guess that's the autism.
How are we supposed to know this stuff lol? Brave New world
Anyway..good stuff. More pain to get through. More illusion and repression to work through
