Is FT/IN ok for Hook Ups even if it’s bad for Relationships?

[Oooooook]

At 26, I have many TR “on paper” credentials. I work 5-10 hours a week, location independent - I am a ‘bad guy’ traveler in every city I live in because I have the freedom to pack it up - and make north of $300,000 USD (made $200k at age 22 and have just been ramping since then). However, I fit the FT/IN type to a T because in hooks ups - girls I have been successful with - I had no issue with a TR/IN or a FT/EX taking the lead. Those hookups lasted the longest by a long long long margin and were successful overall in that I ended the hookup, I could maintain and keep it going, I made sure sex worked out. Meanwhile the
one time I tried being a TR the girl was in control the girl ended it and it required work to continue making it happen.

All of my experiences seem to make it obvious that I should stick to FT/IN to hookup. However, ever since I read this site and realized my innate TR credentials I cannot help but think I am being a moron especially as my method is very exhausting and hard to pull off. Chase, should I just give up and do what you all are doing and be a fake TR? Should I ignore all of my field data and just rely on whatever you say? I am confused af and have no idea what path makes sense and I don’t have many FT friends to talk to since a lot of my male friends are very TR.

 

[ulrich]

What is FT/IN?
What is TR?

I don’t get what is going on.

 

[Nicko]

What is FT/IN?
What is TR?

I don’t get what is going on.

Long story short Its your personality trait sub categorized into 4 quadrants using Dr Katherine Benziger personality/thinking assessment.

From what i can understand he is having a dilemma about his desiginated personality. I don't know anything about the personality stuff so can't help lol

 

[ulrich]

Long story short Its your personality trait sub categorized into 4 quadrants using Dr Katherine Benziger personality/thinking assessment.

From what i can understand he is having a dilemma about his desiginated personality. I don't know anything about the personality stuff so can't help lol

Thanks @Nicko

I’m on the same boat. Can’t help without a more detailed explanation.

 

[Glow]

At 26, I have many TR “on paper” credentials. I work 5-10 hours a week, location independent - I am a ‘bad guy’ traveler in every city I live in because I have the freedom to pack it up - and make north of $300,000 USD (made $200k at age 22 and have just been ramping since then). However, I fit the FT/IN type to a T because in hooks ups - girls I have been successful with - I had no issue with a TR/IN or a FT/EX taking the lead. Those hookups lasted the longest by a long long long margin and were successful overall in that I ended the hookup, I could maintain and keep it going, I made sure sex worked out. Meanwhile the
one time I tried being a TR the girl was in control the girl ended it and it required work to continue making it happen.

All of my experiences seem to make it obvious that I should stick to FT/IN to hookup. However, ever since I read this site and realized my innate TR credentials I cannot help but think I am being a moron especially as my method is very exhausting and hard to pull off. Chase, should I just give up and do what you all are doing and be a fake TR? Should I ignore all of my field data and just rely on whatever you say? I am confused af and have no idea what path makes sense and I don’t have many FT friends to talk to since a lot of my male friends are very TR.

It tells u a little that you come into a random forum shooting out abbreviations left and right from some random un-introduced context in an obvious agitated state

Relax and explain things properly to us

 

[DoWhatWorks]

It tells u a little that you come into a random forum shooting out abbreviations left and right from some random un-introduced context in an obvious agitated state

Relax and explain things properly to us

FT / IN = soft & inexperienced

TR / EX = strong & experienced

Took me a moment to figure out but there’s a girls chase article on it here:

The 4 Kinds of Girls and Which Ones YOU Should Go For

One of the series I introduced on here a while back - only to ever do two real articles in it - was on girl types... some of the different kinds of girls, that is. We've had some requests to do more articles like these, and I wanted to put together one here that's a primer of the four basic...

www.girlschase.com

Think OP’s struggle is that he’s TR in all aspects of his live except dating which gives him an internal conflict as the girls he should in theory get a long with (based on the fact he has his shi together) is the opposite of what actually works.

@Oooooook you have 2 options:

1) Fake it till you make it & go for strong experienced girls. You’ll get heartbroken but will learn a lot & long term be in a great place to date whichever girl you want but you’ll consciously avoid some based on choice not skill level.

2) You can take a softer approach and go for soft experienced girls for a more gradual learning curve to approve your skills with woman.

Either way I think you’re classic example of excellent IQ and financial success but you need to put in work on your EQ.

That isn’t a bad thing & arguably the better way round to do it... You should look into some dating coaches & you’ll probably be fine in 6 months or so.