Is it good to have low standards with inexperience?

[Inferno]

I have been having a conflict in my mind
I know that I shouldn't put women on pedastals
and it's always good to have milage on your skills , like sex
But my mind is also saying that when I lower my standards I want the easy way .
I think this could be detrimental to my skills if I talk to lower calibur women.
But another part of my mind says I should lower my standards so I can level up eventualy
sort of like having a small goal, to expand on a much larger goal .

 

[Man-O]

The problem with having standards is that it will limit your options of girls you'll interact with, and particular for us intermediates and newbies who're in need of as much experience as possible it'll be detrimental to ones learning curve.

and it's always good to have milage on your skills , like sex

Yea, if you reject those who want sex with you, you'll end like me who has hardly any experience with the last part (sex) in seduction. And it's come to a point where that frustrates me a bit. But I'm still stubborn enough to say better 1 hot than 10 ugly (I got some ego and "afraid of sex" issues) but when my skills aren't that good yet my learning progression is very slow here due to being picky.
Don't do the same mistake as me as saying no to avg. looking girls who want sex when you're intermediate/newbie as I have.

But my mind is also saying that when I lower my standards I want the easy way .
I think this could be detrimental to my skills if I talk to lower calibur women.

It's not detrimental unless they're rly ease talking with and you have loads of other options at the venue.

So for the sake of becoming better you should lower your standards. In the start I would only go for hb6, if they were lower than that I wouldn't see them as an option for sex but more warm-up to talk with. I now have it down at hb5.
In n-game where the ratio of women to men is 1:2 or worse (at least where I live) you definetly have to lower standards to get lays and as one of the articles describe you can get much higher caliber women if you d-game.

If you rly don't like lowering your standards like me for sex then make yourself more horny when you talk with them, meaning harder kino or something else that turns you on, at least works for me.

 

[Thedoctor]

Inferno,

Think this article is exactly what you're looking for:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/lower ... tter-girls

-John

 

[Miguel]

It depends what you mean by low standards, some people just have terrible taste in women. While other's have unrealistic expectations (like myself) of the other sex. The key here is balance and common sense.

In general inexperienced guys tend to have high standards because they want to get a girlfriend, a stable parter. So it's not stupid to have high standards, but it makes these guys lose many opportunities for relating to women, while they rationalize their failures thinking she was not good enough. When great women come into their lives, they freak out thinking these girls are too good for them and let them go away.

Low standards can be good, as long as you retain your self-respect and demand certain things from women. If you just accept anything (or any woman) that comes your way, it would be a bad thing too.

 

[someone]

Great responses so far, and I fully agree that it depends on what your standards are, and that standards are kind of a waste of time...

Before getting with my most recent girlfriend, I dated some girls who were hot (nothing higher than a 7/8 though probably, 9s and 10s don't make for good girlfriends in my experience), and other girls who were accomplished. Sometimes the two come together in a single woman. That said, I would say that every single one of them was high quality (surgeons, a dentist, a ballerina, an investment banker, etc.). If she's a lawyer with an ivy league education but your friends would only give her a 6/10 because she wears an A cup and doesn't look like Jessica Biel then you would be a fool to pass her up... You would be amazed at how many high quality women are out there and simply can't find guys to date because they don't look like they just got off the set of a porno. I would be surprised if you couldn't be dating 3/4 women simultaneously right now because the reality is that most men approach a small number of women, leaving a lot of great women for the picking. Remember, physical beauty fades!

 

[Inferno]

Thanks for the replies everyone. I' think I'm beginning to understand standards for women.

 

[Estate]

Short answer for me is that it depends on your skill level.

If you're a virgin or VERY inexperienced with women then holding out for that "10" is going to be a long road.
If you're goal is to meet, date or sleep with some women to get experience then lower your standards. That doesn't mean you have to shoot for women you're just plain not attracted to, but it would be better to get comfortable at meeting "regular" women before expecting better results around really top tier women.

If you DO have some experience, don't set the bar TOO low. About a year into my progress there was a point where I made a conscious decision about this.
Gaining abundance is something that's spoken about here a lot. I got to the point of abundance by meeting a lot of girls but I felt while I could meet a quantity of average women very easily, I still had trouble meeting top tier women. Basically, it was like a plateau, I knew I had gained skills to meet more women but it began to feel unfullfilling when it was lacking the quality I really wanted on a regula basis... in short I had become lazy and wasn't pushing myself more. So I did make a decision personally to try focus on quality over quantity at that point.

 

[ray_zorse]

Eh well lots of good viewpoints here, personally I would try to fuck anything that moves cos need the experience, trouble is it can be hard to get it up (see my LR- "big big girl"). Some guys are just stubborn, but as I see it, if you aren't getting laid regularly with new women then lower your standards until you are

At the same time my turnoff is kinda personality wise, if she's bitchy and entitled and ugly I'll probably pass... however many fat or otherwise unattractive women are sweet and smart and compliant and can give you good reference experiences...

cheers, Ray