Is it possible a girl can have TOO MUCH pain during sex.

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So, got a new lover. but what worries me is that she complains that she's in pain.

we had sex like 4-5 times in few days, but even when i try to penetrate her she says it's hurting her. like today she was okay on the first round, she was enjoying the time and even moan here and there, i was going slow. heck when i cummed she didn't let go me, she was holding me so tightly that i had to say to give me 10 minutes before the second round.

somehow she left me.but when i go for the second round and try to penetrate she said it's hurting her a lot. like she didn't even let me fully enter her.

so, what's up with this girl? i left her after a bit without me ejaculating, because she was like about to cry, i could see the pain in her eyes. so i let go. but on the other hand she behaved so submissively afterwards.

i'm kinda cofused, like to bang her hard or not. what i sense is that i should start slow and increase the pace according to her.

let me know what you guys think.

 

[Inbocca]

I've had issues like this where I was a bit bigger than what she was used to. We were still able to make it happen but she was super sore for a couple days after. Even if she's aroused and her pussy's receptive (i.e., not clamping shut), her arousal might be wanting to bite off more than she can physically handle. And then she feels bad for getting in the way of you ravishing her so she compensates by trying to appeal to you in other ways, like submitting.

I had a friend who was dating this girl for weeks before he could even fit inside her. After a few times, she was loose enough to handle a bit more. I'd say give it a few more times and things will probably get better. Assuming you want to see this girl again. Definitely take it slow and warm up to hard; too much too fast can be very painful for both of you.

 

[Richard]

Entirely possible for a variety of reasons; the most common being that your slightly bigger or thicker than what is "average" for her, the least common being a medical issue - I've faced both and in both cases you handle it by starting off slowly and easing her into it or picking a position that outright gives her control over how much of you she takes in (like cowgirl, for example).

In the case of a medical issue, though, she may not be able to handle it no matter what you do and you'll need to be receptive of that but that scenario is unlikely.

With this girl, it definitely sounds like you're just bigger than she's used to hence the intense submission after not being able to physically give you a second round: "I really like this guy AND I cannot fuck him. What else can I do to make it worthwhile for him?" and she becomes submissive as a means to try and keep you around because she wants to fuck you but physically cannot handle it yet. Might even be worthwhile to ask her if her having pain during sex is normal or if it's just starting with you - if it's the latter then you two can work together to get her used to your cock which further increases your dominance/attractiveness and her submissiveness because you're literally teaching her pussy to accept your dick.

-Richard

 

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Wow, didn't knew about her feeling bad because of less fucking.

thanks guys for clearing it for me, i was kinda way too worried. it was like i couldn't see her in that much pain.

so, this means that she's not used to my size, so basically she will be. right?

Richard, you said there could be common two reasons, if you don't mind.... i wanna know about the medical issue you mentioned here.

and i think she pretty much feels the pain while having sex. its like her pussy get swollen from the inside or we can say sore.

how i feel is : i can't properly have sex with her because of her issue.

it definetely sucks.

 

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After doing a google search about it, i think i should mention something i didn't focused on earlier.

around 30% women have pain while having sex. STD is also a reason.

When i was having sex with her the second time a week ago, i felt that the head of my member became too much sensitive, and when i was peeing, i saw the head was RED like never before plus it had red spots on it. but it got okay within a week on its own.

and yesterday and a day before that i had sex with her, but my head was okay this time. i think that tells that she have something, like STD or something, i don't know.

So, could it be a reason she experience this MUCH pain?

(oh, by the way, i didn't used condom. i've been having sex since mid 2015 but never used condom)

I really wanna figure out what's up with this girl.

I hope the details i mentioned helps in figuring out.

let me know.

 

[Inbocca]

That's very likely. Lots of STDs can cause inflammation down there, which hurts when you're having sex. I'd get tested and if you come back positive, let her know. Who knows, you might fix her sex life

 

[Richard]

Richard, you said there could be common two reasons, if you don't mind.... i wanna know about the medical issue you mentioned here.

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Sure thing,

So the issue I'm familiar with was that the girl, as a result of prolonged sitting on hard wooden chairs for her job, developed strong muscles in her hips/pelvis which started to press against nerves in her lower back causing hip/leg pain. She saw a chiropractor who kind of forced her spine to crack/pop and I think it ended up pinching her pudendal nerve which is responsible for sensations in the derma of your genitals

With the nerve being messed with she would get shoots of stabbing or burning pain all the time - and after consulting a dermatologist, and a plethora of other doctors I narrowed it down to that nerve and the issue never got resolved. Anyway, it affected her ability to produce lube/get wet, and when my dick was inside her it was incredibly painful.

Aside from that girls can develop different vaginal infections with not-so-obvious symptoms that can also lead to pain during sex but thats why I suggested you ask her if it's common for her to have pain or if it's something new with you. The nerve issue is a huge outlier so I wouldn't even recommend looking into that.

 

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Okay, so what i found out is that she pretty much feels the pain during sex. she also said that after sex she get water running out of her pussy.

And today i took sildenafil 50 mg to last longer and to see whether she'll feel pain or what. what happened is this pill didn't work on me, however my first round was like 5-10 minutes. kinda dissapointed with the pill.

I manage to not cause her pain.

What shoked me was that i couldn't last longer on my second round, which is something doesn't happened to me before, she did complain that it got hurt on the second round but not like before.

what i learned about her is tha it hurts her second time when i wasn't fully inside her, but when i entered her full she seemed to enjoy and not felt that much pain.

But i'm dissapointed in my performance, it wasn't what i usually perform. she is so tight down there, and i think that's why i cummed so quickly on the second round.

Any solution for lasting longer?