Is it worth it?

[Xerud]

So I met girl and feel in love. I did I don't lie. We met in seaside we watched stars talked about everything and I never had so much fun with girl. Only one problem is that she's quite far away from my home, like I need to go by plane.

I miss her and I'm usually think about her and our not many but wonderful times.

What you think?

 

[Sub-Zero]

You can still be cool with her, but no it's not worth to have a relationship with her that's long distance. She can be your girl you have sex with when you get out there or when she comes to you, but no point in having a long distance relationship. How does she feel for you though?

 

[Xerud]

She said really kind words like she's missing me and that's she loves me, that I'm first boyfriend who gave her butterflys in stomach, I never had such a good time with girl really. I'm constantly thinking about her -

love requires sacrifice, but it's worth it.

 

[Richard]

Devils Advocate Here. Hi, how ya doing?

Alright, my first question is, did you two have sex? You should never ever catch feelings for a woman before you two have sex. It is not the right way to go about getting into a relationship (I learned this from a shit ton of experience. This was also emblazoned into my head by many of the advanced members on these boards when I first started).

The short answer here is that you should stop talking to her, because you having feelings for a woman you can't see, or sleep with is useless and ultimately distracts you from finding better and more tangible love/sex.

On top of that, I assume you're relatively inexperienced due to your grandeurized and cliche "date" with this woman. Plus, you caught feelings for her which is something every experienced seducer does not do immediately.

The real question here is: what exactly are you looking for here? What outcome do you want to produce?

-Richard

 

[GeneralFap]

Oh man, I agree with Richard that you should just meet other women. I know it fucking sucks when you want a girl really badly that you feel you've made a special connection with. It happened to me to earlier this year. There was a girl I thought was the most special girl I had ever met. I thought we were going to become boyfriend and girlfriend, but in the end nothing happened. I had been concocting that whole thing in my head (She liked me, but I fucked up because I had developed too many hard feelings for her and got needy, and I hadn't even slept with her). I think you should go meet other girls and practice your skills or you will end up like me, thinking about one particular girl non-stop. What a waste of time that was.

Here's a video that helped me and one that I think will help you understand what's going on:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdnYedTpToA


Good luck

 

[Xerud]

Thanks for your reply guys. I'm not like that, I won't just stop replying to her, I'm not like that kind of guy.

I've got feelings for her (but I can handle) ... but hey! It's also about 2 hours away from me by car, that's not that much. But she's going to "third"(another) country to study. The personality that what attracts me like talking with her and be with her, I can't explain guys. It's like natural chemistry.

Of course I'm not like before 24/7 thinking about one girl.

 

[ocantu1987]

have you read this article man? https://www.girlschase.com/content/cant- ... more-girls

I can relate to bro, youre are not alone. You just got to get out and approach

 

[Xerud]

Listen I've read that Can't Stop Thinking About Her? Here's Why You Need to Meet More Girls and many more articles, but it's not about that. I'm not constantly thinking of her, but when I think of her I REMEMBER the best moments I had with her, I was in few dates before and yes I agree before I couldn't stop thinking about girl, but now I'm totally different.

I had never such experience with girls like that, that girl is different I can't explain, but it's different from all girls I've met!

It's like you know when you met someone and you can talk with her for hours and talk online for hours and talk about everything, I haven't met that kind of girl before and yes I made "quite allot of approaches. "

 

[Drck]

It is good and it is not. If you love her and she loves you, and you are together, it's all good. You can have little whoas running around and be happy republicans till the end of your lives. Love and sex are the highest feelings we humans can experience. Makes you wonder why people believe in heavens where God loves them forever and unconditionally...?

Unfortunately this doesn't happen for many guys. The guy falls in love, he keeps thinking about her and imagining doing stuff with her... Then he meets her again and he is overwhelmed with his own feelings... she is now untouchable and pure princess-virgin, at least in his eyes... He is not able to push things forward with her, he can't have sex because his feelings are way high, and she starts hesitate about him as a viable mate...

He then gets even more in love while already in pain, and the more he keeps coming back and "fixing thing" and believing that she will change her mind, the more he is hurt... She then starts avoiding him, his ego kicks in, and he starts chasing her.... She'll eventually dump his ass, starts calling him creepy... he gets hurt and depressed even more, he will have hard time to go out and meet another girls because the thoughts about her is all his life....

If unlucky, he will then start voting democrats for the rest of his lonely life... Very sad. If lucky, he will find sites like GC and figure out what the problem is... Ask me how do I know... except I would never vote for dems, LOL

Anyway, IMO as long as you understand the mechanics of "being in love" you should be fine. Love is a fire, it's like playing with matches in dry woods. I also thought I had it under control, it was just a fun at first - then I suffered two of the most miserable years of my life... Beware brother, you may get hurt a lot even if you know what you are doing because you think you have things under control... There is always high potential of being dumped when you are investing too many emotions into a girl... she is simply perceiving you as less mature and more needy, while she is looking for The Man who can giver her a shag of her life, then walk away from her with no regrets or feelings...

So a great advice is to AVOID love unless you are at least sleeping with her. Sleep with a girl at least 7x before you even consider love, make it a rule... Always invest LESS into a girl than she is investing into you, emotionally, financially,... Make it another rule...

Another way is to let yourself fall in love, and suffer the potential pain from rejection. You may watch her going out with another guy(s) and having a great time, while she is totally cold towards you... while she is ignoring you as if you were nothing, and that really hurts... The good thing in this is, that you gain a great experience by being in love. You will understand many things here much better, not just by reading about it but by having own invaluable experience...