Is online dating a waste of time if you aren't a White male?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I have been doing some readings on online dating and it seems like race is HUGE, even bigger than it is in real life. Now from what I have read:

1. White women in online dating exclusively prefer White men
2. Black women are fairly open minded
3. Asian and Hispanic women prefer White men over men of their own races

Now I prefer White women and Latinas but it seems like OkCupid, Match.com, and E-Harmony are terrible places to meet women (especially White women) since all of them tend to exclusively prefer White men and things like game and confidence don't show. Plus I hear it is bad in general because the average girl gets spammed with messages while hot girls have inboxes that are full. What are your thoughts?

 

[Thedoctor]

Fuji,

I'd recommend checking out Chase's post on making a great online dating profile:

viewtopic.php?f=25&t=43

As said in the post, make sure your pictures look phenomenal! If they do, race may still play a small part, but it shouldn't be a big deal.

I'd stay away from sites such as eHarmony. I personally found those types of sites have more "serious" women that only seem to be looking for husbands. Hard to get anything going if she's seeing how well you measure up to her checklist in what she wants in a husband.

I tried online dating mainly out of curiosity, but I don't think I would do it again. Ironically, online seems like a lot more work to me than meeting girls the traditional way.

Just my thoughts.

-John

 

[MileHighTexan]

I tried online dating mainly out of curiosity, but I don't think I would do it again. Ironically, online seems like a lot more work to me than meeting girls the traditional way.

I couldn't agree more. Got a Tinder and an OKCupid account. I find it pretty tiresome. So many more steps to take (clever opening message, messaging back and forth, go for the number, shift it to texting, set up a meet, work out logistics, blah blah blah) and, in my experience, the flake rate is much higher for online than real life. I simply don't have time for that, and I find it so much easier to just meet girls in person.

 

[Chase]

For the record, I'm a white male and I sucked it up on Match.com. I haven't been on there in years, but after trying it in three cities and never getting a single date out of it, I gave up on it in 2008 or something. I found far better prospects elsewhere; e.g., there was a wonderful site called Mate1.com back in 2006 - while my Match.com inbox was a ghost town, I was one of the few males on Mate1 and getting laid like a champ in different parts of the country - I even had girls PM'ing me, and this was back when I had a very average picture and not-that-exceptional profile (sadly, it was dead a few years later; not sure if it's doing any better again now).

eHarmony I've never done because it just sounds terrible to me. I think I tried to join it and there was some super long list of questions or something and I just gave up. OkCupid I've never especially liked, either. Too many counterculture girls on there, and not enough hotties. Me and the hipsters don't jive so well, at least not online.

Most talented guy I've ever known at online dating was a Korean American. I stole a thing or two from his online efforts to improve mine back in the day.

Chase