Is rapport text necessary? Tell me your experience.

[Smith]

Hey guys,

I kinda wanna settle this once and for all. From my experience, rapport text is kinda a waste of time and if anything, the more texts you exchange without setting up a date, the more likely it'll die out. I've tested it out and I rarely get flakes when I send an icebreaker within first couple of hours meeting her, then ask her out in my next text either the next day or the day after. Most of the time, I get a "yes". My thinking is that it doesn't matter how good your texts are, when it's time for her to actually get ready to meet you, she has to feel that she's attracted to you from the initial interaction. Also, I feel like asking her out straight away gets to the point faster, especially if the girl is busy and not a big texter, so I always err on the side of "too straightforward" when it comes to texting.

However, sometimes I do feel like sending a few rapport texts when the initial interaction wasn't that long, but my results still showed that rapport texts don't help at all...
Of the girls whose number I got but the initial interaction was short:
- I would say about the majority of them still end up going cold after a few rapport texts. Only a few ended up coming out.
- When I asked them out without rapport texts, I either get a "maybe" or "yes". The "maybe" one most of the time turn into a "yes" when u try again a few days later.

Anyway, so that's what I have found. Everytime I decided to give rapport texts another shot, it never seems to work or it's just doing more work for a girl I know for sure would have come out anyway without the rapport texts.

 

[Ree]

Yeah.....my initial interactions are usually very short.....and so i upp until very recently used to rely heavily on rapport texts,but when i look at my journal,and i look at the results not reactions...i think u r right,they are at worst ,detrimental,and at best....useless

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

[quote="Smith"}However, sometimes I do feel like sending a few rapport texts when the initial interaction wasn't that long, but my results still showed that rapport texts don't help at all...
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I think the initial interaction is key. The personal interaction takes you from creepy guy to interesting guy. A minimum of 5 minutes but preferably 10 of rapport building is needed. Rapport texting doesn't help with getting you out of the creepy guy mode if the initial interaction was short.

SGent

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Completely disagree here on time frame. I find really very little difference between short or long interactions with the chances of meeting up again. I've heavily heavily tested this. Shorter is generally been better for me actually. 3-8 minute interactions are best. Got to get a little what's up who are you out of the way but that's it really. Radeng

I am confused. Are you saying that you don't do any deep diving, screening and qualifying in person to build initial rapport? I would like some details on your normal conversation if you don't mind.

SGent

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Basically it is two things then. 1 Very good fundamentals. 2 Reading interest on her part up front. This sounds like a good way for me to go. I don't have the time to waste on flaking. I still have a ways to go on the fundamentals but I am getting much better at reading the interest. Thanks.

SGent

 

[Lawliet]

Looks like we are all consistent with our experiences.

I texted girls for years (as some of you may know) it doesn't lead to jack.
Met a girl recently, sent a couple texts and got her out. Just came back now. Easy as that.

Lawliet

 

[ProblemSolving]

Completely disagree here on time frame. I find really very little difference between short or long interactions with the chances of meeting up again. I've heavily heavily tested this. Shorter is generally been better for me actually. 3-8 minute interactions are best. Got to get a little what's up who are you out of the way but that's it really.

Also, I completely ditched any sort of rapport building a long time ago via text.
-ice breaker
-ping
-date ask
-date setup
-no flake

I came to the same conclusions and follow the same process.

Note that it's still highly up to the girl really. I mean I have done everything wrong and gotten solid #s and done everything right and gotten no response.

Once you have experience and your fundamentals handled, whether or not you end up with the girl is almost entirely up to the girl's sexual availability. This post made all my success and all my failures make sense - everything clicked.

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/more/archive/entry/getting-girls-is-a-numbers-game/

 

[Lawliet]

Sexual availability?
Then does this mean that if they're conservative girls then they won't be open to our seduction?

Lawliet

 

[ProblemSolving]

Sexual availability?
Then does this mean that if they're conservative girls then they won't be open to our seduction?

Did you read the post? Some will and some won't.

 

[Lawliet]

Sexual availability?
Then does this mean that if they're conservative girls then they won't be open to our seduction?

Did you read the post? Some will and some won't.

Conservative girls who only after 4 years of dating and marriage.

Well let's say we bump into one of them not knowing if they will or won't, how do we deal with conservative girls?
Wait, i'll open another thread for this, that's offtopic

Lawliet

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/more/archive/entry/getting-girls-is-a-numbers-game/

Interesting how this website parallels Girls Chase but with a different approach. It is like driving on two different roads but reaching the same destination. The different perspective helps.

SGent

 

[Ree]

@radeng..
@problem solving
.this is something that ppl have differing opinions on and it has me confused....i ...like u....have done vigorous testing and just like u said...shorter interactions usually work better( for me at least....)

So we all dont Rapport text...but that being said...
Do u evr drop an extra line or two to set a frame....or is ist strictly

Ice breaker-ask out



....@ the ppl advocating for longer initial converstions..Assuming it is not an instant date..how long is long...?
Cud u describe ur process?....