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Is Social Media Worthless?

Dimes

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I mean what is the point of me having an instagram that follows all the hot girls from my school?

Could this be detrimental to my success with them? Because of these hot girls don't follow back... Isn't that bad?

Shouldn't I just drop instagram or could I use it to help pick up?
 

Franco

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Dimes,

You'll be able to find my opinion of Instagram in this post here.

NOTE: I think having an Instagram is okay for a guy if he uses it for something career-related (such as an actual photographer who would use Instagram to spread his work).

- Franco
 

Thinkingenigma

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My opinion of social media runs somewhat counter to the advice of several of the admin on this site. Social media sites like Twitter and Facebook can open up TONS of opportunities, mainly in business. Sometimes it can be helpful when picking up girls, particularly Instagram if you're a really hot guy (we've actually been using Instagram to promote one of our music artist based on his sex appeal to great effect), but you really have to have your fundamentals down pat. In that instance, you'd be using it similarly to how you would use Tinder. Get them offline as quickly as possible

The business opportunities in social media are almost endless. Recently, we landed interviews on national radio and television stations for one of our artists using his social media engagement numbers. I've landed photo gigs using both Facebook and Twitter, and my business partner got himself an internship with Scooter Braun (Justin Bieber's manager) based partly off his social media expertise. Even if you don't have a business, establishing a personal brand can mean the difference between being offered a job/gig, and being unseen. The trick is to become known as an authority in your network, which honestly isn't hard to do. I've only been active on Twitter for about a month, and I'm already at 1,800 followers, all interested in photography and filmmaking (and no, none of them are bought). With the levels of engagement I get on Twitter and Facebook, my sphere of influence is close to that of mid-to-high-level bloggers, despite the fact that my actual blog is brand new. The best part is that I don't even put that much time into it. I spend about 30-45 min/day between network building stuff, finding good content to share, and responding to commenters. That's spread out through the day too, so it's not like I'm taking a big chunk of time out of my day to do this. I'm literally taking five minutes every morning to queue up some posts, then responding to commenters throughout the day much like I'd respond to text messages.

Obviously, avoid being sucked in completely. Don't let it get in the way of your day to day activities, but keep in mind that by ignoring social media completely, you're shutting yourself off to some amazing opportunities, no matter what your field. I would suggest maintaining an active presence, on social media, but make sure that you are being purposeful about it.
 

Thinkingenigma

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I should probably clarify with one thing. I've been on FB for years, so that's where I learned how to engage an audience. Twitter's just my new way to build my audience.
 
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Rhaegar

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Franco said:
Dimes,

You'll be able to find my opinion of Instagram in this post here.

NOTE: I think having an Instagram is okay for a guy if he uses it for something career-related (such as an actual photographer who would use Instagram to spread his work).

- Franco

I noticed you gave your thoughts Facebook and Instagram. Can you give your thoughts on Twitter as well? As that is the social media I mostly use.
 

Franco

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Rhaegar,

Can you give your thoughts on Twitter as well? As that is the social media I mostly use.

It depends on how you use it and how often you use it. Some people just like to follow celebrities/TV actors/athletes/news to get immediate updates about things they care about. I think this is fine, and I don't see any harm in it.

As long as you aren't really using Twitter like you would with Facebook status updates and posting them every hour for your close friends to read, then it's not a big deal. Some people don't even have their actual friends follow them on Twitter like they do on Facebook and just use it for interacting with random people (or possible followers who can raise your perceived social status), which is probably also fine.

I don't really like to "grade" each social media as "this one is better" or "this one is worse." Instead, you just need to keep in mind the following things that are bad for you:

  • (1) People shouldn't be able to tell if you're constantly using a given form of social media too much. So if you're posting stuff all the time or "liking" stuff all the time, it's obvious your life is consumed by it.

    (2) You shouldn't really be posting too many photos of yourself or anything in general (unless you're a photographer or it applies to a serious hobby or profession). Posting photos all the time pretty much has the same negative effect as list item #1. It shows you don't have better things to do with your time.

    (3) You want your life to still remain mysterious to women. If you're posting things all the time, especially about things going on in your life, then women basically have your life story as an eBook. Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing everything about you without having to actually talk to you in person!

So by these rules, you can get an idea of what is probably okay and not okay on social media. The reason I say that Instagram is the worst is that it pretty much violates all three rules... ALL the time. Again, unless you're a photographer and use you Instagram for special purposes outside of your own personal agenda, then I would highly avoid it. Let girls be the ones to do the photo-snapping, photo-editing, and photo-posting for "Likes" and validation. ;)

- Franco
 

Rhaegar

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Thank you Franco for your reply, I appreciate it.

Unfortunatly I am breaking all 3 rules, along with always chatting with girls publiclly on the timeline and commenting on their tweets, I probably look like a huge oribter to them. I shall make sure I never talk to them on Twitter and only in real life on a date and follow your 3 rules as well ;)
 
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