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Is there no chance to become an alpha male?

MakeHerHappy

Space Monkey
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So if we were born as a Beta male is there no chance of becoming an alpha male? If we were born as shy, not dominant, basically we will be stuck as being Beta? Even we read thousands of books and articles and by reading them we actually prove ourselves as being Beta and for that we want to become this wannabe alpha male.

Is this true? No chance at all? Sometimes I've tried but seems very fake...this is also one of my sticking points and I just feel that I'm a fraud. I think I need to fix my whole attitude before learning on how to get good with women.

Or Alpha doesn't exist or just people who happens to be charismatic, who have been exposed socially in an early stage, me I was born in a small province and its kinda near the mountains, I was raised by my parents under a very delicate care, they wont let me go to night parties, and barely had a friends, in general i was raised as overly protective and I don't mean this as an excuse but its the truth.

I want to hear the opinion of the GC people, especially from Chase or Franco. How can we truly become a man?

Getting a job? helping the households? getting good with women? social circles? become responsible?
 

Zoro

Cro-Magnon Man
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This whole site is dedicated to that very purpose. Many of the men in this community have transformed their lives following advice from Chase and the other writers, as well as with support from everyone here on the boards.

You have all of our support and encourage you to shake off those negative thoughts. You can do this MHH. Many of us have come from similar situations and broken down our own cages and chains.

There's a battle of two wolves within you. The wolf of doubt, bitterness, fear, close mindedness and lack of focus, And the wolf of love, courage, awareness and determination. The one that prevails is the one you nuture... Which one will you feed?
 

Franco

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MHH,

I don't really like to see things as black and white (which is what you're referring to here on either being an "alpha" male or "beta" male -- to be honest, I rarely even use those two terms in my vocabulary). A better way to think about things is that you are a culmination of all of your experiences; right now, all of your experiences include isolation, protection, lack of socialization (with the opposite sex), and lack of exposure. So, of course, your cumulative self at the moment encompasses all of those things.

So what is the cure for this? You most begin to push yourself accumulate experiences that encompass the type of man you want to become. You want women in your life? You need to expose yourself to them and talk to them. You want to become the leader of your social circle? You must expose yourself to social circles, learn the nuances of being a leader, and practice becoming one. You want to be charismatic? You need to expose yourself to charismatic people and understand what makes them the way they are. Then you must vigilantly attempt to emulate those attributes until you understand them completely to the point where it becomes effortless.

You're never "stuck" in one state of being. You are not shy because you were born genetically shy and all you will ever be is shy. You are shy because you have not exposed yourself enough to meeting new people, and you have not exposed yourself enough to people who are not shy, attempted to emulate them, and then acquired more experiences that show you how to NOT be shy. Is this necessarily your fault? Not entirely; as you mentioned, your parents sheltered you a lot, so you didn't get to have those experiences. But if you're young (like most of the readers on this website), then you have plenty of time to go out and acquire those experiences to change yourself into the man you want to become. You'll have to push boundaries and leave your comfort zone constantly, but eventually you'll realize that the fears you have of leaving your comfort zone are only inhibitors preventing you from doing the things you really want to do.

So go out there, do the things you want to do, and become the man you want to become. =)

- Franco
 
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