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Is there such a thing as having too many mentors?

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Cro-Magnon Man
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Just wondering, in any field or area of interest you're in, whether it be pickup, bodybuilding, music or anything, is there such a thing as having too many mentors? Like does having more than 1 mentor in one particular field going to just confuse you, or does the more you have equal the better? Sorry if this is a bit of a stupid question. Or maybe is it the best thing to do like if you're into say music, and you have one mentor for jazz, one for metal, one for reggae etc or should you have just one for everything?
 

Rage

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I don't think so as long as you are actively working in the field and being a praxtioner.

If you are learning new things from many new people constantly but then going and applying soon after and seeing what works or doesn't seem to work for you, then technically you had a lot of mentors but it only helps you if you are actually DOING and are putting in the deliberate practice to grow and progress and get better.

If you have a lot of guys you follow listen to and learn from but don't go and do anything with it, then that's a problem. And the problem then isn't so much that you have too many mentors but that you have too much information; information overload without enough learning a little bit and then going and doing stuff.

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one idea from one person may help you progress quite a bit forward. But only if it is learned and then tested and put to practical use; if not it is of course useless.

We can look at books as analogous to mentors and the same conundrum applies: do you ever get to a point where you have read too much/have too many you are pooling your knowledge from. My answer would be that depends on once again if you are reading some, then are reflecting and then going and acting.

Periods of learning and periods of application and practice, are what make the ideal balance in my opinion. And in that way you can get the tiniest bits and helpful relevant tidbits from places you would never expect and from odd people who may be in a different field than yours or just a noob or whatever. And in that way you can learn from everyone and everyone can be sort of a mentor in some funny way lol

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Also one other thing I'll mention too is having only one mentor or a select few who's work you revere and align to like gospel and don't take in or listen to anyone else's stuff is wrong and toeing the line of dogma.

If That happens you get blind to a lot of other stuff and brilliant people and perspectives ideas and content out there. Maybe part why chase doesn't want the sites writing to be just all his: lots of other brilliant seducers out there and they have their OWN unique perspectives ideas experiences and insights to share and teach. Girlsxhase is kinda built on getting many ideas from many sources and then APPLYING and seeing what works for you the practical seducer. This appeals to the open minded guys who find the site and is a refreshing distinction from competitors who may be more dogmatic and rigid on their opinions and viewpoints on pickup

Cheers

Rage
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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IMO having more mentors is a good thing. People have different personalities, styles, experiences, levels of proficiency... In life, there are 'things' and/or people that simply touch you on different levels...

Looking back, I was heavily influenced by Ross Jeffries, at that time it greatly increased my insight and understanding of female's behavior as well as overall attitude. At the same time, I reject any patterns or NLP, and although it was initially quite exciting I simply gave up on it since I consider it too manipulative, too immature...

Others didn't provide much knowledge, they were rather simpler and more straightforward styles, but at the same time you can learn a great deal of attitude or approach to PUA from these guys. DavidX, G. Brodski, 60 years of challenge, I don't even remember anymore... All are A MUST, at least in my opinion...

Everybody was excited about the famous 'The Game', from Strauss. Honestly, I opened the first couple of pages and I had to close it, there was just nothing I would benefit from, too superficial for my taste... Tried Mystery and couple others, but they were/are just too fancy for my taste...

... was listening to some tapes of David DeAngelo years ago, it was a reasonably good explanation of fundamentals. From today's point of view it was rather quite simplistic approach, however it is still very powerful - it is sort of as if you come around the whole circle, back to the beginning and started to appreciate more simplistic things, that could be easily expressed as "get a hobby, get a life"...

I've stopped reading PUA and Seduction material some 3 years ago, but as far as I can say GC is probably the most elaborated and most advanced that I've encountered, amazing job. I only wish I had access to material like this when I was 16-18, but that's life. Also spent some time on ROK, MGTOW, no-maam.blogspot.com, Red Pill...

... All good, different approaches, different personalities... When you think about it, the basic fundamentals and knowledge is pretty much the same, just described and maybe applied differently... Learn what you need, study different approaches and attitudes, read opinions of other guys, keep doing things that are working for you and omit things that don't - and eventually develop your own unique style, not just in seduction but in the whole life...
 
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