Is This Friendzone or "Wide Report"?

[cohiba]

Lots of other details to this but a girl that shows a lot of other IOIs said, "I feel like I could lie down on a couch and tell you my life story." How would you take this? It kind of has a friendzone vibe to it but also others have talked about this being called "wide report"

She doesn't talk to me about exes or boyfriends or her personal problems anything like that, but tells me about her family, comes up with questions to ask me and writes them on sticky notes and signs my name on them to ask me later. I remain on the dominant side of the interaction 90+% of the time. She has brought up other stuff like "I was thinking what if we hated each other...?"

Anyway, I could go on and on but this chick basically acts toward me like she is in love, but at the same time snarkily rejected me when I suggested she come along with me after days of talking about her cooking and asking me my favorite movies (like 3 different times) a while back. She also doesn't mind close contact or breaching of personal space.

 

[Cody Lyans]

Sounds like you just don't make moves and act like a friend. It isn't friend zone, it's just actual friend.
Friend zone is you try and get zoned down into friends from interested.

Imo you can game girls this way, but it's not easy to flip to your favor. You need to start talking more sex and get into her fantasies with some embedded commands,

If you and me were together, would you want it to be like x or y, what if I did z, haha

Then pull her onto your lap, and tickle wrestle, get mischief started

I'd also reframe the friends thing to, we act like kids together, now let's act like moms outta the place. And pull on her fantasies, make her wear what you fantasize about.

And don't masturbate thinking of her, unless she is in the room

 

[COCPORN]

Mr. Cody Lyans is describing this pretty well for you.

The more time that passes, the more you're fucking it up. Chances are she is waiting for you to make a move, and you don't. If this has been going on for more than a couple of weeks, I think you're better off waiting for the next round.

 

[cohiba]

I do think she is probably waiting for me to make a move, but usually girls are more forward with the suggestion. She is so subtle about it that it leaves me wondering if she is hinting or just leading-on. Not to mention the last time she completely blew me off; also possible she didn't think I was serious. i.e., that week she was talking about stuff she was making each night (why she kept saying this I have no idea, but I even followed up with "are you making me some..", on Friday as we were leaving she out of nowhere said, "Actually I already have dinner prepared" and kept overtly yawning. Made me thing I was boring her. I had already planned to do something and I said, "I doing this, your welcome to come along". She said, "no, sleep sounds much better." So it kinda led me to think maybe she was just using me for attention. Thing is I don't really give her that much attention as she initiates 90% of interactions.

Its gone on for longer. She goes cold and leaves without me then I pull away, and then goes hot again and starts waiting for me after three weeks of that. This may have been her last round. I've noticed her appear mad a few times over the course - possibly cause she thinks she is giving me signals and I'm not taking them. She has been trying to catch some other guys attention lately when I'm around. When she leaves with me, she acts reserved with arms crossed, walking behind me (i tell her to walk closer) and not saying much, when otherwise she is coming up with questions and smiling and whispering voice; starts humming after I quietly sing something (mirroring). It creates a slightly awkward situation to start getting something going.

But this last time when she started waiting for me again out of nowhere, the next day she said she thinks there is a bird in her car. I said its probably a belt. the next day she said it again and said she is going to a mechanic. I said, "Ill get it out if you pay me." Later she said, "I'm ready to pay someone $20 to get it out". So I said OK. I negotiated to her getting cans of my favorite drink from the store to make it more of an interaction. Went out and she had already had her car parked next to mine like she planned it. She couldn't find the hood latch so I came around, next thing I know I'm crouched between her legs and my arm is resting on her leg; I got up she has her legs spread apart with her hand over "it" and looking at me. then some dude stopped asking if we needed help. Anyway, that all got me thinking that her waiting for me to leave after three weeks of not and already having her car by mine was a ploy to get me to look at her car - as if she thought "ill bet I can get cohiba to look at this if I butter him up a bit by walking out with him." But its not like I have given her any indication that I would be there at her call. I did have to remind her to pay up and she did the very next day like she was checking to see if I'd hold her to our agreement.

Also, Title should be "Wide Rapport" not "Report".

 

[Tony D]

Her: "I feel like I could lie down and tell you my life story."
You: "Well my hourly rate is $250 an hour, but I'll take sexual favors."

 

[cohiba]

One of the issues I didn't mention is that this is at work and we sit alone in the same room office. That limits the extent to which I can respond, although she doesn't really care. I would otherwise not worry about a coworker but she made a comment that implied there is no other option but for us to "end good or end bad". By bad I think she meant if one of us ends up hating the other. she said, "we'll get you to crack eventually".