Is This the Right Move?

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey guys,

If you've kept up with me, this is about the religious girl. For those who haven't, here's a quick up-to-speed summary:

Met this girl at my church group, great eye contact, got her number. She chased pretty good, always initiated first, and was the first to ask to call. We had a great call conversation and it got her more interested. She's struggling with being super sexual, but a new christian and wanting to remain "pure" (she's a virgin). I isolated her a couple times and the most recent was about 2 weeks ago in my car in a parking lot. Lot's a sex talk and touching. I whipped it out and it was uncalibrated and it kind of threw her off. She said it "was a line we shouldn't cross". When I asked what line she said "Idk just a line". She called me afterwards about it and we got it figured out. She continued to show interest after.

However, since that last meeting I haven't been able to get her out. We've talked a few times and she still shows sexual interest occasionally over text. In person (at the church group) she's very responsive to my touch and smiles a lot. But she's suddenly being uncompliant. Am I right in thinking this is just a ridiculous shit test? She's cooling off because I missed my best chance?

Now I'm at a point where I am quickly losing interest (do you guys ever have this happen to you with a girl?). It's been 2 weeks since we went out and she hasn't initiated text since a week ago (last Monday). I initiated once and told her to call me that night (and have her sexy voice ready - which she responded well to). But then she had a friend over so she couldn't. It's been about 3 days no contact - I tried calling her tonight but no response. I'm really just over it.

There's another girl who told me shes interested in our group so I'm going to ask her out this Thursday instead.

I'm thinking of just being silent. Or, switching to being really passionate (sexually) and then switching back to my regular busy n chill self. What do you all think happened / is a good thing I could do? Maybe I'm worried when there's really nothing to be worried about? Maybe it's also just weird to me that I'm losing interest? (which to me means its her loss)

(For those thinking this is oneitis: yeah ok I was interested but I've really developed a distaste for chasing. not doing that ever again)

Till the next one,

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Hey guys,

Yeah OK she is on a pedestal. Shes the girl I want to bring over to the side of freedom and to get her virginity. Ive been thinking about her nonstop n she knows she has me - why would she want to pursue me?

So I deleted my texts with her. Im moving on. I reread articles on "that special girl" to make it click.

Time to date other girls.

NBW

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

NBW dude! Uncompliant is usually when it's dead in the water ya need to keep ya distance an be unaffected. Don't chase here or she definitely has ya and it's all over.

Unless ya heard her friend this could be an excuse an a wouldn't take it at face value. A have had phone calls from girls a have been seeing while having sleepovers with their friends. They'll call me to talk then have to go back an then they'll text me so yeah...

So she doesn't phone when ya ask, might be a good reason might not. Then doesn't answer when ya called. Ya need to leave it here an definitely meet more girls. Cause this one is from ya church group ya can be warm an unbothered in person but limit ya contact. Ya not her best friend an if she's not willing to meet ya look to soft next hard next her dude

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Fluxcapacitor,

Thanks man. Yeah I definitely stopped chasing and feel so much better. She texted yesterday that she was sad, so I invited her to join me for food (I was going anyways). She said "that would be cool! But my "friends" here and I can't have to stay wit her. Can you tell I'm not the biggest fan?"

So again, the friend came up, which is probably true. But it's something she has to deal with. I teased her back and then the send me a bunch of messages "I'm tired of her / I don't mean to be. Is that bad?" etc. etc. I didn't reply (was too busy to). She then apologized this morning in a text. Haven't replied (its fine but I'm not someone to text to dump emotions on).

So we'll see how it goes from here. Seeing her tomorrow at church.

Thanks~

NBW

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

NBW dude! That's the best way to play it. The apology is good cause she's getting the message. Not replying will make her sweat cause she's bothered by limited contact.

If she approaches ya be mild warm to reward her behaviour and then see where it goes from there. Might be a slow burn dude