Is touching new women during the interaction sexual harassment?

[DavidEdge]

This question have been on my mind for the longest. I have been taught ever since I was a child to keep my hands to myself and not touch women or it will be sexual harassment if I do. It didn't help when I had touched a woman, I gave her a huge, and she said out loud that that was sexual harassment(she was serious). Naturally I was pissed off, I wanted to rip the lady's fucking head off. We was talking and I just gave her a hug and she said it was sexually harassment!? I know it is essential to touch women but what if a woman say I committed sexual harassment? It doesn't help me either that some women say they don't want to be touch, but they melt in your hands when you do. Some women want you to touch them but they brush your hand off smiling but judging by her body language she wants you to touch her. My question is what's sexual harassment in GC's terms? Also how do I know if a woman wants to be touch or not despite what she says? And how do I know if a woman would let me touch her pussy, ass, breast?

Note: I know not to touch a woman's genitals when I first start the interaction with her, but it would be nice to be able to get away with it though

 

[Richard]

David,

Check out the "Touching" portion of this article for starters: Sexy Nonverbals

In it, I outline the steps to effective touching:

-You start with basic and general touching like the elbow, or the shoulder
-Then move to an embracing touch like a hug, or an arm around the shoulder
-Then you move onward to an intentional touch like grabbing a girls hand across the table and stroking her hand with your fingers
-The next step is more intimate and involves things like kissing, or sexual massaging, grabbing the butt or boobs
-The final step is obviously sexual intercourse

Immediately jumping to a type of touching without first priming a girl makes things awkward. So, start with a kino opener; i.e. touch a girl's elbow as a pre-opener, when you get her name, shake hands and keep holding her hand. As the interaction goes onward, move on closer into her intimate space (2-5 ft. from her), where "accidental" brushing can happen...

Something nuanced that I do is this: Tool original came up with the line "If you're gonna look at me/ smile at me like that you should at least say hi." I took that line and added a bit to it.

It's a powerful opener for girls who smiled at you, or girls who smile at you consistently. Walk up to her then touch her side, and whisper in her ear the line above ^^^

Anyway, what you should take from this is that you need to start with generic touching first to get her used to you touching her, then you gradually progress with more intimate and prolonged touching.

-Richard

 

[fsc_old]

I wanted to rip the lady's fucking head off

Chill

 

[DavidEdge]

David,

Check out the "Touching" portion of this article for starters: Sexy Nonverbals

In it, I outline the steps to effective touching:

-You start with basic and general touching like the elbow, or the shoulder
-Then move to an embracing touch like a hug, or an arm around the shoulder
-Then you move onward to an intentional touch like grabbing a girls hand across the table and stroking her hand with your fingers
-The next step is more intimate and involves things like kissing, or sexual massaging, grabbing the butt or boobs
-The final step is obviously sexual intercourse

Immediately jumping to a type of touching without first priming a girl makes things awkward. So, start with a kino opener; i.e. touch a girl's elbow as a pre-opener, when you get her name, shake hands and keep holding her hand. As the interaction goes onward, move on closer into her intimate space (2-5 ft. from her), where "accidental" brushing can happen...

Something nuanced that I do is this: Tool original came up with the line "If you're gonna look at me/ smile at me like that you should at least say hi." I took that line and added a bit to it.

It's a powerful opener for girls who smiled at you, or girls who smile at you consistently. Walk up to her then touch her side, and whisper in her ear the line above ^^^

Anyway, what you should take from this is that you need to start with generic touching first to get her used to you touching her, then you gradually progress with more intimate and prolonged touching.

-Richard

Makes sense thanks now I won't have to rip of girls heads

 

[DavidEdge]

I wanted to rip the lady's fucking head off

Chill

Haha It was at the moment she died in my mind a long time ago. But I'm sure I wasn't gonna rip her head off I just walked away when she said that it wouldn't be worth it.

 

[fsc_old]

My "Chill" reply was probably the most helpful response in the history of history.

You want to have a sexy-playful mentality and demeanor. You want to be a lover of these silly and cute creatures called women--not an abuser. If a woman offends you in any minor way, ignore it, laugh it off, or counter it in some sexy-playful way. If a woman really offends you, then let her know that you're not a pushover with some charming dominance.

I'm sort of digressing here, but you reminded me of my favorite scene in Don Jon that I'll surely use. It's the scene where Joseph meets Scarlett for the first time in a club and he manhandle kisses her on a club couch.
Him: (Manhandle kiss)
Her: (Pushes him away) What makes you think you can do that?
Him: Do what? (Manhandle kisses again)
Her: (Pushes him away) Fuck you
Him: "Fuck you"? You want to fuck me? Is that why you're kissing me?

Brilliant, don't you think? Sexy and playful. Don Jon would be a very different movie if Joseph gave her an uppercut right there.

If you ask a Feminist, yes--any touching of a woman, at any point, in any place, without her explicit permission is sexual harassment.

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