Isolating a Girl with a Family Member?

[TheWiseFool]

Does anyone know what to do when you want to talk to a girl, but she's with her whole family, or just a family member, such as her dad or mom? Do I talk to her first or do I talk to her parents? If I speak to her first, what do I say to the parents? If it's the other way around and let's say I do get her parent's permission, what do I say when I talk to her? "Okay, well as you probably just heard, I saw you and thought you were [insert compliment catered to her]. I 'd probably be beating myself up if I let the opportunity for you and I to meet to pass by. I'm Eric."

As usual, any and all help will be very much appreciated

 

[Ross]

WiseFool,

There are many different takes on this. Just talking to the girl is the easiest option; pay no mind to the parents. If you have an interest in meeting the parents as well, then by all means go for meeting them in conjunction with her.

What I'm seeing here is a belief that the parents must be appeased in order for you to talk to their daughter. This is exacerbated by your experiences with these types of approaches. I've predominantly seen, on television and movies, that people explain that you must appease the parents first, otherwise they will disapprove of you. Not only is that an exaggeration, but you shouldn't even need to worry about appeasing the parents. They are entirely separate from their daughter, and thus you can easily provide good feelings to her while simultaneously providing bad feelings to the parents through cognitive dissonance, where they may have a sense of entitlement through the same belief systems that you have expressed. But this is rarely the case - I've never had a family member successfully cock-block my approaches. As long as the girl is feeling good, you should have no issues isolating her from the group unless it is a logistical issue.

 

[TheWiseFool]

Ross,

Thanks for the reply!

But this is rarely the case - I've never had a family member successfully cock-block my approaches. As long as the girl is feeling good, you should have no issues isolating her from the group unless it is a logistical issue.

I find that really interesting. Many of the really cute girls I saw out yesterday were usually ones who were with their parents. I was worried that they were pretty young even though they had amazing bodies and above the average face that I saw while I was out. I guess there is a worry that her parent(s) will turn around and say, "What the hell are you doing?" or she'll turn out to be <18 and I look like a pervert... bahahaah.... but I mean cmon.... just acting on instinct lol!

Just talking to the girl is the easiest option; pay no mind to the parents.

I've been thinking about this as well in regards to approaching girls who are with their friends. But I need to go out tonight and test this out and learn for myself.

Again, thanks for the advice! If approach anxiety doesn't get to me again tonight, I will be back with results!
- The Wise Fool