I have noticed that after all this talk about categorising women, that I now look upon my sister(22) as an almost stereotypical example of girl who could easily be 'played'. She has no hobbies, spends most of her time on facebook, and is often emotionally unstable, and always looks for reassurance from her parents. This might sound odd, but I'm telling you, my sister could be 'played' quite easily by just telling her what she'd want to hear! So I try to keep her away from my mates if you know what I mean!! From a neutral stand point, I'll say that she is somewhat attractive, but not stunningly so, therefore all the more reason she needs to hear it.
I'm 23, but have gradually grown apart from her of late, realising that, as we've gotten older, we have nothing in common. This weekend the parents were away and by chance, we were both ended up in the house together, after I picked her up from the bus station. On the car journey home I made a few comments about the latest news topics, and my job... acting as if I didn't know she couldn't give a fcuk about them. I got a few monosyllabic responses from her. She then preceded talk about a few issues about her boyfriend. I gave her one or two monosyllabic cliche responses that were of no good as regards advice. Then silence for a few minutes before I turned on the radio to listen to a talk show about the economy!! The rest of the weekend we both went about our own business and I didn't make any more effort than her to make conversation. She's used to being entertained, so I did this to prove a point.
The parents came home Sunday evening, and were in a good mood so we went out for dinner. She usually likes to be the one to lead the way in and say "table for 4" to the waiter. So this time, I took the initiative to be the one communicating most with the waitress and all that. There was one point in time where, at the same time, we actually both said, something like "yeah another jug of water please". I then acted like I was surprised, like I didn't see that coming. It really confused her, I'll admit I did it to prove a point. She was sulking for the rest of the afternoon. But she couldn't say what she what sulking about because she'd look like a fool.
It turns out, part of the reason she was cross with me is that, her friend got pregnant, and she didn't like my response. I learned this when I eavesdropped on a phone conversation my parents were having on loud speaker later that night, where she was whining about me, saying "now he thinks Julie's a slut". My dad replied, "he didn't say that though??" Additional whining of "oh like he'd never do something like ask me if I wanted to go for a coffee or anything. Any why would I even want to have coffee with him, he's a prick" and then whining on some more again coming to the conclusion of "yeah, he's just a prick, you know" and then hung up without saying goodbye.
She was also pissed that I didn't give a loan to a friend of mine who I hadn't spoken to in years, who she was also somewhat close to. She really stuck her nose in on this one and brought this up in front of the parents in the restaurant saying:
Sis: "Did you even get back to John yesterday"
Me: "that's my business"
Sis "John has a young baby(unplanned) and maybe his going through a hard time. You have to give people the benefit of the doubt"
Me "It would be more appropriate if John went to his brothers for help on that matter"
Sis "Maybe he has his pride"
Me "What am I a charity? I've my own problems to look after"
Sis "like what? worrying what you're going to have for breakfast in the morning?"
And all that was said between us the day prior regarding the pregnant friend:
Sis "did you hear about Julie?"(long term relationship thing)
Me "what? she's pregnant??"(unplanned sort of thing)
Sis "how did you know?"
Me "well what else would it be, she hardly wrote an new album"
Sis "you're not to tell anyone that, because Julie told me in confidence"
Me "what did ya tell me for so, big-mouth?"
Then as she was leaving to go home that evening when I was saying goodbye, she said:
Sis: "thanks for a splendid weekend as always"
Me: "likewise"
Sis: with a killer look "I was being sarcastic"
Me: "likewise"!
It's like as if because things are going well for me with my life lately, she feels like I haven't earned that happiness, and that other people's crosses aren't created by themselves. The only kick I can get out it is playing minds games. Has becoming a player changed the way anyone else views their sister?
I'm 23, but have gradually grown apart from her of late, realising that, as we've gotten older, we have nothing in common. This weekend the parents were away and by chance, we were both ended up in the house together, after I picked her up from the bus station. On the car journey home I made a few comments about the latest news topics, and my job... acting as if I didn't know she couldn't give a fcuk about them. I got a few monosyllabic responses from her. She then preceded talk about a few issues about her boyfriend. I gave her one or two monosyllabic cliche responses that were of no good as regards advice. Then silence for a few minutes before I turned on the radio to listen to a talk show about the economy!! The rest of the weekend we both went about our own business and I didn't make any more effort than her to make conversation. She's used to being entertained, so I did this to prove a point.
The parents came home Sunday evening, and were in a good mood so we went out for dinner. She usually likes to be the one to lead the way in and say "table for 4" to the waiter. So this time, I took the initiative to be the one communicating most with the waitress and all that. There was one point in time where, at the same time, we actually both said, something like "yeah another jug of water please". I then acted like I was surprised, like I didn't see that coming. It really confused her, I'll admit I did it to prove a point. She was sulking for the rest of the afternoon. But she couldn't say what she what sulking about because she'd look like a fool.
It turns out, part of the reason she was cross with me is that, her friend got pregnant, and she didn't like my response. I learned this when I eavesdropped on a phone conversation my parents were having on loud speaker later that night, where she was whining about me, saying "now he thinks Julie's a slut". My dad replied, "he didn't say that though??" Additional whining of "oh like he'd never do something like ask me if I wanted to go for a coffee or anything. Any why would I even want to have coffee with him, he's a prick" and then whining on some more again coming to the conclusion of "yeah, he's just a prick, you know" and then hung up without saying goodbye.
She was also pissed that I didn't give a loan to a friend of mine who I hadn't spoken to in years, who she was also somewhat close to. She really stuck her nose in on this one and brought this up in front of the parents in the restaurant saying:
Sis: "Did you even get back to John yesterday"
Me: "that's my business"
Sis "John has a young baby(unplanned) and maybe his going through a hard time. You have to give people the benefit of the doubt"
Me "It would be more appropriate if John went to his brothers for help on that matter"
Sis "Maybe he has his pride"
Me "What am I a charity? I've my own problems to look after"
Sis "like what? worrying what you're going to have for breakfast in the morning?"
And all that was said between us the day prior regarding the pregnant friend:
Sis "did you hear about Julie?"(long term relationship thing)
Me "what? she's pregnant??"(unplanned sort of thing)
Sis "how did you know?"
Me "well what else would it be, she hardly wrote an new album"
Sis "you're not to tell anyone that, because Julie told me in confidence"
Me "what did ya tell me for so, big-mouth?"
Then as she was leaving to go home that evening when I was saying goodbye, she said:
Sis: "thanks for a splendid weekend as always"
Me: "likewise"
Sis: with a killer look "I was being sarcastic"
Me: "likewise"!
It's like as if because things are going well for me with my life lately, she feels like I haven't earned that happiness, and that other people's crosses aren't created by themselves. The only kick I can get out it is playing minds games. Has becoming a player changed the way anyone else views their sister?
This is especially more complicated when you go to more conservative countries.