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@kin: thanks for that kin. I agree with you. I was wrong to assume that such an incredible reward (attracting almost any woman you want) wouldn't require an incredible amount of effort.
@Flames: As i said before, you are 100% right. I can't let this go now, even if i want to.
@Zac: i'm eating ice cream now- good suggestion
@ocantu1987: Thanks for that video, better him than me 0_0 (160pounds!!)
@Richard: I'm putting into practice everything you're saying, i've renewed my confidence
@Nuncle: I've got most of the basics, but i think it's my confidence and little things that let me down. I think girls can sense this, and feel awkward themselves. When I have a conversation, it never seems natural, but forced.
@Supah: Your comment really cheered me up. Yes, i will grin like the cheshire cat once i get this sorted!
@Estate: Thank you. I wrote in my journal that i didn't feel good with the 'peacocking with crazy hats' style either, so i understand where you're coming from. You're right, i shouldn't over-complicate it. I'm going to take it one little (but frequent) baby step at a time.
@PinotNoir: Usually, i only approach 2 girls per day, or 1 if the 1st girl was difficult. The truth is, i don't feel like i'm a 'natural' at all; i doubt i am even one. I just got to do it the Chase way: Hit your head enough times at a brick wall, and hope after enough attempts you make it through (and this hurts!). I just can't get a natural flowing conversation with girls. The whole thing always seems so forced and artificial to me, and almost certainly to her too. And when i try to think to myself 'what do i say?', my mind just goes blank and i'm left there feeling like a fish out of water and in panic mode.
@DavidEdge: wow, i look bad. You're 17 and you're that persistent? I think you're going to do just fine, don't worry.
@Estate: Honestly, i just began university, and the whole thing is still a bit of a mystery to me socially. I think this is going to take some time.
@Supah: You're correct; older girls (22-25) are certainly more interesting and less awkward to talk to. To be honest, i just don't know anything about girls to make any more judgements however. I'll probably get along just fine with two 18 year olds tomorrow! This whole subject of approaching just makes me even more confused about girls as time goes on. i used to think they were simple.
@Witcher: I've had a look at those books you suggested. Thanks for that. I've heard good things of the 'how to win friends and influence people' on here.
@metomeya: I won't lie. For me, approaching women is thoroughly unenjoyable. I almost hate it. But i have to go through with it in order to get better. Once i get the hang of it, i'm sure it starts being fun, but right now it feels like doing chemistry homework. I feel like crap while i'm doing it, and i can do nothing but pat my back when i'm done, knowing that i messed up anyway. Where i'm going with this is that i'm really unsure how to make this a 'hobby'.
@PrettyDecent: You're right. you inspired me to return to the book. I originally was a bit underwhelmed with the book, because i felt that it didn't have 'that' much to offer apart from what you already find on the majority of the articles, but after skimming through the book again, it's obvious it's more about condensing everything down to make progression easier. I will reread and redo the homework soon. Thanks for that!
@Flames: As i said before, you are 100% right. I can't let this go now, even if i want to.
@Zac: i'm eating ice cream now- good suggestion
@ocantu1987: Thanks for that video, better him than me 0_0 (160pounds!!)
@Richard: I'm putting into practice everything you're saying, i've renewed my confidence
@Nuncle: I've got most of the basics, but i think it's my confidence and little things that let me down. I think girls can sense this, and feel awkward themselves. When I have a conversation, it never seems natural, but forced.
@Supah: Your comment really cheered me up. Yes, i will grin like the cheshire cat once i get this sorted!
@Estate: Thank you. I wrote in my journal that i didn't feel good with the 'peacocking with crazy hats' style either, so i understand where you're coming from. You're right, i shouldn't over-complicate it. I'm going to take it one little (but frequent) baby step at a time.
@PinotNoir: Usually, i only approach 2 girls per day, or 1 if the 1st girl was difficult. The truth is, i don't feel like i'm a 'natural' at all; i doubt i am even one. I just got to do it the Chase way: Hit your head enough times at a brick wall, and hope after enough attempts you make it through (and this hurts!). I just can't get a natural flowing conversation with girls. The whole thing always seems so forced and artificial to me, and almost certainly to her too. And when i try to think to myself 'what do i say?', my mind just goes blank and i'm left there feeling like a fish out of water and in panic mode.
@DavidEdge: wow, i look bad. You're 17 and you're that persistent? I think you're going to do just fine, don't worry.
@Estate: Honestly, i just began university, and the whole thing is still a bit of a mystery to me socially. I think this is going to take some time.
@Supah: You're correct; older girls (22-25) are certainly more interesting and less awkward to talk to. To be honest, i just don't know anything about girls to make any more judgements however. I'll probably get along just fine with two 18 year olds tomorrow! This whole subject of approaching just makes me even more confused about girls as time goes on. i used to think they were simple.
@Witcher: I've had a look at those books you suggested. Thanks for that. I've heard good things of the 'how to win friends and influence people' on here.
@metomeya: I won't lie. For me, approaching women is thoroughly unenjoyable. I almost hate it. But i have to go through with it in order to get better. Once i get the hang of it, i'm sure it starts being fun, but right now it feels like doing chemistry homework. I feel like crap while i'm doing it, and i can do nothing but pat my back when i'm done, knowing that i messed up anyway. Where i'm going with this is that i'm really unsure how to make this a 'hobby'.
@PrettyDecent: You're right. you inspired me to return to the book. I originally was a bit underwhelmed with the book, because i felt that it didn't have 'that' much to offer apart from what you already find on the majority of the articles, but after skimming through the book again, it's obvious it's more about condensing everything down to make progression easier. I will reread and redo the homework soon. Thanks for that!
