Ive been texting a girl online and it went really well for about 2 and half weeks.

[William Wallace]

she started sending me good morning messages for 1 week and we had 1-2 hours conversations i usually managed to end them on a high note, while i didn't have something else actually going on. i think i ended up teasing her in the wrong way, and or spammed her a little bit to much during our online ¨date¨ which diden't go that well because of a third party that i was relaying on? we share alot of interests. and thats why i wan't to be together with her, but i will only have a chance of meeting her in the summer really. i noticed that her responces to me seemed less and less enthuastic over time. before she would write Sureeeeeeeeeeee and now its just yes.

 

[BigPapa]

Drop it mate , makes no sense to focus a lot of energy on girls that you can not see . This is what she is doing

 

[William Wallace]

Drop it mate , makes no sense to focus a lot of energy on girls that you can not see . This is what she is doing

guess ill just befriend her then all the interests we share...... We shared 70-80% of our hobbies. and our world view.... i guess i became the chaser and that was the mistake i did.

 

[BigPapa]

Mate , first of all I know the feeling connecting with someone that shares with you a lot of things etc , but in the same time in order to have a relationship it requires both of you in the same place , otherwise it will not work no matter how much you will want it .

Second of all , women are super pragmatic , in your case she just realized that no matter how much she likes talking with you the distance is a big problem and she just wants someone that she can touch , kiss , have sex with , etc .

this is just how the world works , no matter how much it sucks

 

[William Wallace]

Mate , first of all I know the feeling connecting with someone that shares with you a lot of things etc , but in the same time in order to have a relationship it requires both of you in the same place , otherwise it will not work no matter how much you will want it .

Second of all , women are super pragmatic , in your case she just realized that no matter how much she likes talking with you the distance is a big problem and she just wants someone that she can touch , kiss , have sex with , etc .

this is just how the world works , no matter how much it sucks

i guess the distance is like from new york to Albama . as an refernce, lets just say she would live in lousiania. i would have family in Alabama i visit every year for 2 months. i guess ill give up on her as a romance shes interesting enough as a friend. all the locations are just made up but they have about the same amount of distance. i was thinking of going on a date with an old class mate who was interested in me if shes single, she already knows my world view so it will be alot easier

 

[BigPapa]

Mate you look quite depressed

in order for you to improve , you need to get out of your comfort zone , which means talking with people you do not know and who knows maybe you will just get lucky and find someone in the same area with whom you will have a lot things in common

 

[William Wallace]

Mate you look quite depressed

in order for you to improve , you need to get out of your comfort zone , which means talking with people you do not know and who knows maybe you will just get lucky and find someone in the same area with whom you will have a lot things in common

problem is where? hit up girls in the liberay or something? i'm not depressed atleast not that i know off hahahaha! i dismissed that girl because i was not interested in a relationship at the time(the one who was interested in me). i don't like bars or clubs and as far as i know there isen't a local Lan party girls looking for boyfriends group here, who then again needs to share my worldview or be okay with it.

 

[Toby2030]

Answer these questions:
1. Which kind of girls are you attracted to? Looks-wise, education, personality, interests etc.
2. Where can you find this type of girl?

Also. Escalate faster. Long-distance text buddies for a long period of time don't work. People lose interest.

 

[ulrich]

Super brutally honest advice:

Don’t spend time chatting or getting to know girls you can’t meet soon.
Attraction expires very fast and all your effort is wasted if you can’t meet her in a couple of weeks top.

And, also important, it distracts you from other girls that you can actually meet and make things work with them.

 

[William Wallace]

Answer these questions:
1. Which kind of girls are you attracted to? Looks-wise, education, personality, interests etc.
2. Where can you find this type of girl?

Also. Escalate faster. Long-distance text buddies for a long period of time don't work. People lose interest.

ahh okay, so i should ask her if she wanna meet up in the summer? I don't care about eduaction itself but id like a girl who can intellectually entertain me or i will get bored quickly. that would probably be a girl around 120-140 IQ range. Personality ehhh? well if she shares the same interests as me i guess it will almost be a tomboy hahaha. The girl ive meet we share the same kinda favorites games RTS, we share our love for history, and Her favoritt music is marching songs which is not my favoritt but i'm a big fan of. if the girl has the same interests or looks i'm fine with them being Meh,

 

[William Wallace]

anyways today she messaged me about having her period? my friends told me its to signal that she wants my interest

 

[Zanardi]

anyways today she messaged me about having her period? my friends told me its to signal that she wants my interest

And how could that be a sign of interest?

 

[William Wallace]

And how could that be a sign of interest?

yeah same thing i thought. she texted me early in the moring Ayooo, i responded with 2 mins since i had been awake since 6 lying in my bed, trying to get more sleep. i wondered what she was doing op so early in a Saturday so i texted her about that. (keep in mind i have no social skills at all here) and she sendt me a message about having a very bad period and wanting to die kinda. now i dunno how that could be a sign of wanting my interest. anyways my friend has suggesting me to escalate it, by sending this. Hey I'm spending a couple of months in (insert country) this Summer. I was thinking it would be nice to meet up. Thoughts?

we have only voiced chatted once for like 5 mins

 

[Zanardi]

You: how are you?
Her: I am having a bad period.

Nop. Simple conversation I know because I made this mistake over and over again.

 

[William Wallace]

You: how are you?
Her: I am having a bad period.

Nop. Simple conversation I know because I made this mistake over and over again.

No. it was
Her Ayoo
Me whats ye doing up so early.
6 hours later reply
I'm having a terrible period.
Me jokes about Period
she Yikes. as i said something worse then having a period.
me jokes more.
XDDDD PFFFTTT.
anyways she raraly writes anything more then 1-4 word replies so i guess ive fucked up already

 

[ulrich]

Meet her ASAP.
You’re not going to seduce her with text messages. It’s almost impossible.

 

[William Wallace]

Meet her ASAP.
You’re not going to seduce her with text messages. It’s almost impossible.

had a longer conversation she started. i diden't put it in in the middle of it. but ive sendt a ¨ultimatum¨ afterwards
Hey (insert name) I'm spending a couple of months in (insert country) this Summer. I was thinking it would be nice to meet up. Thoughts?

 

[ulrich]

There’s about three months before the start of summer.
Any chance you meet her now?

 

[William Wallace]

There’s about three months before the start of summer.
Any chance you meet her now?

realistically no that the entire country is on lock-down due to the virus she lives a distance from new york to flordia away. but i go to ¨flordia¨every summer to visit my other part of my family. i could of course techincally take a trip down there for 200 dollars like 100 more in hotel costs or something to visit her on a first date but currently shes sick apparently. and its maybe the virus. also i'm trying to get my drivers lisence

Anyways i think she just politely rejected me by saying. I don't really know, it can depend on how busy i will be ^^;; . If anything this was a learning experience ive probably should have sent this when she was the most interested in me sending me good morning messages.

ill probably have to wait another 10 years to find a girl who will read Rommels infantry attack Hahahaha

 

[William Wallace]

Update she still wants to talk to me as a friend probably LOL trying to greet me. She then went to 2 hours later to ask what i was doing on my steam account she seem to wait an hour for response