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First, I loved Japan. I would live there if I knew Japanese better and could get a job easily.
Second, heads up, nothing too exciting in this post
My friends and I packed as much stuff as we could in every day, so my time to meet women was rather limited. I also found the language barrier to be quite hard to overcome. Lastly, I've read posts here about people in Japan getting lots of action in clubs. I shouldn't be so judgmental, but to be honest, I just don't like clubs and club girls. It feels a bit.... I don't know.... trashy/dirty to me. I just don't desire to have sex with a girl in a club bathroom. I know a lot of guys here will hate on me for this, but it's just a "mental model" that I haven't been able to escape from yet. And this might be hypocritical, but for some reason, bar girls just seem cleaner and give me a better vibe. I don't like party girls and high-energy girls that generally frequent clubs, but girls at bars/lounges tend to still be pretty chill.
Third, almost every girl is hot. This might just be my American-ness adding bonus points because 99% of women are slim and still retain lots of femininity. It's like this culture that hasn't been affected by an idea of making women more like men. It's fantastic. Shy, coy, giggly, wants you to lead, not afraid to embrace pure femininity, know the perfect facial expressions and tone of voices to make guys melt, etc.
So, I only had 3 -- what I consider -- somewhat successful attempts.
1. One late night, we went to a music bar. The place was virtually empty: just me, my 2 friends, 2 female bartenders, and 1 guy. And damn, the sake at this little hole-in-the-wall place was smooth and delicious. Anyway, 1 of the bartenders speaks a bit of broken English and comes over to get a picture with us (foreigners) to post on her website (she's apparently the owner, but not exactly sure....). I tell her that we'll take a picture if she dances with me after. She agrees. She takes a picture, and then we begin to dance. I tell her she's cute (kawaii) and that I'm a bad dancer (yokunai) with bad Japanese, and she laughs. She is so shy that it's adorable, barely able to hold my hands and put her hand around my back. We do a fast dance and then a slow dance, and I'm pretty sure she cupped my butt (this shy girl has a secret naughty side). I invite her back down to sit with us, and we drink some of my sake together (she insists [with gestures] that I hold on to the cup and tilt it in her mouth; this was pretty romantic actually). No idea what to say here; language is a problem. She goes back to the other bartender and talks for a bit. After a bit of chatting with my buddies, another good song comes on, so I walk over there and invite her to dance again. We start dancing, and I kiss her on the cheek. I don't want to be the typical "foreign pig" here, so that's why I'm not being too aggressive. We depart again, and she definitely cupped my ass again. Finally, we pay and begin to depart. I let my friends head out into the night, while I stall a bit. I invite her to come outside with me alone, and then outside, I kiss her on the cheek and hold her hands. She says "thank you very much" and smiles. I invite her to leave, but she tells me (in broken English) that she has to work all night into the morning/afternoon the next day. I give her a hug and say goodnight (oyasumi). I probably should have persisted more here, but the language had me a bit stumped. I should rely more on physical pulling than on words. So close
2. I simply went up to this girl in a coffee shop and told her that she was cute and asked for her email (my Japanese is so bad). She agreed, and we exchanged email haha. We've emailed a couple of times back and forth to each other (using Google Translate), but I don't think this is going to go anywhere....
3. While I was on the plane ride back, I sat next to a cute Japanese girl heading to Salt Lake City to train to be a Mormon (weird). She knows English fairly well (still not that great). We exchange email, and I give her my phone # too just in case. We've also emailed a couple of times, but she's like hardcore Mormon.... it's just not going to work.
I also flirted with my hotel staff (some knew English really well as a job requirement) and some other girls, but I decided not to ask for email or anything else after girl #2. It's just kind of awkward. I would have loved to invite one of the women from the hotel staff up to my room, but I can't imagine one of them saying yes and risking their job Any ideas here?
Absolutely amazing country. I hope it never gets ruined by Western influence. Everyone is so polite, and the place is very clean, and they put passion/heart/creativity into everything they do. It's really remarkable. I can barely get cashiers to make eye contact with me here, but there, everyone bows and says "thank you" a million times. I hope the country keeps its roots If you ever get the chance, visit Japan.
Second, heads up, nothing too exciting in this post
My friends and I packed as much stuff as we could in every day, so my time to meet women was rather limited. I also found the language barrier to be quite hard to overcome. Lastly, I've read posts here about people in Japan getting lots of action in clubs. I shouldn't be so judgmental, but to be honest, I just don't like clubs and club girls. It feels a bit.... I don't know.... trashy/dirty to me. I just don't desire to have sex with a girl in a club bathroom. I know a lot of guys here will hate on me for this, but it's just a "mental model" that I haven't been able to escape from yet. And this might be hypocritical, but for some reason, bar girls just seem cleaner and give me a better vibe. I don't like party girls and high-energy girls that generally frequent clubs, but girls at bars/lounges tend to still be pretty chill.Third, almost every girl is hot. This might just be my American-ness adding bonus points because 99% of women are slim and still retain lots of femininity. It's like this culture that hasn't been affected by an idea of making women more like men. It's fantastic. Shy, coy, giggly, wants you to lead, not afraid to embrace pure femininity, know the perfect facial expressions and tone of voices to make guys melt, etc.
So, I only had 3 -- what I consider -- somewhat successful attempts.
1. One late night, we went to a music bar. The place was virtually empty: just me, my 2 friends, 2 female bartenders, and 1 guy. And damn, the sake at this little hole-in-the-wall place was smooth and delicious. Anyway, 1 of the bartenders speaks a bit of broken English and comes over to get a picture with us (foreigners) to post on her website (she's apparently the owner, but not exactly sure....). I tell her that we'll take a picture if she dances with me after. She agrees. She takes a picture, and then we begin to dance. I tell her she's cute (kawaii) and that I'm a bad dancer (yokunai) with bad Japanese, and she laughs. She is so shy that it's adorable, barely able to hold my hands and put her hand around my back. We do a fast dance and then a slow dance, and I'm pretty sure she cupped my butt (this shy girl has a secret naughty side). I invite her back down to sit with us, and we drink some of my sake together (she insists [with gestures] that I hold on to the cup and tilt it in her mouth; this was pretty romantic actually). No idea what to say here; language is a problem. She goes back to the other bartender and talks for a bit. After a bit of chatting with my buddies, another good song comes on, so I walk over there and invite her to dance again. We start dancing, and I kiss her on the cheek. I don't want to be the typical "foreign pig" here, so that's why I'm not being too aggressive. We depart again, and she definitely cupped my ass again. Finally, we pay and begin to depart. I let my friends head out into the night, while I stall a bit. I invite her to come outside with me alone, and then outside, I kiss her on the cheek and hold her hands. She says "thank you very much" and smiles. I invite her to leave, but she tells me (in broken English) that she has to work all night into the morning/afternoon the next day. I give her a hug and say goodnight (oyasumi). I probably should have persisted more here, but the language had me a bit stumped. I should rely more on physical pulling than on words. So close
2. I simply went up to this girl in a coffee shop and told her that she was cute and asked for her email (my Japanese is so bad). She agreed, and we exchanged email haha. We've emailed a couple of times back and forth to each other (using Google Translate), but I don't think this is going to go anywhere....
3. While I was on the plane ride back, I sat next to a cute Japanese girl heading to Salt Lake City to train to be a Mormon (weird). She knows English fairly well (still not that great). We exchange email, and I give her my phone # too just in case. We've also emailed a couple of times, but she's like hardcore Mormon.... it's just not going to work.
I also flirted with my hotel staff (some knew English really well as a job requirement) and some other girls, but I decided not to ask for email or anything else after girl #2. It's just kind of awkward. I would have loved to invite one of the women from the hotel staff up to my room, but I can't imagine one of them saying yes and risking their job
Any ideas here?Absolutely amazing country. I hope it never gets ruined by Western influence. Everyone is so polite, and the place is very clean, and they put passion/heart/creativity into everything they do. It's really remarkable. I can barely get cashiers to make eye contact with me here, but there, everyone bows and says "thank you" a million times. I hope the country keeps its roots
If you ever get the chance, visit Japan.