I haven't met many japanese women, but my friend used to live in Japan and told me a lot about them. I can't remember everything about them, but from the gist of it, it sounds like you'll have to be an incredibly smooth operator to get close to one.
(However, he said that if you were just after casual relationships and are into manipulating women for sex, then they were ideal as they are intrigued by foreigners and sometimes feel obliged to have sex with you even if they're not too into it, because they don't want to hurt your feelings. But as i -and he- consider genuine and lasting relationships over taking advantage of woman for one night, we're not so interested in that way.
Anyway, because of the way they are raised and brought up, it sounds like they're a real tough nut to crack.
•Approaching them in public is a big no-no, and japanese women *absolutely* do not like to be singled out, especially in front of others.
•Due to the ridiculous school system which prioritises daily exams and heaps of homework over the student's mental health, happiness and overall character, the majority become almost like drones. To the japanese, work and education is life's purpose. Personal relationships, enjoying life's simple pleasures and pursuing a dream is way down the priority list.
•Romance and a loving partner doesn't even register on a japanese woman's mind. They have no idea what that is, apart from what they loosely understand from western films and korean dramas. When they are raised by their parents, it is rare for a Japanese couple to show intimate affection between each other, and unheard of in public. A married couple often sleep in separate beds or separate rooms and the birth rate is one of, if not the lowest in the world.
The consequence is that Japanese men (who were raised as single children and given total attention by their mother while the father is working long hours) look for women to look after them, clean for them and pamper them just like their mothers did. And japanese women very rarely experience romance, when emotions are never displayed and mysogeny is so common.
•Related to the point above, Japanese women (relative to other nationalities) simply never commit themselves to anyone. Affairs and adultery are tolerated and are common in japanese society, even expected if one partner is on a long 'business trip'. Having a relationship while having a boyfriend or husband is no big deal. I'm not the type to be jealous in a relationship as i consider myself an optimist, but i don't respect a woman at all if she doesn't respect fidelity.
•Marrying a non-japanese man requires breaking too many barriers for often what it's worth, and so *almost all* japanese woman have no wish to marry a foreign man, but marry a japanese man and live a non-controversial, safe and average life. Only a fraction of Japan's women consider anything more than a casual encounter with a foreigner. Anything more would be too much.
•Japanese women do not like to speak honestly and directly, but like to speak in riddles and beat around the bush. You never know where you're going with a japanese woman or if she's being sincere. Much and consistent affection from a japanese woman just can't be expected even if she likes you, and if you finally work out that she doesn't like you, you've already fallen for her. (Like i said previously, many japanese women would much rather sleep with you and kiss you rather than reject you outright if you were at least a bit attractive so they don't hurt anyone. But they will never plan on staying for long. They don't mean to lead you on or even consider it. It's just their culture).
Last but not least, if you were to marry one, they would much rather stay in Japan (where you would have to endure the weird food that could kill a foreigner, freezing winters without central heating, a whole population who live by the said points above, casual racism and the hardcore schooling for your children so to repeat the cycle of mass-producing identical drones to work at sony). And you'll have to accept one day that, unless you were her sugar daddy, she would see her work as No.1, her child as No.2, her friends as No.3, and you somewhere in obscurity.
I know Chase is basically a miracle-worker when it comes to this sort if thing, but i'm not even sure a complete lobotomy could make her let go of all these cultural disadvantages that would ultimately make you miserable. They sound like monsters.
But also keeping in mind that said women would have only met japanese men and the occasional western anime freak in their life and that i'm a sexy, charming and attractive gentleman (or at least one day will be), miracles do happen.
So when it comes to Japan and Japanese women, what do you think? Interesting country with gorgeous women (who never seem to age), or irradiated and expensive country with women who will make you commit hara-kiri?
(However, he said that if you were just after casual relationships and are into manipulating women for sex, then they were ideal as they are intrigued by foreigners and sometimes feel obliged to have sex with you even if they're not too into it, because they don't want to hurt your feelings. But as i -and he- consider genuine and lasting relationships over taking advantage of woman for one night, we're not so interested in that way.
Anyway, because of the way they are raised and brought up, it sounds like they're a real tough nut to crack.
•Approaching them in public is a big no-no, and japanese women *absolutely* do not like to be singled out, especially in front of others.
•Due to the ridiculous school system which prioritises daily exams and heaps of homework over the student's mental health, happiness and overall character, the majority become almost like drones. To the japanese, work and education is life's purpose. Personal relationships, enjoying life's simple pleasures and pursuing a dream is way down the priority list.
•Romance and a loving partner doesn't even register on a japanese woman's mind. They have no idea what that is, apart from what they loosely understand from western films and korean dramas. When they are raised by their parents, it is rare for a Japanese couple to show intimate affection between each other, and unheard of in public. A married couple often sleep in separate beds or separate rooms and the birth rate is one of, if not the lowest in the world.
The consequence is that Japanese men (who were raised as single children and given total attention by their mother while the father is working long hours) look for women to look after them, clean for them and pamper them just like their mothers did. And japanese women very rarely experience romance, when emotions are never displayed and mysogeny is so common.
•Related to the point above, Japanese women (relative to other nationalities) simply never commit themselves to anyone. Affairs and adultery are tolerated and are common in japanese society, even expected if one partner is on a long 'business trip'. Having a relationship while having a boyfriend or husband is no big deal. I'm not the type to be jealous in a relationship as i consider myself an optimist, but i don't respect a woman at all if she doesn't respect fidelity.
•Marrying a non-japanese man requires breaking too many barriers for often what it's worth, and so *almost all* japanese woman have no wish to marry a foreign man, but marry a japanese man and live a non-controversial, safe and average life. Only a fraction of Japan's women consider anything more than a casual encounter with a foreigner. Anything more would be too much.
•Japanese women do not like to speak honestly and directly, but like to speak in riddles and beat around the bush. You never know where you're going with a japanese woman or if she's being sincere. Much and consistent affection from a japanese woman just can't be expected even if she likes you, and if you finally work out that she doesn't like you, you've already fallen for her. (Like i said previously, many japanese women would much rather sleep with you and kiss you rather than reject you outright if you were at least a bit attractive so they don't hurt anyone. But they will never plan on staying for long. They don't mean to lead you on or even consider it. It's just their culture).
Last but not least, if you were to marry one, they would much rather stay in Japan (where you would have to endure the weird food that could kill a foreigner, freezing winters without central heating, a whole population who live by the said points above, casual racism and the hardcore schooling for your children so to repeat the cycle of mass-producing identical drones to work at sony). And you'll have to accept one day that, unless you were her sugar daddy, she would see her work as No.1, her child as No.2, her friends as No.3, and you somewhere in obscurity.
I know Chase is basically a miracle-worker when it comes to this sort if thing, but i'm not even sure a complete lobotomy could make her let go of all these cultural disadvantages that would ultimately make you miserable. They sound like monsters.
But also keeping in mind that said women would have only met japanese men and the occasional western anime freak in their life and that i'm a sexy, charming and attractive gentleman (or at least one day will be), miracles do happen.
So when it comes to Japan and Japanese women, what do you think? Interesting country with gorgeous women (who never seem to age), or irradiated and expensive country with women who will make you commit hara-kiri?
