Hey guys,
Last night I had a date with a girl from a dating app. When I first saw her, I realized that she wasn't as hot as in her pictures so I was forced with a decision: ditch her or try to get a LR... I chose the latter
Yesterday I posted a FR about leading a girl on a daygame instant date and how I needed to work on more dominant leading, as well as leading in a way that gets a girl out of her 'logical mind' and into a more seduction-friendly 'emotional mind'. I think those two concepts helped me to get the slay last night.
The Date
We met up at this cool bar in the city where I live to get cocktails. As I said before, she wasn't that hot so I definitely had a feeling of indifference towards her at the beginning. She could sense that I wasn't that interested in her, so I could see her working harder to keep the conversation going.
I tried to take advantage of her being the one to carry the conversation and tried to see how far I could take that. My only role at the beginning was the "thread director"--steering the conversation towards "sexual", "adventurous", or "judgement-free" topics.
I also did a few things to set the tone: I drew an imaginary line around us and said "this is a judgement free zone" whenever she would say something mildly contentious. I think this helped her open up.
Another thing that I did that Hector has advocated for is cursing, haha. It seems small, but I realized that I have never really cursed on a first date, which is pretty fucking stupid since I curse a lot with my buddies.
I could see she was thrown back by my cursing and she had to work up the courage herself to start cursing as well. Once I got her cursing as well the conversations got a lot more sexual and she would get more excited telling them because she didnt have to sensor her language.
Some specific examples of cursing would be to say "fucking" instead of "having sex" and "I dont give a shit" instead of "I dont care". The possibilities are endless
After about 45 minutes when I had my beer goggles on, lol, I decided it was time for me to move her. I then set this frame of us "going with the flow" and not being logical about tonight. This was very important for the seduction.
I took her to another cocktail bar with a sexy atmosphere and told her to go find us seats--she obliged. I also told her that she was buying this round of drinks and she said "I owe you".
Up until this point there really hadn't been any sexual escalation besides a couple instances of hand holding when we were sitting down. I would take both her hands and tell her we're having a staring contest. This was a good way to help her make eye contact with me since I think I was coming across as too high value for her.
I tried to close with a 'yes ladder' but I had no idea how it would go since I haven't had much luck with it lately. I said:
And that was that. We left the bar, got down to business, and then I booted out of there once my beer goggles had worn off, lol.
Cheers,
BigS
Last night I had a date with a girl from a dating app. When I first saw her, I realized that she wasn't as hot as in her pictures so I was forced with a decision: ditch her or try to get a LR... I chose the latter
Yesterday I posted a FR about leading a girl on a daygame instant date and how I needed to work on more dominant leading, as well as leading in a way that gets a girl out of her 'logical mind' and into a more seduction-friendly 'emotional mind'. I think those two concepts helped me to get the slay last night.
The Date
We met up at this cool bar in the city where I live to get cocktails. As I said before, she wasn't that hot so I definitely had a feeling of indifference towards her at the beginning. She could sense that I wasn't that interested in her, so I could see her working harder to keep the conversation going.
I tried to take advantage of her being the one to carry the conversation and tried to see how far I could take that. My only role at the beginning was the "thread director"--steering the conversation towards "sexual", "adventurous", or "judgement-free" topics.
I also did a few things to set the tone: I drew an imaginary line around us and said "this is a judgement free zone" whenever she would say something mildly contentious. I think this helped her open up.
Another thing that I did that Hector has advocated for is cursing, haha. It seems small, but I realized that I have never really cursed on a first date, which is pretty fucking stupid since I curse a lot with my buddies.
I could see she was thrown back by my cursing and she had to work up the courage herself to start cursing as well. Once I got her cursing as well the conversations got a lot more sexual and she would get more excited telling them because she didnt have to sensor her language.
Some specific examples of cursing would be to say "fucking" instead of "having sex" and "I dont give a shit" instead of "I dont care". The possibilities are endless
After about 45 minutes when I had my beer goggles on, lol, I decided it was time for me to move her. I then set this frame of us "going with the flow" and not being logical about tonight. This was very important for the seduction.
I took her to another cocktail bar with a sexy atmosphere and told her to go find us seats--she obliged. I also told her that she was buying this round of drinks
and she said "I owe you". Up until this point there really hadn't been any sexual escalation besides a couple instances of hand holding when we were sitting down. I would take both her hands and tell her we're having a staring contest. This was a good way to help her make eye contact with me since I think I was coming across as too high value for her.
I tried to close with a 'yes ladder' but I had no idea how it would go since I haven't had much luck with it lately. I said:
And that was that. We left the bar, got down to business, and then I booted out of there once my beer goggles had worn off, lol.
Cheers,
BigS
