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So there is this really hot blonde hair blue eyed girl who works in the same bldg I work at but for a different company. A few times a week we'd pass each other. What started as us being smile friends morphed into us being hi friends which turned into us saying "what's up?" or "how's it going?". Eventually all the hellos without introducing ourselves was wearing thin on me and I'm sure her as well. I have really good nite game, bar game but I'm never really "in state" or "in the zone" during day, and when we would bump into each other I'd have other stuff on my mind or be rushing to and from work.
But Thursday 8/27 I decided fuck this I don't wanna go another weekend not knowing her name at least, it's time to introduce. I see her Thursday and holy fuck she looked soooo fucking hot, like going from an 8 to a 9, she was wearing skin tight jeans and high heels which is a motherfucking weakness of mine. It took me back a bit and I just said hello. I felt bad about it and came here and read some articles and shit to get me pumped again. I see her Friday 8/28 and I was waiting by an elevator and with my back turned to her (but I knew she was coming up behind me) and she "accidentally" made a noise with her foot (think like stomping loud for one step) so I turned around and saw her and as she was passing by I felt my heart race fast and instead of saying to myself "my heart is racing fast cuz I'm nervous" I said "my heart is racing fast because I just got a blast of adrenaline and my testosterone is kicking in because I'm a fucking man and she's a woman" and I turned it into something positive and controlled my internal energy and I opened my mouth and said "hey what's your name?" as she was walking by me and she tells me her name (won't say her real name but it's one of those names that blonde California girls typically have like Amber/Tiffany, a very blonde girls name. As she told me her name she didn't stop and she starts to try to hide a smile and her face got flushed. Still walking she says "and you?" And I tell her my name. "Nice to meet you Amber/Tiffany" and she said it was nice to meet me, all without stopping. I think she was just used to me not talking to her that she was shocked and didn't know what to do, much like how I was shocked the day before when I saw her looking even HOTTER than usual. Doesn't matter, I said, ice has been broken.
I go back to work but took a half day vacation. So I decided to work out before going home (I work out at my gym located in my work's bldg 4x-5x a week). As I was working out I was looking fucking pumped, checking myself out in the mirror and telling myself "of course she likes you, you're a good looking guy, she's as nervous of you as you are of her." It's important to tell yourself these things, tell yourself these things so much it's ingrained in your head. This goes along very nicely with Chase's "Assume attraction". Of course she's attracted to you - you've built yourself up so much that it's only natural that every girl you interact with is attracted to you. Assume attraction starts with building your internal sense of self-worth first.
After my workout I didn't shower or get changed - I looked outstanding in my workout gear and was wearing a shirt with no sleeves so my fucking guns were cocked and loaded. I didn't this for one reason - on the tiny chance I saw her for a second time I wanted her to see my pumped in my workout gear. Well, it happened. We bumped into each other a second time. Longer convo this time, she was probably now properly tuned into the fact that she crossed into convo friends now. She was asking me lots of questions. Good sign. Wanted to know my nationality. Dominican/Italian I answered. Irish/Italian she replied. I told her a short story how I knew her name before I met her and she was engaged. I told her I used to think she looked like she was a cheerleader in high school so I assumed she had a cheerleader name like Amber, Tiffany, Britney. She got a kick out of that. I said ppl tend to look like their names. "You don't look like a Loretta," I said, "I don't look like my name is Larry". She agreed. She told me about her position, further small talk. I told her why I never introduced myself before and she said "I know, I was thinking to myself 'when is this dick gonna say something!'" and we laughed. She then made a comment about the weather - typical "I don't know what else to talk about" small talk topic so I knew I should begin the wrap up and be the first to initiate the goodbye so that I left her first and left the convo before the awkward pause/silence). I said "the weather is amazing, yeah, but too bad I feel like I smell cuz I just finished my workout". She said "you don't smell at all" and made it very obvious to check my arms out. We talked about working out so convo extended for another 2 mins. I then said good bye and grasped her hand and left. Lots of sexual tension. She's so hot.
I believe she has a daughter but is not married. You all know my situation so I won't repeat. Not sure how I should play it, I have a very cute observation I made about her when I saw her one day while she was with her daughter her I think she'd might like to hear but I'm sure at this point she may not want to talk about the elephant in the room, nor should we, we just started having real convos so it's probably too early to ask about her daughter and relationship status. Not sure how I'll tell her about mine. Nobody is perfect.
Whatever, the purpose of this FR is for all the nervous guys out there. Enjoy the small victories. Enjoy the first steps. The phone numbers will come, the make outs will happen, the lays are on the horizon. But it starts with "hello". Open your mouth and say it and let nature work its magic. You're a man, she's a woman. It's in our DNA to be attracted to each other so don't fight it.
But Thursday 8/27 I decided fuck this I don't wanna go another weekend not knowing her name at least, it's time to introduce. I see her Thursday and holy fuck she looked soooo fucking hot, like going from an 8 to a 9, she was wearing skin tight jeans and high heels which is a motherfucking weakness of mine. It took me back a bit and I just said hello. I felt bad about it and came here and read some articles and shit to get me pumped again. I see her Friday 8/28 and I was waiting by an elevator and with my back turned to her (but I knew she was coming up behind me) and she "accidentally" made a noise with her foot (think like stomping loud for one step) so I turned around and saw her and as she was passing by I felt my heart race fast and instead of saying to myself "my heart is racing fast cuz I'm nervous" I said "my heart is racing fast because I just got a blast of adrenaline and my testosterone is kicking in because I'm a fucking man and she's a woman" and I turned it into something positive and controlled my internal energy and I opened my mouth and said "hey what's your name?" as she was walking by me and she tells me her name (won't say her real name but it's one of those names that blonde California girls typically have like Amber/Tiffany, a very blonde girls name. As she told me her name she didn't stop and she starts to try to hide a smile and her face got flushed. Still walking she says "and you?" And I tell her my name. "Nice to meet you Amber/Tiffany" and she said it was nice to meet me, all without stopping. I think she was just used to me not talking to her that she was shocked and didn't know what to do, much like how I was shocked the day before when I saw her looking even HOTTER than usual. Doesn't matter, I said, ice has been broken.
I go back to work but took a half day vacation. So I decided to work out before going home (I work out at my gym located in my work's bldg 4x-5x a week). As I was working out I was looking fucking pumped, checking myself out in the mirror and telling myself "of course she likes you, you're a good looking guy, she's as nervous of you as you are of her." It's important to tell yourself these things, tell yourself these things so much it's ingrained in your head. This goes along very nicely with Chase's "Assume attraction". Of course she's attracted to you - you've built yourself up so much that it's only natural that every girl you interact with is attracted to you. Assume attraction starts with building your internal sense of self-worth first.
After my workout I didn't shower or get changed - I looked outstanding in my workout gear and was wearing a shirt with no sleeves so my fucking guns were cocked and loaded. I didn't this for one reason - on the tiny chance I saw her for a second time I wanted her to see my pumped in my workout gear. Well, it happened. We bumped into each other a second time. Longer convo this time, she was probably now properly tuned into the fact that she crossed into convo friends now. She was asking me lots of questions. Good sign. Wanted to know my nationality. Dominican/Italian I answered. Irish/Italian she replied. I told her a short story how I knew her name before I met her and she was engaged. I told her I used to think she looked like she was a cheerleader in high school so I assumed she had a cheerleader name like Amber, Tiffany, Britney. She got a kick out of that. I said ppl tend to look like their names. "You don't look like a Loretta," I said, "I don't look like my name is Larry". She agreed. She told me about her position, further small talk. I told her why I never introduced myself before and she said "I know, I was thinking to myself 'when is this dick gonna say something!'" and we laughed. She then made a comment about the weather - typical "I don't know what else to talk about" small talk topic so I knew I should begin the wrap up and be the first to initiate the goodbye so that I left her first and left the convo before the awkward pause/silence). I said "the weather is amazing, yeah, but too bad I feel like I smell cuz I just finished my workout". She said "you don't smell at all" and made it very obvious to check my arms out. We talked about working out so convo extended for another 2 mins. I then said good bye and grasped her hand and left. Lots of sexual tension. She's so hot.
I believe she has a daughter but is not married. You all know my situation so I won't repeat. Not sure how I should play it, I have a very cute observation I made about her when I saw her one day while she was with her daughter her I think she'd might like to hear but I'm sure at this point she may not want to talk about the elephant in the room, nor should we, we just started having real convos so it's probably too early to ask about her daughter and relationship status. Not sure how I'll tell her about mine. Nobody is perfect.
Whatever, the purpose of this FR is for all the nervous guys out there. Enjoy the small victories. Enjoy the first steps. The phone numbers will come, the make outs will happen, the lays are on the horizon. But it starts with "hello". Open your mouth and say it and let nature work its magic. You're a man, she's a woman. It's in our DNA to be attracted to each other so don't fight it.
