Occam's Razor. Usually the simplest explanation is the best one. And I find that to be true for most of seduction.
We overcomplicate things most of the time. Sure, having lots of experiences and encounters with women, and people in general for that matter, sharpens your social skills and intuitive sense in helping to read and react to different situations and personality types. But unless you've been living under a rock, most of us have a general sense of social awareness.
We know when a girl is interested, we know when we should make a move, etc. It's just that we tend to second guess ourselves if we haven't had success or enough successes to give us the self belief to act naturally and assuredly.
I used to read a lot of theory and game principles and all kinds of techniques and philosophies about pickup and seduction. But as of late, I've been less focused on the what to say and how to act, and more about how I feel and how I come across to women. It's fun to get girls laughing and doing gimmicky things to get visceral reactions, but it doesn't usually translate to results.
I'm no expert; I have many holes in my "game" and I don't know if I care to plug them all. But what I do know is that women touch me more often without me doing anything. They laugh at things I say without me trying to be funny. They give me eyes without having looked at them first. All I do is close the physical gap, make sexy and warm eye contact, and be a good listener. No techniques, no gimmicks, no frills. I don't need "game".
Do you know why?
It's because I've handled the basic, fundamental things about being attractive. Being comfortable in one's skin. Looking presentable and feeling good about myself and my self image. Walking smoothly, naturally, and exuding power and swagger. Being able to look at a woman with unwavering, gentle, yet sexy eye contact. Giving a smile she can ever so slightly perceive.
These are the things that most guys never really pay attention to. Most women put so much effort into their looks and appearances. Most men can't be bothered to wear a shirt that isn't wrinkled or laundered! Women pay attention to detail and they put in effort to their appearance not because they're shallow (although that can be the reason), but because they know that first impressions are dictated by looks.
If you took care of your style, your physique, your hygiene, your body language and mindset -- forgetting about game for one second -- you would have a much easier time meeting women.
The hardest part is getting out there and giving yourself opportunities to meet women. The rest is easy if you have a good eye for aesthetics and what women find attractive. If you don't know what looks good, make female friends, read style blogs, fashion magazines, watch movies of exemplary men who carry themselves well and emulate their body language and mindsets.
Game only works if you have the right fundamentals, the right mindset, and a healthy level of self-esteem.
We overcomplicate things most of the time. Sure, having lots of experiences and encounters with women, and people in general for that matter, sharpens your social skills and intuitive sense in helping to read and react to different situations and personality types. But unless you've been living under a rock, most of us have a general sense of social awareness.
We know when a girl is interested, we know when we should make a move, etc. It's just that we tend to second guess ourselves if we haven't had success or enough successes to give us the self belief to act naturally and assuredly.
I used to read a lot of theory and game principles and all kinds of techniques and philosophies about pickup and seduction. But as of late, I've been less focused on the what to say and how to act, and more about how I feel and how I come across to women. It's fun to get girls laughing and doing gimmicky things to get visceral reactions, but it doesn't usually translate to results.
I'm no expert; I have many holes in my "game" and I don't know if I care to plug them all. But what I do know is that women touch me more often without me doing anything. They laugh at things I say without me trying to be funny. They give me eyes without having looked at them first. All I do is close the physical gap, make sexy and warm eye contact, and be a good listener. No techniques, no gimmicks, no frills. I don't need "game".
Do you know why?
It's because I've handled the basic, fundamental things about being attractive. Being comfortable in one's skin. Looking presentable and feeling good about myself and my self image. Walking smoothly, naturally, and exuding power and swagger. Being able to look at a woman with unwavering, gentle, yet sexy eye contact. Giving a smile she can ever so slightly perceive.
These are the things that most guys never really pay attention to. Most women put so much effort into their looks and appearances. Most men can't be bothered to wear a shirt that isn't wrinkled or laundered! Women pay attention to detail and they put in effort to their appearance not because they're shallow (although that can be the reason), but because they know that first impressions are dictated by looks.
If you took care of your style, your physique, your hygiene, your body language and mindset -- forgetting about game for one second -- you would have a much easier time meeting women.
The hardest part is getting out there and giving yourself opportunities to meet women. The rest is easy if you have a good eye for aesthetics and what women find attractive. If you don't know what looks good, make female friends, read style blogs, fashion magazines, watch movies of exemplary men who carry themselves well and emulate their body language and mindsets.
Game only works if you have the right fundamentals, the right mindset, and a healthy level of self-esteem.
