There is a girl at my work who I’m interested in. I’ve had a ‘don’t date at work rule’ for a while,but have relaxed that if I don't work directly with her. I normally go to the pub with colleagues on a Friday, so I see her at there quite often. Like most people I know, I’ve tended to keep conversations quite superficial as I’m don’t tend to open up to many people. I was quite good friends with her friend, so we would also have lunch together occasionally. About a month a go, quite a few times during the week, she would message me asking if I wanted to go for a drink. However, she would also occasionally invite other people. I have been on dates with other people during this time, and she had a boyfriend up until 4-6 weeks ago
Tuesday just gone, I asked her if she fancied a quick drink after work. She said yes, but then said she had already asked another mutual friend if they fancied a drink. But I knew they were going to a concert later that night. Then a socially inept guy I worked with walked by, and ended up staying for like 2 hours, so at this point, I’m thinking I’m never going to hook up with this chick. Fortunately, when we sat inside, I managed to arrange it so that I was sitting on a sofa, quite close to the girl, and he made comments about us being a couple. Eventually he left, and she agreed to another drink, even though she had told her sister she would be home way earlier. We continued getting to know each other, and we were quite touchy, and were talking about sexual topics . Eventually we got kicked out of the pub, and we then started play fighting, hitting each other with gloves as we walked to the station.. At this point I knew I should’ve gone for the kiss. We got to tube station, and I was mentally preparing myself to lean in, and then her train arrived, so she quickly hugged me, and ran for it. We had a brief flirty text exchange after about leather gloves and whips.
So I messaged her on Thursday asking if she fancied going to a wine bar on Friday (a wine bar she knows I take girls on dates to). I had it all planned, as we are a bit fucked logistically, because we both live 40 min train rides away from London, but her to the west, and me to the east. I figured we would continue getting to know each other and flirting, and then go for a walk, where we would go past a park, which I planned to go to take her into and then sleep with her, following Chases article on logistics. Anyway, see the text exchange below.
http://imgur.com/rR3ilXj
http://imgur.com/TTDfNYx
http://imgur.com/s5Dx6u6
http://imgur.com/2tmG4jP
Wasn’t sure where to go next. Should I ask her out, and actually specify it as a date? I feel like I've shown I'm interested in her sexually. I followed Chases template by being informal about it, figuring that we had been flirty and sexual enough that she would get it. But the way things are going, I don’t see a time when I’m going to be able to get her on her own for a whole night, unless I specifically say it’s a date.
Tuesday just gone, I asked her if she fancied a quick drink after work. She said yes, but then said she had already asked another mutual friend if they fancied a drink. But I knew they were going to a concert later that night. Then a socially inept guy I worked with walked by, and ended up staying for like 2 hours, so at this point, I’m thinking I’m never going to hook up with this chick. Fortunately, when we sat inside, I managed to arrange it so that I was sitting on a sofa, quite close to the girl, and he made comments about us being a couple. Eventually he left, and she agreed to another drink, even though she had told her sister she would be home way earlier. We continued getting to know each other, and we were quite touchy, and were talking about sexual topics . Eventually we got kicked out of the pub, and we then started play fighting, hitting each other with gloves as we walked to the station.. At this point I knew I should’ve gone for the kiss. We got to tube station, and I was mentally preparing myself to lean in, and then her train arrived, so she quickly hugged me, and ran for it. We had a brief flirty text exchange after about leather gloves and whips.
So I messaged her on Thursday asking if she fancied going to a wine bar on Friday (a wine bar she knows I take girls on dates to). I had it all planned, as we are a bit fucked logistically, because we both live 40 min train rides away from London, but her to the west, and me to the east. I figured we would continue getting to know each other and flirting, and then go for a walk, where we would go past a park, which I planned to go to take her into and then sleep with her, following Chases article on logistics. Anyway, see the text exchange below.
http://imgur.com/rR3ilXj
http://imgur.com/TTDfNYx
http://imgur.com/s5Dx6u6
http://imgur.com/2tmG4jP
Wasn’t sure where to go next. Should I ask her out, and actually specify it as a date? I feel like I've shown I'm interested in her sexually. I followed Chases template by being informal about it, figuring that we had been flirty and sexual enough that she would get it. But the way things are going, I don’t see a time when I’m going to be able to get her on her own for a whole night, unless I specifically say it’s a date.
