Keeping direct opens low pressure ...

[Spyce D]

Today , I just saw a video of a guy ( I know ) who direct opened this waitress in a tiny restaurant while she was working .. I think just after she was taking order...and there were people just sitting next to them on tables ....

the waitress was a bit nervous and the video ended just after she said thankyou and they both shook hands formally ...not like a handclasp .

Those guys would run behind chicks to open them , be too loud , preaching social freedom and shit , one guy I went to wing with nearly got be in trouble in the mall cuz of how uncalibrated he was .


Maybe ... I am wrong in my assessment but I don't think it's a right way to approach chicks where they feel a lot of pressure .


and as these days ...I prefer to go direct ...I am focusing on making it low pressure on chicks .

By taking pauses , speaking in a relaxed voice , having a relaxed body language.. Not opening chicks who are in a hurry or if they are on the job .

Would love to know about your opinion on how can I make direct opens low pressure for chicks ?

 

[Destiny]

Properly opening direct is more about vibe than words, catch her attention first, slow down, be friendly but don't jump on her like an overexcited puppy.

Slowing down is most of the strength of the pacing direct opener "hey, I saw you walking by and I thought to myself...", give her time to take in your vibe and calm down or she'll just clam up.

Speak to her like you're old friends right from the open.

 

[James D]

I'd avoid these videos altogether, they're almost never good and meant to be sensational to gather more views.

Would love to know about your opinion on how can I make direct opens low pressure for chicks ?

Approaches should always be low pressure, for sure.

A good place to start is to try to gauge her comfort level once you've approached.

Watch her body positioning- is she turning her body away from you or not.

Adjust your body positioning- don't directly face her too early on like you're cornering her.

Give her an out always.

Close in the distance between you when you feel she's comfortable. If you can sense discomfort, don't rush too get closer.

And for direct openers, it's important to deliver the compliment with no expectation of any reaction from her.

What I've seen guys do is they learn about direct openers and are hyped to try it, thinking that if they have the balls to directly express interest in a girl, she will reciprocate.

So they compliment from a reaction seeking point of view, which girls can usually feel and it adds pressure.

one guy I went to wing with nearly got be in trouble in the mall cuz of how uncalibrated he was .

Perhaps you may consider avoiding approaching with this guy. Nearly getting into trouble in the mall for approaching is some serious lack of calibration.

 

[James D]

Speak to her like you're old friends right from the open.

This ++++1

 

[Spyce D]

Perhaps you may consider avoiding approaching with this guy. Nearly getting into trouble in the mall for approaching is some serious lack of calibration.

I left the mall ....that time only ....never talked with him ever since

 

[Spyce D]

Slowing down is most of the strength of the pacing direct opener "hey, I saw you walking by and I thought to myself...", give her time to take in your vibe and calm down or she'll just clam up.

Yes I do slow down ...and it has helped me .... Stop nearly all the chicks that I have opened.

I have had a few chicks smile even at " I just saw you part " Because I was speaking in a relaxed way . And not in dancing monkey way .

Currently, I am focused on improving my mid game , verbals and getting more conversations ( atleast of 3 minutes )