keeping options open and being faithful

[African Boyo]

Is it possible to keep your options open and still be faithful.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

I would say yes

i would just open girls talk to them practice your conversation skills etc. without taking them home and fking them

You could build a good reputation in your social group with the other ladies as long as your not going out and getting gobbies or having sex with them i would say your being faithful.

if your in relationship i find you can plant seeds (a term used for create interest) easier because women find men in relationships attractive

 

[African Boyo]

Yeah i agree with that approach but does that build an abundance mentality like actually sleeping with other women. Im asking this question bcoz as a relationship progresses i find that i lose my abundance mentality and start getting super insecure over minor things which kills attraction. Im looking for a method that would restore amd maintan that abundance mentality while also not cheating

 

[Marty]

Boyo,

Have you ever actually promised "fidelity" to her?

If so, then, next time, don't.

There you have your answer.

-Marty

 

[Mr. oblivious]

Boyo,

Have you ever actually promised "fidelity" to her?


-Marty

i just always thought that was assumed.

I think you have to tell her before you get into the relationship that your will be fking people not the other way round (start fucking people and then tell her you never promised fidelity)

 

[Franco]

African Boyo,

When you're in a long-term relationship with a girlfriend, it can be hard to keep an abundance mentality because, for obvious reasons, you probably feel much more strongly about this girl than you do girls that you didn't want a LTR with. Abundance mentality is just about your ability to realize that there are plenty of women to sleep with, but the ability to know that there are plenty of other girlfriend-worthy women out there so that you never get needy with your current girlfriend is known as absolute abundance.

When you have absolute abundance, it helps you run your relationships from a non-needy standpoint since you know that you are capable of replacing her with another woman of the same (or greater) value. Feel free to check out my post, Abundance Mentality - When You Know You Have it, for some of my personal thoughts on abundance also. =)

- Franco