Kiss-close then can't get to a second date

[Anonymous]

So I went on a date on a Saturday, which was in a little Mediterranean restaurant, we had some wine and appetizers, and had a short walk afterwards. At the end of the date, when we were saying goodbye, she said she "enjoyed herself immensely", then I just touched her hair, smiled, and said "I really like you" (which I believe might be a mistake) and kiss-closed her (she actually leaned towards me first).

I dropped a funny text message the next day, and then tried to call her on Wednesday (no communication between us Saturday till Wednesday). To my amazement, she responded "Who is calling?" and then the call dropped. Now, I've never called her before, so she may not be able to recognise my voice, but she may also have deleted my number (?!). I sent her a text to ask her if she has bad reception. The next day I got a facebook message that her phone was dodgy and she got my text this morning (Thursday). In my reply I threw a joke about technology like it was not a big deal, and then told her directly that I want to see her the coming weekend. I was expecting her to accept, but she said she's really sorry and that she had a lot to study and catch up (not sure whether to believe that or not). At the end, she said "Hopefully catch up soon though". My reply was simply "Don't worry, I completely understand. Good luck with your uni work, and don't study too hard ". I deliberately didn't suggest another date, because I don't want to look or sound needy.

On Friday I went to the pub and saw her flatmate, and just told her to say hello to her from me. Nothing more.

So the question is - what to do now? Would you guys think it will be better not to contact her again, and wait for her to make a move (to see if she's interested at all) or try to arrange another date for this weekend? Also Valentine's Day is coming this Thursday - should I drop her a funny/cocky message, try to arrange a date, or do nothing? I am confused because after the kiss-close I thought I've done a great job and the girl is mine, but now time is passing and nothing is happening, which is not great.

Thanks for reading all this stuff and sorry if there are any mistakes (English is not my first language). Any comments are appreciated! Thanks in advance.

 

[Garrett]

Re: FR+ then not getting second date

Aeon,

I don't want to make you feel bad in any way and want to help. With that being said, you pretty much did everything wrong.

Her saying she had to study was an excuse, if she wanted to see you, she would have. Don't take girls out for dinner, don't pay for their dinner, don't buy girls drinks upfront, I could go on for ages. I suggest you read the blog man, because you basically did everything that a nice guy would do. She was clearly interested, you didn't close.

Next time, take the girl out to like a coffee shop, get to know her through deep diving, use texting only to set up meets, have sex with her on the first date, kiss her within 10 minutes of having her over. My post here is really disorganized because there is so much to cover. Read through some posts on girls chase, if not, all of them and you'll really get why the girl flaked on you. She's lost interest, but you're not out. Don't text her on Valentines at all, don't contact her or do anything for her that day. Wait a few days after then get her out for coffee using Chase's texting advice to get her out, then grab a coffee (pay if you want, it depends on the situation), and then take her out and sleep with her and make her your lover!

All the best,
Garrett

 

[Franco]

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